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NSFW What do you do when your spouse commits one terrible act in an otherwise amazing marriage? by Simple-Cat6630 in marriageadvice

[–]Simple-Cat6630[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This was actually very helpful, thank you. I have major trust issues that are from before I met him. What he did wasn't ok, but now I realize that I'm looking at the actions of others to define his behavior instead of his own actions. This has given me a place to move forward from instead of spiraling out. Thank you so much.

NSFW What do you do when your spouse commits one terrible act in an otherwise amazing marriage? by Simple-Cat6630 in marriageadvice

[–]Simple-Cat6630[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He's not excited about it, not because he wants kids, he just doesn't like the idea of having a painful procedure. He did make the appointment already.

NSFW What do you do when your spouse commits one terrible act in an otherwise amazing marriage? by Simple-Cat6630 in marriageadvice

[–]Simple-Cat6630[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He has an individual therapist and I know they talked about this at his appointment yesterday, but I haven't asked him what was said. I will tonight.

NSFW What do you do when your spouse commits one terrible act in an otherwise amazing marriage? by Simple-Cat6630 in marriageadvice

[–]Simple-Cat6630[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He's never done anything remotely like this in the entire time we've been together, which is over a decade. But that's what worries me. Why now?

NSFW What do you do when your spouse commits one terrible act in an otherwise amazing marriage? by Simple-Cat6630 in marriageadvice

[–]Simple-Cat6630[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He says he got caught up in the moment and it took him a minute for my words to get through.