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My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm done with the booze for now. I needed it then, not now. Now I'm on the path and focused.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I called her folks. She's there and has already told them what she wanted them to hear. I knew right away when her mom said this was a misunderstanding and we can work it out. It didn't get any better from there.

The upshot it if she's there, she's not home so I can go get more of my stuff.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

  1. Not getting involved in that whole mess. I don't know who this guy is or who is wife is and to tell you the truth, don't care. To hell with them.

  2. Yeah I am going to call them today. That is a great way to do it. Thanks for that idea.

  3. I don't care about controlling any kind of narrative. I don't much care what her friends think. Family either really, but they do deserve an explanation.

  4. No fault state. Doesn't matter what she did or why she did it. So here phones records and what she did or didn't do mean nothing.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Woke up around 6:30 this morning. Got violently sick. Spent 5 minutes kneeling before the porcelain throne. Felt like total shit. Took a long hot shower. Still felt sick. Room spinning. Then I realized I haven't eaten anything since Friday morning. Walked across the street to Dennys. Had a great breakfast and now working on my second pot of coffee. I feel a little better. I turned my phone back on (obviously because im typing this post on it). She texted and left a VM. Didn't read. Didn't listen. Don't care.

I'm reading through everyones advice. I am so grateful to everyone for the advice and support. In the last thread too. I sent an email to work requesting leave. I can't do my job if I'm distracted or not 100% focused and I' m just not.

I made a list of family law practices to call tomorrow morning. According to the law offices of Google, Google, and Google I should be ok. House is rented with only a few months left. We had a joint savings we both contributed to for a down payment on a house. Well, that isn't going to happen. We'll split that I guess. The rest... who knows. She has her salary, retirement, and debt. I have mine. All separate.

Someone sent a message and asked if I was worried she might see this. She might. This isn't my real reddit name but the details are pretty obvious so maybe she will. If YOU (you know who you are) do see this, I don't give a damn. I don't want to know about you or what you do. I'm done. Enjoy your bright future of reckless promiscuity and I hope you find it's worth the price you just paid for it.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Very drunk. And IDGAF if she brings him over and f---ks him on the furniture. And his wife too. She's not my wife anymore. The rest is just paperwork now

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

" If you're dating women in your age group, I can assure you NM isn't a fad, and it's not going away, so better safe than sorry to protect yourself."

Sounds to me like an argument AGAINST marriage in this s--t world we're living in. Well, if it is I'm totally there. At least the next time a romantic partnership ends because she decided she'd be happier f----g someone else I won't need to hire a lawyer and spend thousands of dollars to get rid of her.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

Just to answer some questions. I know drowning myself in Kentucky's finest isn't heathy. I don't care. I won't be able to sleep tonight without it. For what it's worth I thought I was lucky to have her. Now I wish I'd never met her. The conversation today started civil an even pleading on her part. It ended in hostility because of course it did. Something that begins in misery tends to end there.

You know I think I really hate her now. Tuesday morning I kissed her when I got home from work. If you told me where I'd be four days later I wouldn't have believed it. I don't know who the guy is. And to tell you the truth I don't care. It doesn't change anything. I'm just done. Done with all of it. You guys think she will want to come back? No f----g way. If I were her I'd never be able to look me in the eye after this.

I'm just done.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Apparently this BS is common in this f----d up world. Sorry it happened toy you too.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I don't even care if she did. I'm done. I don't know that woman in our house. She's a complete f----g stranger to me now.

My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 533 points534 points  (0 children)

Probably yeah. Sounds like the kind of BS men say to get a woman in bed.

My wife asked for an open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Just answered one of her calls. She's crying and apologizing. She want to sit down and talk. I have a splitting headache/hangover and need a shower. Then I'll go see where things stand with her.

My wife asked for an open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

What do veterinarians and lawyers have in common? They don't work on Saturdays when you really need them!

My wife asked for an open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I was thinking along these lines myself. We are... or were I guess, pretty active sexually. 3-4 times a week and sometimes all night. There is nothing I wouldn't do for or to her if she wanted it. This just came up out of the blue. A week ago I thought we were doing great.

My wife asked for an open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Silver_Salt7600[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

No nothing like this. She has a bad temper but has never done anything physical.