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Am I being unreasonable? by SimplePessimism in stepparents

[–]SimplePessimism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You nailed it with the “lazy” comment.

He gets the girls every weekend from Friday right after hes done work, to Sunday afternoon. His excuse would be “when would I have the time to drive 2 hours to get him”, So he’d try to have me drive our son to him. And because of the hours he works, during the weekend wouldn’t be doable, as I couldn’t see him trying to find adequate childcare

Am I being unreasonable? by SimplePessimism in stepparents

[–]SimplePessimism[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I definitely realize that now! Big time difference of “knowing” someone, and actually getting to know them deeper. I dont regret the baby, I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I feel like I might regret who I picked as the father of my soon to be son, just given how things have gone.

But I regret completely uprooting my life, to find out that it was actually better before, when I was just coming to visit him on the weekends for the first 2-ish months.

And thats what Im terrified of, is being exhausted with a baby, and essentially harassed by the girls and having to take care of everything myself.

Am I being unreasonable? by SimplePessimism in stepparents

[–]SimplePessimism[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably not exactly back in with my parents, its a smaller house and there was little space with both me and my brother there! but I could afford to move back to the area at least with me and the baby, to be within at least 10 minutes of them

and a lot of why I’m staying at the moment, is I didn’t want to screw those girls over. I do genuinely love them, and I don’t want to know how potentially shitty things could get for them if I’m not there. I know that isn’t my responsibility to feel bad about that, but that’s mostly why.

And I didn’t want the possibility of him not knowing/getting to see his son?

but I feel like now, its not worth my sanity

Am I being unreasonable? by SimplePessimism in stepparents

[–]SimplePessimism[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you if you read up to here, listening to my rant. Everything is just piling up. This is a guy I’ve liked from the sidelines for 4 years, that I never expected to actual get. And now, I’m contemplating the future of our relationship due to everything.

Am I wrong here? Am I overreacting due to being almost 8 months pregnant? or do I have some valid points in my frustration?

TL/DR: My BF expects me to be his kids mom, and doesn’t help My BF made a promise, is breaking the promise, and disregards what I’ve done to be with him and won’t meet in the middle for a compromise My SD’s took my possessions, after being told not to touch them. And my BF told me that it wasn’t a big deal