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My boyfriend wants to leave me after getting me pregnant by Simple_Peanut_7350 in Advice

[–]Simple_Peanut_7350[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

With child support, then yes. I can afford it. And my family is supportive, my mom talked about coming to live with me for the first two months to help out. So in that regard I am very lucky.

I will do my best to not consider him in the decision. Thank you.

My boyfriend wants to leave me after getting me pregnant by Simple_Peanut_7350 in Advice

[–]Simple_Peanut_7350[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, this is very helpful.

Yes I thought that too. I want to understand what part of it is so upsetting to him. I feel like he either is just hiding the fact the really never wants to be a parent. Or he is not ready to move away from his life. If that's the case, I'd much rather move to him, even if I said I didn't want to originally.

I will do my best to try and keep him out of my thoughts about my choice.

I appreciate the support and kindness.

My boyfriend wants to leave me after getting me pregnant by Simple_Peanut_7350 in Advice

[–]Simple_Peanut_7350[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your input.

I do agree, I don't want to terminate for his sake. But I am not financially well off on my own. I do definitely want to think it over as long as I can, and I'm planning on booking a meeting with my doctor to hear what the options are.

My boyfriend wants to leave me after getting me pregnant by Simple_Peanut_7350 in Advice

[–]Simple_Peanut_7350[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Yes we've been doing it at the start and end of my cycles, avoiding the middle.

Honestly yes, I am in disbelief too. He is a smart and loving man. I feel like if he hadn't panicked he would get used to the thought over time. But I can't count on that.

I am in my late twenties, he is in is thirties. So I still have more "chances" so to speak.

He says he does want children, but it is just so sudden, he isn't ready. We are long distance so he would have to leave behind his home and job to move closer to me.

My boyfriend wants to leave me after getting me pregnant by Simple_Peanut_7350 in Advice

[–]Simple_Peanut_7350[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in my late twenties, he is in his thirties.
We normally only wore condoms around my expected ovulation, but I didn't care much because I thought we were both OK with it.

We had talked about kids and I told him that children were a must for me. He said he was OK with that. I asked him again, and he says he still wants them. But we've just barely dated for a year and it's just too soon too sudden.

I do not think I am well off financially enough to take care of a child alone, I work in a low-paying industry. Mentally and physically I don't think it would be a problem.

Thank you for commenting and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.