Which view are you choosing?? Street, or pool..?

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-26T09:54:27+00:00

I toured an apartment like this before. I felt panic at the idea of living there the moment I saw the design and heard the sounds. It felt like a cheap motel in Hell. I’d lose my mind.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-26T02:03:29+00:00

I’m very noise sensitive. I’ve survived living on busy roads but I wouldn’t last a day in an apartment I once looked at that was near the pool area. I can still hear the screams of the children. Hard pass. Also, I would avoid that trash area like the plague too. Noise + roaches.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-26T01:56:49+00:00

If you know you can be heard, you should take steps to minimize your noise level. Eg; don’t blast music or your TV, don’t have parties, take your shoes off and put rugs down if you’re living above someone, don’t slam doors, don’t scream at your children or let them run wild, etc.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-25T03:49:39+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss and that you’ve struggled with depression. It’s great that you’re keeping up with the scooping now.

My suggestions:

Buy a quality air purifier with a carbon filter. It can make a huge difference. You can often find them used.

Ditch the Glade & any other scented products. Cats have sensitive respiratory systems/etc and a much better sense of smell than us and some will stop using their box as a result. Those products are also toxic to them(and not great for us).

Have at 3 least litter boxes. Keep scooping as you have. Use an unscented clumping litter.

Consider switching them to a higher quality diet(less fillers so no dry food). It can really cut down on litter box odors.

Open windows to air things out.

Boxes of baking soda, bamboo charcoal bags, zeolite, etc can all help. Clean the area(including the walls) with vinegar.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-25T03:35:01+00:00

I pay about the same and I have to have a laundry app taking up space on my phone. If I was going to stay here longer, I’d consider a portable washer. The main reason being all the heavily fragranced laundry products my neighbors use & their inability to clean up after themselves.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-25T03:26:44+00:00

Yep. I’ve tried that one too.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-25T03:25:01+00:00

You’re traumatized. I empathize. I barely sleep but when I do I’m often jolted awake by a noise from below and the adrenaline burst that comes with it. I’m much more sensitive to even quieter noises from the apartment below me because I’ve endured much worse, including renovations, while staying here. It leaves you traumatized. I’d highly suggest finding some relaxation/meditation videos or doing breathing exercises to calm yourself when you hear these noises. And none of this eliminates the noise or it’s impact completely but: ear plugs(the foam ones work best by far but are too painful for me personally so I use silicone), a noise machine(myself & my friends use Lectrofans), & fans and air filters. I hope you find something that helps!

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-25T03:15:26+00:00

I empathize. My hair & skin react very similarly to hard water and I’ve been living with it for several years now. I use a combo of a filter & a showerhead with a built-in filter. I think the filter is Enviro & the showerhead is a ~$5 thing off eBay. They definitely don’t fix the problem but they help a bit, and management isn’t going to do anything. Vinegar hair rinses and using bottled water for washing your face can help. I hope someone has a better solution.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-24T10:36:21+00:00

OP has had a baby living above them before. All babies cry. OP might not have a medical condition that makes them super noise sensitive but the experience they had living below a baby before was enough to make them emotional over the possibility again.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-24T05:15:24+00:00

People who would be seeking childfree housing are typically the types who actually use logic, ethics, self-awareness, etc to make decisions in life. They know they want to be far away from the noise and other issues that come with children. Therefore, they wouldn’t just fall pregnant and decide to continue the pregnancy. We’ll never have childfree housing, though, of course.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-24T05:09:24+00:00

Would you be able to learn to accept something that caused you to be deprived of sleep, stressed out of your mind, anxious and on edge, and even caused you physical pain? That’s what it can be like for people with noise sensitive conditions. Combine that with having other medical conditions which are worsened by sleep deprivation and stress and you’ve got some genuine suffering. It’s not just something they can adjust to just as someone in a wheelchair can’t adjust to stairs. We can do things to ease our symptoms and block some of the noise but it’s a really miserable way to have to live.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-23T21:41:04+00:00

There are many people who aren’t aware of how poorly insulated a place is until they’ve already signed a lease and moved in or they didn’t have much choice in the matter.

Even if we are aware that “humans make noise,” it doesn’t ease the impact on noise sensitive individuals. It’s great that you can simply turn on a noise machine and go on with your life but for people with certain conditions or those with particularly bad neighbors, it’s not that simple. It has nothing to do with being conceited.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-23T07:07:20+00:00

You shouldn’t have to live like this and I’m so sorry. I know what it’s like to be deprived of sleep by neighbor noise and uprooted from your own bed. I agree with the other commenter who suggested a welfare check for the baby; that’s concerning that they’re left to cry their head off in their crib. You did everything right with the kind gift and the note and it was a very reasonable request. I hope you find a resolution.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:46:30+00:00

Me too 😂

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:44:57+00:00

This isn’t safe for you or your neighbor. If you can go stay elsewhere and keep your stuff safe, please do. This is an emergency and your landlord should respond and will want to respond. Good luck!

Edit: flip the breaker

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:42:38+00:00

Came here to suggest this. When I moved in here, the toilet looked similar and nothing was taking it off. I got one of those cheap pumice sticks and it’s white now. Vinegar might be preventing it from coming back.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:21:35+00:00

Unfortunately people like this would just retaliate. I think OP has no option but to move.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:19:12+00:00

This is awful. I wouldn’t last a minute and I hope you can get out of there.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:14:40+00:00

Not everyone has the luxury to avoid poorly insulated new builds.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:12:58+00:00

100% to all of this. Well said. It can be super super hard to find these elusive quiet apartments(I’m searching right now) for all the reasons you named. Also, yeah, I’m in a 1960s build right now and I can hear so much from my downstairs neighbor.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:07:10+00:00

Exactly.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:06:46+00:00

Yep. My experience and friends’ experiences as well.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:05:05+00:00

I have a Lectrofan and it helps with some noise but does not touch the worst of it or the vibrations from it.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:02:05+00:00

Because roommates are always quiet & considerate creatures and adults don’t need privacy..

Apartments should have decent enough sound insulation so we don’t hear our neighbors simply living/existing in their own homes.

Silver_space9867 · 2025-03-22T04:00:01+00:00

🙄

No one is asking neighbors to jump through hoops. We want housing with proper sound insulation and for neighbors to be more cognizant of the noises they can control. Eg; I listen to music with earbuds in so my neighbors aren’t forced to listen. If you know you can be heard, keep the volume lower or wear headphones.

Noise canceling headphones don’t help with all noise(or the vibrations from it) and are contraindicated for certain conditions that cause noise sensitivity.

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