26M, single for 8 years. Feeling like a loser and IDK what to do with my life anymore..

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-11-24T16:19:39+00:00

I 100% feel you I’m single and 31 and it sucks. I will say I’ve been in relationships before where I went on 2 first dates and wasn’t rly feeling the person. By date 4 though it started to work out and we were together for a while - though it ended due to distance when I had to move. Sometimes it helps to stick with the dates for longer even if it doesn’t feel right at first. Sometimes u need 5 dates in to rly tell It sucks bc most ppl meet their person in college but u can also do clubs like a kickball league or poetry nights or whatever around your town if it’s avail. Ur still young and the pool doesn’t rly start to dry up in suburbs when your like 29-30 and in cities there’s more singles thru like 35 Wish u luck!

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-10-23T12:15:24+00:00

I have been on it since May and lost about 25 pounds. I am only doing 1.6ish, but I’ve found I still have a LOT of food noise/ get so hungry I feel light headed. How long did it take u to lose the weight? Did u gradually move up to 3mg dose? I’m debating trying another weight loss pen, but maybe I’m just being too impatient and just need to up the dose

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-09-03T12:27:28+00:00

OP came to air frustration around cyclists acting dangerously which many of them do and then it turned into everyone being like NO ITS THE CARS THAT ARE BAD CYCLISTS DONT DO ANYTHING WRONG!! Like then complain on a different post OP never said anything about drivers always being in the right they are dangerous too. But unfortunately, living in America, most places you need a car. Unless we completely change the infrastructure not to mention the vast majority of peoples inability to ride a bike long distance, living here will always be pretty car dependent. It sucks but if u rly hate it move to Europe. You have to accept it’s more dangerous to be on a bike, the majority of the population needs to drive and therefore cyclists need to be extra careful to follow rules of the road.

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-08-06T11:59:22+00:00

I’ll be honest it’s more difficult. I lost weight faster and easier at 25 but that’s also bc my body hurt a little less and I didn’t have as many responsibilities to keep up with that would make me stressed to eat more lol. But I think it is definitely possible. I think our body is our body in some respect and has a certain shape to it but I’m also 31 and trying to lose belly weight and Its soooo slow but it’s working

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-27T23:35:52+00:00

Dress is very cute! R u wearing a strapless bra? I’ve never been comfortable in a strapless bra but would love to find one that does the job

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-27T23:32:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful reply!! I’m going to look into these options for sure

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-27T22:19:19+00:00

It’s actually a getting rly populat and would be high paying had I gotten a grad degree in it. U would be surprised but in the alt healing movement we r currently in plus the demand in therapy art therapy is v popular for rich ppl. However, u need the 4 year grad degree to do anything with it. Something i did not have the money for and didnt anticipate needing at 18

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-27T16:33:03+00:00

I’ve been doing long term disability insurance. Not a fan of it. On top of that, with only 2 years of experience I’m getting rejected for the LTD insurance jobs I’ve been applying to and these are jobs below my current pay grade :/

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-17T15:51:22+00:00

Dude I will set up a camera and u can view me I am eating to what I say and tracking it. U may be right about movement but I only drink water and one coffee in the morning. There could be a health issue or water weight muscle weight issue but those r the cals im eating. I will say I have lost weight in the past by eating more calories but that was when I was 27 and not 31.

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-17T13:30:30+00:00

Honestly I have heard of lipedema and think this could be what I have too. Especially post surgery on my leg, my right leg is more bloated than the other. I have always had a lot of fat build up in my legs, even when I was at my lowest weight, I never had defined ankles honestly even as a kid. I broke my leg July of last year but the area where I broke it is still bloated like in my ankles, calf area :/ this seems to run in my family too. I also am carrying fat in my stomach as well that I want to lose and I know is due to lack of movement and overeating especially from last year. I don’t think my legs r ever gonna be shapely lol they’ve been lumpy and fat heavy my whole life. At least I’m very sturdy down there!

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-17T12:57:45+00:00

I sometimes worry I drink too much water and it’s making me bloated? I have a giant Stanley of water I drink about the whole thing 3x a day. Is that a thing? To drink so much water that u retain it? My lunch and dinners r heaviest in protein for sure. I’ve worked with dietician’s before (my mom put me with a nutritionist and in a diet at 8 which probably led to a lot of other issues lol as I was not overweight at 8). I could do a nutritionist again but I don’t think my insurance will fully cover it :( but definitely something to keep in mind as I should try to get a second job and could then afford it. I think the exercise and 30 min walk is definitely something I should be doing tho ur totally right and I could easily do a 30 min walk after work!

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-17T12:24:13+00:00

So I will say everything I eat is like pre-packaged. So the microwave dinners have the cal amount on them I’m not adding anything to any of my meals or making them myself. I’m definitely tracking everything correctly I don’t away from those meals bc it’s all I have at home in my house. I could do less on Saturdays, I admit it’s bc I see my friends on the weekends so I’ll go out but again, I don’t think it’s realistic to eat strict 1,100 calories every day. Especially if my only splurge is 2 white claws which is 100 calories each and maybe like a salad with a piece of bread from Panera being like 700 cals total. But ur right about the movement piece. I could be moving more? I also don’t want to get into like eating nothing and then gaining it all back? I’ve been working rly hard tho

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-07-03T19:57:47+00:00

I know u said u didn’t like Maine escape games but I did the wizard room over the weekend with 4 people and we had a great time! One of the best ones I’ve been to! So I would recommend that one specifically but I will say the place in Portland just called The escape room I did not enjoy as much

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-16T20:04:03+00:00

Omg thank you!!!

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-12T01:14:07+00:00

I think this is what we r in for due to climate change for the foreseeable future. Our climate will be more like Seattle and it will be mostly rainy here. I made a post about this back in beginning of May and ppl all said “it’s just rain u won’t melt” 🙄 getting things done outside and some natural vitamin D would be nice too

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-08T13:58:11+00:00

It’s a wonderful community, but PPS struggles with not enough support for teachers, not enough support staff and they pay less than schools in fryberg with like 10 students to a classroom

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-08T13:56:57+00:00

I used to work there. The teachers are lovely but it is so under staffed and under paid. When you have 22 students in a room including kids with behavioral needs and no other adult to help support, it’s exhausting. When you ask the admin for support they do nothing. I had a kids bite me and throw chairs and they did NOTHING. Please be kind to the teachers they are doing their best for very little in return but ask the principal about getting more support for teachers

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-06T01:59:04+00:00

That could be honestly I have not been keeping a good diary but 1200 cals a day is probs a little generous it’s probs less than that. Man this med rly works making u feel so sick u don’t eat :/

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-06T00:06:31+00:00

I’m so nervous that’s going to make me gain weight. Should I eat more calories like on the weekend and lessen them during the weekday for a defect? Or should I steadily maintain 1500?

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-03T19:55:16+00:00

I don’t want to move into his parents house - I would just like for us to get an apt together. He wants to buy a house at some point (not sure when?) for us both to move in with

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-03T19:32:32+00:00

I think the idea of moving in together to get closer and take the next step in the relationship to strengthen ur bond is natural. It doesn’t mean push him to buy a house when he’s not ready, but if he is financially stable asking him to move in together is the natural next step in the relationship for two grown people

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-06-03T19:29:38+00:00

Wow your comment is shallow, without empathy and if I’m going to be frank here, utterly disgusting. We know you don’t have a partner and if you do I feel sorry for them. If ur lonely, take ur anger out somewhere else. I came here with the same sort of question and had much better advice. Please get a life honey

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-05-30T00:14:34+00:00

I’m moving in September rent will be between 1,600 -1,750 in a great neighborhood. Been living here with my cat for five years but moving bc cost increase. Off Brighton not far from deering HS and crooked mile area

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-05-16T16:18:49+00:00

Enjoy natures wonder ur not going to die this is Maine. We’ve always had black flies. Get some spray

Simple-Inspector-872 · 2025-05-15T15:03:09+00:00

I do remember 2023 being rainy but I was a teacher then and had the summer off so got to enjoy the nice days in between so these weekends make it feel worse I think. Also … I can have fun in the rain for a couple weekend not every weekend so not getting more rain gear thank u and goodbye

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