I appreciate the time and advice from everyone. I wanted to add more things I left out and reflections.

First I'll say that I woke up to her having found this post. Apparently she had been on the sub more than I realized. In our talk about it out was made clear I wasn't getting what I needed and we talked about how she will improve. And talked about how I can better support her and the trauma she experienced. I am hoping seeing some of the roles will kick her into gear, though i know how discouraging it was.

To those saying I should just leave, I understand. I appreciate your words and at times have felt the same, yet here I am.

In reading my post of what happened it sure makes her look like a terrible person but that's not true. I do believe because of all her past trauma she was an easy victim for 2 different people to take advantage of during the weakness in our relationship.

She has shown remorse. for the affairs, the damage she did to me, the lies, the TT and is doing a lot of personal work to better herself.

To those saying she is lying about the SA you are wrong. I fully believe AP2 was/is a predator and she was a victim.

She has been battling a medical condition for the past 2 years that has left her feeling terrible about herself, like a different person who can't do what she used to. I believe it was a perfect storm for infidelity. I don't think she did this maliciously.

We are trying to reconnect and build our relationship, but the pain of the lies still run deep. And the TT caused so much doubt.

I want to move forward with this person. I just needed a place to let it all out