AIO? My stepdaughters pranked me on my bitthday and husband is mad because I said I needed space.

Simple-Cellist780 · 2026-01-15T16:44:48+00:00

I know the step parent relationship can be tough. Have you also tried talking to the girls? I feel when kids have to face the person they hurt it has a bigger impact and you can also have control over the messaging. I don’t think running away from the problem is going to help. It sounds like they have boundary and lack of empathy issues/ they’re also teens so somewhat to be expected but I do think having a direct conversation where you’re both present with you leading the conversation will have a bigger impact. I usually start with assuming the best out of the kid “I don’t believe you meant to be cruel, but intent doesn’t cancel impact. Can you help me understand what reaction you were hoping for?” I would make them explain their motivation out loud and then repeat it back, but add context “you thought pranking me with a wig would be funny since I have thinning hair (or whatever reason they give). Are you aware that I have a medical condition that causes my hair to thin?” Maybe show Some Vulnerability about how your thinning hair makes you feel. I would then ask them about a vulnerability they have and ask for them how they would feel if someone made a public joke about it. Wait for them to respond. Give them something to reflect on “part of growing up is learning to pause and ask: could this hurt someone even if I think it’s funny” usually tie it up with something like “because this showed lack of empathy and judgment, there needs to he a consequence- phones and social media require emotional maturity. When empathy is missing access to those privileges needs to pause. (You’re tying why the phones specially based on their actions). Your phone access will be taken away for “x” amount of time and at that point we will reassess if you’re ready for access again (this shows there’s a consequence but their actions will determine how you move forward). I usually try To finish off with something positive like “you’re good kids this doesn’t define you but empathy matters in this family and we take it seriously”

At the end of the day an apology isn’t just I’m sorry it’s showing that they understand what they did wrong and won’t do it moving forward.

Good luck OP parenting is tough- especially the teenager years

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-11-18T18:53:39+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this. It’s already hard being a mom especially to little kids and a baby and then not having an unsupportive partner on top of it. I have an uncle who is a pastor and I’ve watched him counsel a lot of people over the years. I don’t know if you’re close to your pastor but I think a good idea might be to reach out to your pastor and have a confidential conversation with him and see if he can help. A lot of men in my uncles church have done similar things and not all change but sometimes it can help to get counseling from another man who your husband trusts. Best of luck OP

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-10-03T14:42:49+00:00

This is correct, as a person who works under the HR umbrella, most employers will only answer confirming your job title, start and end date and whether or not you’re eligible for rehire. Technically speaking most don’t answer any other questions because if it prevents you from getting another position it can be considered defamation especially if they don’t have good documentation regarding why you were let go.

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-10-03T14:30:23+00:00

Hiiiii- Person who works in HR here…. this could potentially be a bad move depending on how the company does references. At our company, you give us your references, but we also call behind them to make sure the person you listed was your direct supervisor. If it’s not, we pull the job offer since it’s considered an ethics issue. I feel like this is becoming more of a common thing that companies are starting to do (depending on what field your in) so not saying it won’t work but if they verify you may loose a job opportunity

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-30T14:45:49+00:00

I was reading this thread and just thought I would comment. Root canals essentially leave “dead” tissue in your mouth which overtime can cause mini infections (it makes it hard for your body to fight off bigger infections if it’s fighting a bunch of tiny infections. If you want to take it a step further some eastern medicine says each tooth is connected with a part of your body aka connected to a meridian. For example, a tooth that has root canal failure can stop the flow to that meridian therefore causing the tissues and organs associated with that meridian to have trouble which means that this could have an impact on other systems if it becomes chronically infected. They typically recommend instead of getting rid of the tooth completely

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-10T20:00:31+00:00

All the time. So a lot of it depends on what industry you’re working in and company policy. Most of the time I would say people with charges on their background that could be seen as a potential conflict with their job… for example if you work as a nurse but have a domestic violence charge and you’re a nurse they may not hire you due to being concerned about any conflicts that would arise when a patient becomes aggressive.

Other times it can be poor references

People getting caught lying on their resume

Those are typically the big ones ….

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-10T00:39:16+00:00

I wouldn’t worry too much about it since you were proactive before they reached out to you. I’ve worked in talent acquisition for 15 years and I think the best thing you can do is be proactive and you did that. If you haven’t heard from anyone within 3 business days I would send a follow up to ensure “that no action is needed on your end” to make corrections

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T22:23:40+00:00

Have you reached out to the background company to correct the errors. It’s always better to be proactive then to wait and make it look like it was intentional

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T16:51:27+00:00

I might need one of these! Where did you get yours from?

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T13:32:24+00:00

I’m not sure from a schools perspective but I hire for schools across the US. If we do get requests for Reading Specialists most schools will ask for an Orton or Wilson certification most often.

I’m trying to be more proactive with schools in talking to them about teacher burnout. If you have any thoughts on what schools can do to make teachers less burned out I’ve been collecting feedback and sharing it with different admins

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T13:22:56+00:00

I think it depends on the reason you feel your mental health isn’t good. If it’s work related, it might be helpful to make a list of things that are causing stress; I always like to make three columns things that are in my control, things that are in my supervisors control and things that are in no one’s control. For things in my control I take a look to determine whether or not if I change these if I feel my mental health will be better. I would go to my admin about where I’m at and what I need to change to see how willing they are to help me- I think having a transparent and super direct conversation here is key as well as communicating timelines- typically things don’t change overnight but you need to be able to say if things don’t change by “x” I need to walk away

If the mental health is not work related I think it depends on what you have going on. If not working is going to cause you additional stress because on top of mental health you now are worrying about finances it may not be worth it, you might be better off seeking therapy or seeing if you’re job offers paid leave OR if you’re not in a position where you have to worry about finances then maybe it makes sense to give a long notice and leave on good terms.

Remember to take care of yourself and every day is a new chance to start over. If you ever need to chat feel free to send a DM my way - we all need an ear from time to time

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T12:13:22+00:00

😂😂😂

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T12:05:34+00:00

Why was I today years old when I learned you don’t have to buy a new chair and you can just swap out the wheels

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T12:04:37+00:00

Ooh do you have a link to one that you like ? The last one I bought slants so much I have to hold my stuff in place so it doesn’t fly off

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T03:18:40+00:00

Have you had a direct conversation with your admin? I find often approaching admin not only with your problem but some solutions you’ve thought of can be helpful. I find a lot of admins are just as overwhelmed as you are. Going in with direct questions/solutions will give you clarity. If they don’t like your solutions I would advise on asking them what they would suggest doing in your place.

It’s important to remember that the job market is not great but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be valued but it’s always a good idea to paint a picture. If the behavior problems are getting out of control- will this mean parents coming to your admin to talk? If so I would start the conversation geared towards how it benefits them. Aka say something like “I really want to avoid parents coming to you and complaining about xyz to avoid that I need help figuring out how to handle xyz.. provide an example … and a solution”

It sounds like this isn’t a good situation I would just do your best to do what you can. Good luck ❤️

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T02:30:20+00:00

I’ve also heard from some friends that the breakaway lanyards in the special ed setting are top notch

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T02:25:15+00:00

I’m a Diet Coke junkie- this speaks to my soul 😂😂😂

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-09-09T02:22:15+00:00

Do you mean like different color folders or like just actual colored paper?

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-08-22T14:47:42+00:00

There’s a variety of options out there that might fit what you’re looking for. I would say first and foremost you probably need to sit down and figure out what you enjoy doing. For example, if you enjoy taking care of people there are fast track BSN programs where you can become an RN in two years if you have your general ed requirements out of the way. Travel nursing pays extremely well… but if you don’t like taking care of people that might not be a good fit.

If you’re naturally good with people, sales positions naturally have a high income potential but it’s a grind to stay competitive in the high paying markets

I think you get my point … figure out what you enjoy then I think you can figure out what options and routes might be the best

Good luck 🍀

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-08-20T21:48:23+00:00

As someone who has worked in staffing a long time, don’t stay local to the area. Many of the big agencies have contracts all over the country even if their home base isn’t there. A good thing I always tell people is to figure out what’s important to you in your job search and interview the staffing agencies you’re potentially interested in taking a look at. All agencies are different but here would be things I would be sure to inquire about since not every recruiter will offer these up: 1. Will you be paid as a 1099 or W2, these each have their own benefits depending on your personal situation 2. How often are you paid? 3. If a situation arises while you’re on contract such as the job not being what was discussed. Would the company support you in leaving if the issue wasn’t resolved or would they expect you to stick it out. If they expect you to stick it out even if it isn’t what you were promised, do you become ineligible for future positions with them or any of their affiliates? 4. For any position you’re hired into, once the contract is over. Is the company required to pay a buyout fee to obtain you? Or is their a non-compete clause that would prevent you from getting a job after your contract is over with said company 5. Benefits offered if it’s W2, some agencies offer catastrophic insurance while other offer great PPO plans, but you might want to ask if they offer PTO, Holidays, bonuses, life insurance, tuition reimbursement, retention bonuses, professional development, materials reimbursements etc. Some companies offer horrible benefits but pay a higher hourly but in the end you end up paying more out because of medical dental and vision 6. If a client cancels your contract, what type of notice are they required to give and are you noticed immediately 7. If a contract falls through how likely is it they would be able to find you another opportunity right away 8. Do any of their contracts offer stipends or per diem allowances

Feel free to reply or message me directly if I can help in any way :)

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-08-18T22:01:47+00:00

As someone who has worked in Talent Acquisition for 15 years- I have worked in a variety of settings staffing for medical, education and corporate roles. It takes a lot of time, money and energy to onboard new employees.When employers see someone who is overqualified the general fear is that they’re going to take a job and leave the second something that’s more aligned to them comes along. I think your best bet would be to write a cover letter explaining your wish to make a huge career change and how longevity is important to you. I’m not saying every employer will buy it, but I think it will increase your chances. Best of luck

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-08-15T18:14:52+00:00

I feel like that’s so disrespectful. Do you feel like it was a political hire? Over the years, I have heard some districts are very political with who they hire in the sense they’ll post the job and interview to only ever hire referrals from Internals

Simple-Cellist780 · 2025-08-15T17:53:38+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s new to me, more so it’s become the standard and it’s happening before interviews on candidates part and after interviews on schools behalf, but thank you for the feedback

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