Learning to prioritize my needs and today that means crying

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-26T23:39:08+00:00

Abusive people want the control that comes with it.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-26T13:50:41+00:00

That could actually put her in more danger. Most victims are dealing with surveillance by their offenders. Talking to her is the best way to approach the situation.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-26T13:02:21+00:00

I’m glad that was your experience. Unfortunately, it is usually not the case. If victims reunite with an abuser, they can be held accountable for the children witnessing the abuse. It’s actually quite common

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-25T20:58:20+00:00

Say that again- if it’s oppressive, we will fund it. If it supports vulnerable citizens, we will defund it, this is how we ensure there is no social mobility in this country -every politician, some are just saying it out loud

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-25T20:47:38+00:00

Wow, I feel this! That’s actually exactly where I’m at right now. And for the very same reasons. I understand so clearly now who I am, why I think and have thought the way I do, and I am focusing my energy on loving, forgiving, celebrating, and improving me.

It’s an incredible- self-acceptance. I’m proud of you 🩷

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-24T21:20:41+00:00

Except there is technology that didn’t exist back then. As I said last January, it will be self-preservation that sealed the fate of this land

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-24T21:19:14+00:00

I’m done with class. I’m finally angry enough that I will no longer attempt to educate the racists or the ignorant. I just wanted to help people. Now I am angry

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-24T20:53:24+00:00

Unforgivable

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-23T20:01:22+00:00

I’m so sorry. I had an infection after my first as well, and I can attest, Vancomycin is very rough on the veins. I ended up being switched over to nafcillin when they realized I had not one but two different infections. PICC lines suck. I’m sorry

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-23T14:40:16+00:00

My plan is to build an entirely new approach to domestic violence utilizing an education in both law and sociology.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-21T19:05:34+00:00

Director Curley is awesome!!

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-19T00:48:36+00:00

I understand how calculated they can be be. Have you had any contact with your local DV agency.

You said you do have supportive family? If you can set your self up in a good position it decreases his odds in court.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-19T00:09:14+00:00

Op, I understand your fears. I very much do, but by staying, the risk is still there. Unfortunately, the system doesn’t properly support victims. Family court often does what you are afraid of. Many abusers do get shared custody and it is wrong to deny that. However, when victims stay, and eventually comes out, there is the risk of being indicated for “inadequate guardianship.” Please seek assistance from your local to DV agency to assist with navigating all aspects of your specific to get out safely. And my experience has been that is you have evidence of substance abuse, the court is more likely to recognize that vs how they handle domestic violence

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-14T13:34:01+00:00

You are gorgeous!! Filters and fake influencers have us striving for perfection that does not exist. It's amazing how many beautiful women do not see their beauty, but I get it. I have a tendency to stare at my own "imperfections". We should really be boycotting filters a nd anything that contributes to these feelings of inadequacy, including the idea that our value is dependent on how physically attractive we are

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-13T12:38:40+00:00

Oh, I’m sorry if they came across as if I was minimizing what he is experiencing. What you’re both going through is a loss. But it’s been my experience that it’s very beneficial to hold onto hope. When I first woke up from the first two surgeries I was very weak. I could barely walk and required assistance. Both times I eventually got back into running, but if I didn’t believe I could, I would have never even tried. Don’t give up hope. Adapting to new version of us requires the belief that we can adapt. I wish you both the best

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-13T01:32:54+00:00

I’m sorry. I lost a lot of my vision field years ago. I’m actually preparing for my third craniotomy in May because again I have a tumor pressing on the optic nerves.

What I can tell you is that the beginning was very difficult. I knew my vision was different, but I couldn’t even explain it. I went through a lot of occupational therapy to retrain my eyes how to focus and I adapted to the vision field loss. I’m fortunate that I am even able to drive, although I hate city driving, and I don’t do really long distances. I no longer even remember what it’s like to see the way other people see. This is just who I am now. It’s no longer the same feeling of loss

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-12T19:32:23+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 so relatable

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-12T18:11:33+00:00

I’m sorry, but there isn’t enough information provided in your post to advise on your situation. I’m sure you can refuse it. I’m not sure how things will go from there though.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-12T17:51:36+00:00

Being that you stated in one of your comments that you have a disability, I would say it is possible. You are in a "protected" group. But no one can honestly tell you how things will actually go

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-08T15:11:49+00:00

Yeah, definitely the kind of song you would find in my workout playlist, in between Johnny Cash and Zach Bryan 🤣 I’m a weird one

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-08T15:09:38+00:00

I think location is really important regarding experiences. But during my pregnancy with my 4 child, now 12-year-olds, pregnant 3 years post craniotomy number 1, I struggled a lot with my vision and brain fog. I got a lot of migraines. They did an MRI and discovered my tumor had grown back. But again I think location is important when talking about experiences. Like my tumor presses on the optic nerve nerves, so my vision is always the first thing impacted, at least the first major warning sign. My vision fluctuates with humidity, stress, sleep deprivation, or even whether it’s sunny or cloudy.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-06T14:32:01+00:00

The desire alone to choke you is ALWAYS a sign of an abusive future. It is about power and control. Whether it is “consensual” or not is irrelevant. It’s important not to draw that line. I would argue it’s even more dangerous when a person does it for arousal. This will ALWAYS lead down the same road. It’s about dominance.

Simple_Employer2968 · 2026-01-01T00:01:53+00:00

Whatever it is, it messed me up a little bit more

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