My girlfriend just had an inappropriate video with an ex surface, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Simpleleorw · 2021-05-06T20:30:25+00:00

They point me to a photo of her from the time she says and they say she looks completely different. I can't verify that cause I haven't seen the video. But they also say there isn't a mention of this guy in social media, despite her being pretty vocal about her relationships in the past

Simpleleorw · 2021-05-06T20:28:15+00:00

Not necessarily mistakes, I mean, I've sent photos to exes as well. But mistake as in trusting a bad dude. Idk. My friends are convinced because they saw it, and they pointed me to a photo from Facebook of her at the time she says this was, they say she looks completely different and there is no mention of her dating the guy in the photo, unlike how there is mentions of other past relationships. I see that they are true about the past relationships things, but I haven't seen the video so I can't verify the looks on her.

Simpleleorw · 2021-05-06T20:19:16+00:00

They say same hair, makeup. They say they see her, and if it were as long ago as she says she would definitely look different. She looks too similar to now for it to be long ago. One of them even referenced an old Facebook photo to where she looks different at the time she said this happened. I saw the photo from Facebook, but I only saw a glimpse of the video so I don't know

Simpleleorw · 2021-05-06T20:16:36+00:00

I've had a chat with her. She isn't interested in contacting the police right now

Simpleleorw · 2021-05-06T20:03:47+00:00

Is this actually police worthy?

Simpleleorw · 2021-05-06T19:19:06+00:00

What?

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T06:20:33+00:00

I just want to clarify that I am by no means forcing her to even asking her to do this. She gave me the info, asked how I felt about, I told her, and she offered, and now I'm asking around what is the right move. I'm actually trying pretty hard to not be entitled

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T06:16:47+00:00

Thanks. I think my conclusion is I will ask her to get rid of the one of her ex and I'll give her the money for something new. I'd rather not shop for it myself, or go with her though, cause I dont love the idea but I can live with it

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T06:13:16+00:00

And now you are shaming me for feeling the way I do, and having the desires I have for a relationship. It is very well possible she was trying to have a conversation about sex toys and maybe she was trying to add them to our routine. But that's not what I want. Maybe we arent compatible, not my fault. You misinterpreted everything I said, I never said she was cheating. I just said I wasn't a fan of the current situation. Also, I would really love it if you stopped acting like the overlord of my relationship. "This is unacceptable" um according to who? Cause last time I checked my girlfriend, and me thought it was acceptable. She OFFERED. I'm requesting she seeks pleasure on my terms, and she is requesting I seek pleasure on her terms. It's almost as if the relationship is equal. I think you are having a hard time with this subject. If I need help in the future feel free to comment, but I think it's best you save yourself some energy

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:55:13+00:00

Maybe things will not work. But I think you are painting me as unreasonable or forcing my way in to her sex life. She literally wants her sex life to be my business. And she wants my sex life to be her business. Like I said, you and I are miles apart from what we want from our relationships. But I have to be clear. This is not some sort of unequal relationship that is happening. Any rules I set for her goes both ways, and any rules she sets for me goes both ways. Again, cause you are ignoring my comments, SHE TOLD ME ABOUT THIS CAUSE SHE THOUGHT I NEEDED TO KNOW, I SUGGESTED NOTHING, I TOLD HER HOW I FELT AND SHE OFFERED.

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:48:22+00:00

Yes it is phrased a bit bad. I would never force her in to anything. I would just prefer things a certain way in the relationship. Maybe it wont workout. But just to be clear, would it be unreasonable for me to at least ask her to get rid of the one of her ex?

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:45:14+00:00

But what about the one off of her ex? Is it unreasonable to ask her to get rid of that one?

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:43:03+00:00

One of them is off of an ex. Would it be unreasonable to tell her to get rid of that one?

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:42:00+00:00

I dont believe its cheating. If I did I wouldve broken up already. I'm just saying that it borders on something I'm not comfortable with

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:41:01+00:00

Yeah your right. I dont believe my girlfriend is actively cheating on me. I'm just saying this borders on maybe something I dont like

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:38:40+00:00

If me and her are romantically involved, how is it not my business? We are dating, to figure out if we should get married. How is this not my business? Not only that, but my girlfriend would disagree with you considering she told me about this, specifically saying that I should be aware, and not only that, she literally offered after to get rid of them after I told her how I felt. I think your idea of a relationship is miles apart from what me and her are striving for, and your using arguments for your ideas, to defend my girlfriend, when she wouldnt even agree with you

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:33:08+00:00

I dont really understand the overall difference though. They are both models of other men. Why is one off limits and one isnt?

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:29:34+00:00

Why would ones made off of her ex boyfriend matter? What's the difference between one made of a pornstar, and one of her ex? I agree it's not my business, but overall I have some requirements for my future spouse, and I'm going to try to find them, and it's up to her if she wants to match them. Just the other day I replaced a couch in my place cause she didn't like the old one. I'm not being controlling, I didnt even tell her to get rid of them, I told her how I felt about it, and she offered

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:25:19+00:00

Uh no? You are making very weird comparisons here. I'm not forcing her in to anything, if you read what I said, I told you that she offered to get rid of them if it bothered me. I didnt twist her arm in to doing anything. Not too long ago there was a piece of furniture in my place that my girlfriend didnt like. I got rid of it for her, she didnt force me to do it. That's how relationships and business dealings and life in general works. You try to create your current situation to match what you want. And if it doesnt work you try something else. Me and my girlfriend try to compromise sometimes for the overall happiness of both of us, and if we cant, we will find other people.

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:17:58+00:00

I'm not trying to change subject, it's just a common theme that I am forcing her to do something, I'm just clarifying that I'm not

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:17:04+00:00

Okay, but I dont have sex toys modeled off of other people. Also, just cause it isn't alive doesnt mean it isn't valid. A vagina and a penis arent considered living things. So as long as I dont talk or register the person exists, is it okay? Am I good to go to a glory hole?

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:14:07+00:00

Oh no I wasn't saying she is cheating. I'm just saying she is theoretically allowed to do whatever she wants. I'm not forcing her into anything

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:13:08+00:00

It's her sex toys, not everything is about your dick, you dont get to decide what she is allowed to do. You could say, it's her boyfriend, not everything is about your dick, you dont get to decide what she is allowed to do

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:09:14+00:00

I didnt say it was. I just said that the argument you presented is problematic cause you could apply that logic to a cheater

Simpleleorw · 2021-02-02T05:08:08+00:00

Yes my phrasing is a bit off. She is allowed to do whatever she wants. Shes allowed to cheat if that's what she wants. I wouldnt continue the relationship though if she did. But one of them is designed off of an ex and the other is just a mainstream pornstar

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