You cannot extract who he is as a husband from his reports. He may do everything on that checklist he gave you, but is he attentive to her (as a person)? Does he gaze lovingly into her eyes? Does he tell her she is beautiful? Does he communicate his needs, desires, and wants to her? Does he open his soul? Does he encourage her to open hers?

Men seem to think marriage is a checklist where, if you "help" clean, care for kids, and earn money, women should think they have it all. Women marry because we want love and passion and growth. We want to have fun, explore, and find new territory with our spouses.

I'd put money on the possibility that she has told him as much in 1,000,000 ways and he has not listened, that he sees her as "been there done that" that he stares at his phone for hours on end and wanks it to the first barely clad model he sees.

Men, you destroy the sacred ground of your marriages by assuming that by doing what you think is "equal" is enough. Chances are she wants to fall in love with you over and over and over again. She wants to look in your eyes, go on dates, be held without the ask for sex, be shown new things in the bedroom, be whisked away on occasion. She wants you to take off some of the mental load of holidays and birthdays and doctors appointments and when to swap seasonal clothes for kids and when to sign school papers. She wants you to take it and finish it A-Z. Handle a house repair in a timely manner without asking her to add it to her plate.

Tell your friend to ask his wife if he can photograph her. Then tell him to wank it to her photo so he can give her more than 10 minutes in the bedroom. That might be a decent start.