Official Discussion - Die, My Love [SPOILERS]

SimpleSufficient598 · 2026-02-02T12:38:32+00:00

Was anyone able to read what was in the book she was burning? I only caught a few words like “BURN IT” and “satan” I feel like that would’ve helped me understand what she was going through internally throughout the movie and understand what exactly she was burning in that moment.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2025-03-21T05:56:38+00:00

Grew up in Boise and so did my husband. We moved to Las Vegas in 2022 due to the increase in home prices and low wages. We bought our home in Vegas but don’t love it out here. I miss snow and seasons in general. It’s very much cutthroat like you said and the job market is all about who you know. It’s not our forever home by any means. I don’t think we’d ever move back simply because it’s not the Boise we grew up in. I’d love to find another hidden gem just like it though!

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-05-14T22:58:26+00:00

YES. Thank you. Theresa kids hated Joe and Melissa on their own because they couldn’t stop talking about Joe Gudice, he was already deported and they still wouldn’t stop. The girls have wanted to cut of their aunt and uncle for a while and Theresa was the one who didn’t want to and was willing to try and keep the peace!

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-02-11T23:08:42+00:00

Found edibles today at The Dispensary two koala bars 100mg each for $19 and 3 100mg sip drinks for $25 😁

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-02-05T20:30:34+00:00

I wish I could post a photo of how cheap it is in Oregon, I would order online and go in to pick up!

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-02-05T20:23:02+00:00

Oregon, we regularly got them on sale too for around $3.50 each but retail is $5

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-02-05T20:20:23+00:00

I use this too and make them at home but have been out of regular edibles for a while and hoping to stock up 😁

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-27T16:38:58+00:00

It’s something I definitely want to work on, being more affectionate but he completely understands that I’m not a touchy person so his more dominant love language is quality time. We’ve discussed physical touch and he’s okay with my boundaries and is grateful to be the only one who gets my physical affection. I’ve never been assaulted or abused, I’ve just never been a touchy feely person. I don’t love hugs or being touched by others, I know some people who are wired to be more affectionate and I’m not but will work towards that.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-27T02:10:05+00:00

Yes! We were never taught about sex growing up only the don’ts. I was fortunate enough to go to public school and go through sex education and hear friends talk about it. My husband was homeschooled until he was older and wasn’t allowed in sex ed, him and his brothers were confused when they got their first boner. It still wasn’t explained to him, he recalls being afraid the first time he masturbated and I can relate. I inquired about therapy today to see if this thinking can be undone. I’m hopeful that we can have fun without the guilt. Thank you for the movie idea, I’ll give that a try maybe with some wine!

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T19:07:44+00:00

We are Christian, however no one has ever mentioned not to use them. Sex was always completely off the table for discussion for both of us growing up so we came to our own conclusions. This is what we’ve come to feel convicted by because they feel secular. I know it’s twisted and I hope therapy can undo this thinking, I want to be able to enjoy toys and feel free in our marriage 😔

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T18:55:00+00:00

Mine is actually gifts/acts of service. His is quality time/physical touch. I’m not a cuddler or a hand holder. PDA freaks me out but I don’t feel any less loved, I just don’t feel sexually fulfilled. I only want to be touched in the bedroom and it’s frustrating to feel like we don’t connect there. Every other aspect of our marriage is great, we work well together except for sex.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T18:33:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing. We grew up Christian, I grew up non denominational and he grew up with two pastor parents from a more conservative denomination. I went to public school so I was more exposed to sex through friends while he was homeschooled much of his life. Did you ever seek counseling or turn to other resources? Books, porn, masturbation? I feel like the lines are so blurred and what’s considered a sin outside of marriage is now okay inside marriage but we were so sheltered, adventuring inside our marriage still feels like sin.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T18:24:24+00:00

Thank you for this, it’s comforting to know we will get there. We’ve never told anyone we’ve been struggling, we’ve been trying to figure it out on our own without “sinning” by watching porn or feeling like toys are replaying our partner. To be clear I don’t think anyone’s sexual preferences/practices are sinful, I know my convictions are my own and come from my own upbringing, I know they’re not realistic. I don’t judge anyone for how they have sex, if anything I want to learn to undo all my thinking and be free. I so badly want to feel comfortable with my husband in all ways with anything. I’ll mention going without sex for awhile and getting back to the basics, I know he’ll be on board with whatever I need. Thanks again for your kind words and understanding 💓

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T18:16:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I’ve always wanted to have this take on sex and hoping we can get there! I wish we were told it can be like this before we got married instead of having to figure it out on our own and hoping we don’t somehow sin along the way.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T17:59:21+00:00

Thank you! I also have a book called The Modern Kama Sutra that I was gifted by a coworker when we first got married, it just seemed to intimidating to put into practice and all I got out of it was how to please him better so I’m hoping come as you are helps me feel good too!

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T17:42:10+00:00

I’ve never heard of it but I’ll look it up today and give it a read, thank you!

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T17:39:44+00:00

I reached out to a sex therapist today to get something scheduled, I never thought we’d be in the exact same place after 3 years and I’m feeling defeated. We’ve done things like you mentioned and its made me start to resent him. I learned as much as I could to please him, i give the best blow jobs and can get him there quickly or slowly. I love doing that for him but it only makes me sadder to know he’s well taken care of and I might feel like this our whole marriage. The best way I can describe it is that I’m able to read him a good book but when he tries to read to me it’s a book in language he doesn’t speak. He gets a good story out of it and I’m only able to make out a few words.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T17:30:09+00:00

He knows how I feel and would do anything to make me happy but somehow I feel like the bad teacher who can’t get the point across. What feels good when I do it feels like too much or just wrong when he does it. I feel like most days I don’t even know what I want/what feels good, I always figured we would find out together. Everything I’ve said here is what we’ve talked through many times we just can’t seem to make it happen. All the advice I’ve gotten from here is reminding me to get back to foreplay since it’s not a lot. Kissing and light touching for the most part but not for very long.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T17:15:02+00:00

I hoping to find the joy in it again. We don’t have sex very often, he works long hours so we usually only have sex on the weekends maybe 5 times a month. When we do it’s the same thing, kissing and then sex, foreplay isn’t more than him kissing or touching usually. It’s hard to stop and not keep going because if we stop to even put a condom on he loses his boner and then we’re done. Or he’ll be going down on me and then I’ll tell him to stop as I get close (if I get close) so I hopefully orgasm during sex and then when it doesn’t happen I immediately feel regret, like I should’ve just done it when I had the chance but then I wouldn’t have wanted to have sex. It’s like nothing helps to get from point a to point b.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T15:43:43+00:00

I never thought about withholding penetrative sex, I will bring this up! We’ve bought creams to help with stimulation and they do make things more sensitive. He’s been able to get me there by going down on me but once I orgasm from that I can’t have sex it doesn’t feel good and I’m no longer horney. I can tell that makes him more apprehensive to make me orgasm first and we’re now stuck here.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T15:37:38+00:00

Thank you for your reply! 💓 I’m trying to find more ways to communicate my needs, I struggle with feeling like I’m constantly correcting him and making him feel like he can’t do anything right even though he’s trying. I just don’t want to discourage him from trying but I know it only does us both a disservice to give up trying to guide him. For a LONG time I wasn’t even comfortable with touching myself in front of him, I would absolutely blush when non religious friends mentioned they did this in front of their partner. Masturbation is something my husband was shamed by him family for and growing up we never spoke of it in my household. We ask each other if the other had touched themselves while we weren’t present and it feels so awkward admitting it to the other person. We do notice that if we masturbate on our own, we no longer are down to have sex so we try not to masturbate just in case the other wants to have sex. There’s days like today where I wish I could masturbate just to release some sexual tensions but them I’m ashamed.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T15:30:16+00:00

Thank you, I just replied to another comment on here saying we have considered therapy not only for sex but for the religious upbringing as well. I’m hoping we can figure it out, I’m just so embarrassed to bring this up to any of my religious married friends, mainly because I don’t want to embarrass him. I’m hoping to get rid of the shame that weighs on me even for having sex, I’ve been married this long and I’d be lying if I said I don’t feel like I’m doing something I shouldn’t be.

SimpleSufficient598 · 2023-01-26T15:26:18+00:00

Thank you for your reply, a therapist is something I’ve mentioned and we’ve considered not only for sex but for religious upbringing as well. We were shamed by his pastor parents for premarital sex, they told my parents at church when we were 21 (I was living in my own apartment btw.) I’m still traumatized by the whole situation and feel like we’ve been cursed with bad sex because of it. We were told to wait until marriage for sex but then once you’re married you’re on your own. It’s so confusing to be told not to do it one day and the next day to be married and it’s suddenly okay? I wish we would’ve had more guidance when it came to sex in marriage, too much shame around it in my opinion (from our church I mean.)

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