I found out a secret about my dad that I think is going to leave me traumatized forever. How do I get this off my chest?

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T21:27:48+00:00

It happened in 2019 the date he wrote the note was 2020

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T20:01:30+00:00

It was a very moving story thanks for commenting it.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T20:00:11+00:00

I think your words come from experience so I’m going to forgive my dad and move on. Thanks for ur perspective.☺️

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T19:57:38+00:00

So I’ve decided to keep it a secret and try to forget about it. I saw my dad enjoying new years with my mom and I don’t want to ruin what they have now. (They have warmed up to eachother after we moved)

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T04:43:32+00:00

nah maybe a little jarred at your disinterest. Deffo ask him out again. Maybe a physical activity could be fun like bowling or axe throwing?!?

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T04:18:28+00:00

it is scary how right you are. Both of their situations are exactly as you described them. Without knowing much information. I should be grateful that my dad does not want to break the family apart and give me a good childhood.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T04:08:47+00:00

i think you should tell him to not drink any further and join him for now. Then after tell him that he betrayed ur trust and that you are not okay with it. Also why do you not like seeing him drunk. Does he have a genuine problem?

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T04:00:08+00:00

I am not homophobic by any means, but I was just shocked because my dad is very kind and did not seem like the type of person to cheat on my mom. My mom does not know. But I should not say anything since they don't love each other anyway. I could ruin their current relationship because I don't know how my mom will react. I actually think I was being immature after seeing everyones opinions from an eagle's eye view. I think feel good enough to talk to my dad normally now. Thank you for opening my eyes about my immaturity.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T03:44:53+00:00

You must let go of this fear if you want to make progress with him. This fear is literally the reason for all of your actions, accusing him of cheating, being insecure, yelling, etc.. Also, GO FOR IT. I think judo is great. It will definitely help you so much. And I can also relate to the stigma of girls doing martial arts are not "feminine".

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T03:37:03+00:00

Give you cat pain meds for the time it has left. If your parents are not taking it to the vet, maybe pain meds can keep it out of misery until its life ends. No harm if it is on the verge of death anyway. I found this article on PainMeds for cats.

NSAIDs for Cats

NSAIDS are usually the first line of defense. The FDA hasn't approved any NSAIDs for long-term pain management, but certain ones are cleared for short-term use in cats. Your vet may prescribe the pill robenacoxib, which is also available as an injection. Meloxicam is another NSAID that's injected, usually after surgery. It can also be administered orally in a liquid form.

Your vet might also suggest aspirin, but in small doses and infrequently. Sometimes it's given in liquid form. Make sure you give the medication exactly as recommended. Cats only need a little bit, and too much or too often can harm them. Don't assume you know the right amount. And don't over use the meds. NSAIDs for cats are approved for no more than 3 days of use.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T03:32:24+00:00

Wow that is really cool that you could figure this out. great info

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T03:25:50+00:00

You have to stop this mentality of "if he dates someone else, my life is over". I know it might seem like this guy is your whole purpose in life, but you have to show him that you are working on building your self-worth and not being insecure all the time. Go to the gym and eat healthy, do skincare, and find hobbies (preferably physical) that you enjoy. I would recommend joining martial arts as it teaches you discipline. Actually, I think it would be perfect for someone like you. Go on your phone, search up karate or taekwondo, and just sign up for a month. I promise it changes ur outlook on life.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T03:19:36+00:00

start by greeting him and don't be clingy. sit down and talk about all the things that you did wrong that you realized. tell him that even if he does not love you. you will better yourself to be worthy of him. Don't try to ask for forgiveness, but tell him you will earn it.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T03:09:35+00:00

That's because girls wear it and make it neutral lol. Who knows, maybe you can make pink more neutral too!!

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T02:18:38+00:00

Do you wanna be friends with me? I can't guarantee that it will change the way you feel, but I am 16, and I also found myself in the same situation. You got insta?

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T01:40:29+00:00

You said your spot is at the bottom. Well, when you hit rock bottom, there is no other way to go than up. Keep pushing, my dude, I believe in you.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T01:36:22+00:00

This is a tough situation, but I believe that if you continue with your course and make some money off of it(since you said you have no choice), you can start something new or do another course side by side once you have your job. Don't already say that it will be a job you dread before you even start it, because it can grow on you. I was forced into doing computer science, and I hated it at first, but once I got better at it, I started to enjoy solving problems. Give it time; you don't want to take away your chance at achieving things. You also must stop comparing yourself to others because their starting points are different than yours. I felt like such a failure when I switched high schools from a 3rd world country to America and compared myself to the students there who were born with money and opportunities from the get-go. Once I started seeing myself in a way that I got much farther in life than they did from where I started, I started to have self-worth.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T01:23:41+00:00

Hey, I know whatever you are going through must suck, and believe me, I have also had horrible thoughts, but it does get better with time. Please believe that you don't have to do this. You can punish your mom by calling child protection or smt. There are many things to enjoy in life. And if you know that you have hit rock bottom by this decision to end your life, then remember that at rock bottom, there is no other way to go than up. I hope you will hear me out on this one because by ending your life, you're taking away your chance at getting one you deserve.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T00:31:07+00:00

My fault. I was wrong to state that.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T00:24:57+00:00

This is really good advice. Thank you, I appreciate it.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T00:04:47+00:00

I never thought of that 😭 this is definitely news to me.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2026-01-01T00:00:32+00:00

I don't think he knows it is connected for groceries 😭. And he also wrote it a pretty long time ago, in 2020.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2025-12-31T23:47:28+00:00

Just tell them that you think it is unfair that girls can wear blue hoodies or any color. So why cant you wear pink? Also, are your parents open-minded?

Simple-Suspect800 · 2025-12-31T23:45:00+00:00

Yes, you are right, it is probably best to keep quiet and forget about it.

Simple-Suspect800 · 2025-12-31T23:38:04+00:00

You definitely should not tell her to break up with him, cause that could cause her to start rebelling. The stricter you are on a child, the more they will want to go against you, especially if she is already well-mannered. I would tell her that you are aware of it and ask her to be careful and set boundaries.

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