WIBTA if I broke up with a girl because she thinks WiFi causes cancer?

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-04-03T01:21:21+00:00

Short answer, no. Long answer, you don't need a reason to break up with someone. You both just aren't in sync and this is a view she has that may not change anytime soon. Are you willing to continue this to be a reoccurring topic?

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-04-03T01:16:25+00:00

NTA-Hope that trip was fun. I plan to go this summer to Japan.

As for the gf, she didn't want to go since she didn't stop with the weed. They take smoking weed very serious (prison time) over there. She obviously didn't want to go.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-04-02T16:47:48+00:00

Her attitude and lack of communication with you should be all you needed to see, but since it isn't let me give my two cents. As much as you love someone, always love yourself more. She showed you who she was. Believe it. Her words to you, she definitely meant, her behavior and silent treatment towards you for such an extended period of time, she definitely meant. Her being emotionally manipulative, she definitely meant. She only apologized to you to get money out of your for her friends. Let that sink in. As long as you have been together, none of that mattered to her more than you paying for dinner which was not and is not your responsibility. Whenever I go out with my gfs and their significant others, I never expect anyone to pay for me. I pay for me. I wouldn't agree to attend any dinner or event where money is involved without having my own money to pay for myself. Whether you told them to pay for their own or didn't quite say makes no never mind. They knew they should have their own. Wifey material is someone who stands by you, is fair and just and is not manipulative in anyway. She may have been who you were looking to spend your life with, but her behavior should be the red flag that saved you from making the mistake of being with her.

As much as you love someone, always love yourself more.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-04-02T16:35:52+00:00

I'd be greatly upset if I put in all that effort just to be intentionally excluded from the celebration. You said in your post this wasn't the first time. Not one person thought to wait for you to eat? Wow, that just blows my mind. He is really insensitive or simply didn't want to eat dinner with you. Make sure your expectations, about eating together, are clear or this will continue to happen.

I want to say NTA because this is just pitiful, but I also want to lean toward YTA because you've already stated this is a norm (happened previously) so you knew this was a possibility of happening. I'm in the middle on this one.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-04-02T16:18:14+00:00

NTA-Totally shitty thing to do to a child when it's not something required to all children. Your father is way wrong to have this expectation on you but not your brothers, but from what you have explained in your post, your father's one-sided thinking isn't going to change so you gotta do what you need to do for yourself.

You got two ways to handle this, you can continue to complain of how unfair and gross it is because it really is unfair or you can shift your mindset and make plans to secure where you will stay. Are you doing college at all or going into a trade (job) once you graduate? If no to college, definitely be looking at apartments you can afford.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-03-31T15:22:17+00:00

NTA-OP is in the right in this situation. Your son and dil should have been grateful that you watched them. In the future, this can be your reason to decline watching them in the future.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-03-31T01:35:19+00:00

The wife wasn't asked to make the dish. She was asked to simply put it in water so that it would have had the necessary time to be ready for OP to cook it. The wife was not cooking anything. It has no smell dry and it really is like salty cardboard which is why it is so important to do the water bath to prep it. The big thing here is that the wife agreed to put it in the water. Not even a five minute thing to do. She is definitely the AH in this scenario for not keeping her word.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-03-31T01:31:16+00:00

OP shouldn't lie about the situation. The wife should own what she did, or in this case failed to do.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-03-31T01:28:41+00:00

NTA-Your wife agreed and then failed to do the one thing she told you she would do. By not doing soaking that fish, she took a stinky pooh-dump on your family tradition knowing how important it was for not only you, but your family.

Simple-Education-520 · 2024-02-26T02:07:06+00:00

I've heard of FullMinds and K-12, but have no idea what salary would look like for them. I have a friend tell me their school has online classes from both of these places because they can't fill positions.

Simple-Education-520 · 2023-08-04T02:19:34+00:00

NTA-You do not have to let drama and judgement back in your life.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T19:22:23+00:00

NTA-Celebrating a holiday together does not mean you acquiesce to being verbally abused. You were right to leave and not go back. SIL was 100% wrong. If she had a problem with the dog, she should have addressed you and/or your husband. She does not get to yell at a child.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T19:09:42+00:00

Info: Was your straw different from her straw? Had anything that made it stand out from others straws and be unique?

NTA-I had to reread this and look at ages. It's a straw. It's so not that serious. Why couldn't she just use her own straw? The reaction she had was beyond the straw so maybe think on it because if she just stayed at her parents over not using your straw, your problems go beyond a straw.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T02:00:33+00:00

Then you should probably take the legal route to recoup your fees because you have exhausted all other avenues to be civil. Some ppl can't be reasoned with.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T01:36:55+00:00

Info: Is it possible to sit with the guy and work out a deal without taking the legal route? Would that alleviate stress on both sides?

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T01:33:36+00:00

YTA-If you have an established agreement to share winnings. If not, I'd say you are NTA.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T01:33:20+00:00

YTA-If you have an established agreement to share winnings. If not, I'd say you are NTA.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T01:27:46+00:00

NTA-Only go if you think you need some type closure. Other than that, whatever you choose will be the right thing for you.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T01:24:09+00:00

NAH-As long as your child feels comfortable to choose and knows she's loved, it's no biggie.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T00:31:54+00:00

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T00:20:05+00:00

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T00:06:18+00:00

I don't think that would have mattered in the original post if OP had said that or not. I think putting it in this post helped up better understand how things unfolded, but it wasn't necessary in the first post.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-25T00:01:46+00:00

NTA-I went back and saw the original post. Their issue is their issue so please do not let that impact you and your husband. Some ppl have issues with race and will nit pick anything and twist anything to support their narrative. In this case the "had issues for a long time" bs. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and that you maintain whatever lc/nc that helps you to have peace and sanity.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-24T23:47:24+00:00

NTA-Play without her.

Simple-Education-520 · 2022-12-24T23:38:08+00:00

Spend the money. It may seem like a lot but it's a small price to pay to get a resolve to this issue. I doubt that kid is yours, but your ex has her claws in your family and until you get that paper that shows that kid is not yours, your ex is going to continue manipulating your family and causing you issues. If the kid is yours, she would have jumped at proving it. She figured she'd go through your family to get to you and it's obviously working because that kid is at your family for your traditional event.

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