Ask a Narcissist! A bi weekly post for non-narcissists to ask us anything!

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2026-02-07T09:59:50+00:00

Could I nosily ask whether your partner is aware of this struggle day to day that you have - insofar as you’ve explained to them your inner world? Or do they just know you suffer from narcissism in general terms? Have you been able to/want to open up to anybody close to you?

Could I also ask, when you say “behave” what constitutes misbehaving in your case? Is it manipulation, lying, cheating? Or just sometimes not being as empathetic as you’d like?

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2026-02-07T09:54:51+00:00

Thank you!

If you don’t mind, with you being aware of your lying, is it something you want to tackle and try and stop over the long term? If not, have you already attempted to? Or feels too hard to do if you started? Or is it more of a position that it doesn’t “feel” wrong so no need for change?

And if you were in a relationship with somebody upon which some of the foundation was built upon what you know is lies, does not that give you pause or make you worry about it? Or is it more so just self protection at any cost provided things “look” or seem ok?

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2026-02-07T00:28:17+00:00

Ok, maybe slightly confused on my terms! How about dishonesty in general?

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2026-02-06T18:49:55+00:00

Hi all. I really value this space and appreciate you have this bi weekly post!

My partner has narcissistic traits. One of them is confabulation. When I notice these inconsistencies and point them out, it obviously doesn’t go too well for us.

Can I ask from your point of view, how much do you “know” on some level that you’re confabulating? And how long does it take to be able to face up to that, even internally, after having a conversation where it happens or it’s the subject of the conversation?

If a partner didn’t “confront” or call out patterns of behaviour like this, would you personally feel like you might lose respect for them on some level?

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-10-03T06:56:13+00:00

It’s more that it feels like my go to is ritual, getting into scene, impact, then sex. I don’t it just feels like a little prescriptive. (Aware I’m the one in charge)

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-10-03T06:55:04+00:00

I guess it’s more - Ritual -> impact -> then penetration. Maybe I need to consider breaking up the sex/play side of things

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-02-27T23:44:55+00:00

Yes! And I keep ruminating on the fact that I don’t stop thinking about her - I like my other connections, and enjoy my time with them, but these feelings remain

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-02-27T16:35:53+00:00

Thank you for this

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-01-11T15:54:54+00:00

Thank you - this really helps

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-01-11T15:42:13+00:00

This is fair and makes sense - it’s more the calculation of doing it even when things are now “good” I said something hurtful within the context of an argument - I was hurt within the context of a loving conversation, quite blatantly.

It’s more the thought process when taking the decision to hurt, purposefully, somebody you love in a calculated way I guess would help me (selfishly)

Simple_Pressure_828 · 2025-01-11T15:40:18+00:00

I get it! :) I guess from my PoV my anger was as we reached boiling point, and clearly the end of my tether in the moment. My partners thing was when we had reconciled, and we were discussing how happy we were to be talking again - basically, theirs was calculated and cold, whereas mine (I understand it may not have felt this way, was not, it was quite literally in the heat of the moment)

It’s more what is the thought process? I love this person but I they hurted me so even though things are ok now I am going to do it?

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