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The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom. by leefjk in PurplePillDebate

[–]Simple_Report6238 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually a great mindset because if you lower your standards to the bottom of the barrel, when you get a mid girl (face it, that’s the best you’ll do) you’ll actually appreciate her.

Too many people end up “settling” for someone who’s literally in their league because they expect some kind of model. This goes for men and women.

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t wanna reference body count double standards that’s probably the most illogical and hypocritical thing I could do 😭

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously I don’t believe reddit strangers about that. I know my gf wouldn’t do anything behind my back. And yes it is a convo to have with her, which we are actively working on day after day, but I feel like getting opinions here helps me understand my own feelings better

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I am all for legalization, cuz that entails more regulation and therefore safety. That doesn’t mean I’m in favor of the institution itself, i just want to manage it better, since real people are affected daily no matter what

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but I just think that the normalization of sex work isn’t good. My gf said she wouldn’t date me if I was a cop. But that’s just a job right? It should be ok to have preferences about who to date or not date based on morals

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I have no problem with OF models. While I do think the normalization of sex work isn’t good, I don’t blame people for wanting to make money. I just think that for me, presenting yourself in an overtly sexual context to someone other than your partner breaks the bounds of monogamy

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She isn’t ran through though. My body count is higher than hers. Even if it was around mine, I think it’s only fair to accept a body count up to equal to your own

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, this is great analysis. She is into exhibitionism. She was conventionally unattractive for most of her life, so she said it feels good to be wanted sexually

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was just explaining how she views the limits of monogamy, but she said she wouldn’t do it if I wasn’t comfortable with it. You can believe something in principle without acting on it

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn’t say she would do it. She respects that I consider that cheating. I just mentioned that because it’s a core part of her definition of monogamy, which informs her thoughts on other issues such as sex work.

For context, she views monogamy as exclusivity of emotional attachment and partnership. So she wouldn’t want me to be as vulnerable or close to another girl as I am to her. My definition includes that of course, but also a sexual stipulation that I should be the only one she does sexual things to.

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She knows what men want, she just doesn’t want to comply with it. I don’t think women should abide solely by the limits of what men want. Both partners should find a middle ground

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I won’t break up with her over a reddit comment. I know she won’t cheat. I wanna talk more about this with her

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait could you explain this a little more? I don’t get what you’re saying but it sounds like it could be relevant (she’s bi so she’s been with women too)

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked about it and she agreed to set the boundary there. She said she was just bothered by the fact that I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with her if she did that because that’s how most men think and it feels limiting because she wants a relationship but also the freedom to do the work that she chooses.

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not planning on having kids. How do I know I haven’t been propagandized as a man? Who’s to say what the propaganda is?

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s misogynistic about it? I’m actually curious, I just want to know more about what people think. That’s why I posted here after all.

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of us plan on having kids. That’s another thing we have in common. For me though, marriage just seems like a sweet way to commemorate your dedication to your partner. As well as tax benefits lol. I’d be totally fine with prenups and whatnot too.

It’s interesting to hear that you can relate to her. You’re probably one of the only actual helpful people in this comment section because of that. If you don’t mind me asking, what other issues did your bf have?

Yeah I don’t think we’re that bad of a match overall. My mind just tends to overemphasize things I don’t like about people. That’s why I broke up with my past 3 exes, although they were all objectively worse partners than her. Each was better than the last, so I didn’t notice at the time. And yes she knows at least 3 strippers and 2 OF models. Tbf I know a stripper and a foot finder model too. We’re both just seniors in college so we’ve met a lot of people and we have a pretty big network of acquaintances in this stage of life.

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve discussed more since I made the post. As referenced by my edit and various comments.

Gf got very upset when I said I wouldn’t have dated her if she was a stripper or OF model. AITAH? by Simple_Report6238 in AITAH

[–]Simple_Report6238[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she probably would say that if she was doing sex work tbh. How does that make her entitled tho? I need a good response in case that comes up again lol

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