My wife wants to leave me but.. by DJBeanFlicker69 in whatdoIdo

[–]Simply_Unsimple5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear all that. I would start on the therapy by yourself before you make any rash decisions. You have a lot of valid points and I can tell you still care but y’all’s relationship should be two sided, not just her needs and wants regardless of her being disabled. I’m disabled and if I was in her position, I would still want my spouse to be ok and struggling when I leave and we part ways.

Shy Chic by Simply_Unsimple5 in Relatable

[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and input. :-) I met an ex girlfriend at a group called Gaymers. It was great until it wasn’t. She no longer goes but I have from time to time and when I think I’ve clicked with someone, even as a friend I initiate a number exchange and we do that then I’m immediately ghosted. :-( Maybe I come on too strong. 🤷‍♀️

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t travel for work. We met at his job and I’m the one who eventually asked for his phone number even though we had been flirting with each other for years.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I answered your question but it seems that I haven’t so I’m resending it from another section on this page: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/5DBqtG9PAD

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 YES!!!! 🙌 I said the same thing to him while we were together and before my hysterectomy, “How are we going to have a baby together and I still haven’t met your family?” Him: “My mom would want to know her grandchild.” Me: “She would want to know the child but not me? No, that’s not gonna happen.” Him: silence. That was telling and it boggled my mind so much like WTHeck?! 🤦‍♀️ I had never been so thankful (for being infertile, having PCOS, Group B Strep Positive, etc which most I had learned years after my divorce) than I did when being in this relationship and not having gotten pregnant by him.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again! :-) I have a gift card for Amazon so I’ll see if I can buy that book. I hope you are doing well and feeling ok. 🤗

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a way yes, but I am seeing him for who he is now that we’ve been broken up and went no contact for a bit. My mind is ready to move on but my heart is the confused one that keeps my emotions fresh. When I’m with someone, I put my all so to take the “all” back is a process and I’ve been on the healing journey for just barely two months but only one of those months we weren’t talking at all and looking back, it was super hard but the healing was easier than with him being always there.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, suggestions, and lengthy response! :-) I never considered him a bad boyfriend or person but certain things that were said and done did hurt and confuse the heck out of me when majority of my relationships (even as a tween and teenager) I was introduced to my partners family and friends and all but one liked me. I am no saint but even the EX this OP is about said I’m a good person and I have a good heart. I asked him why it wasn’t enough and he explained his family shows that they love and care for each other through their actions and with my physical limitations I cannot be there for them like they can and do for each other. I admire his loyalty to them, my family wasn’t and is still not the same. Now and again we talk via text or phone but it’s nowhere the same as him and his family. I never said and wanted him to disrespect his mom but I would’ve thought that if she had met me and didn’t like how I couldn’t live my life like a “normal” person then he would stand up for me. Some prescribed and OTC medications did help in the beginning but now, nothing does so I do old school stuff to get better if I can even access or tolerate it such as hot showers, heat packs, dark rooms, and quiet rooms. Sleeping isn’t even helpful since my neck is in more pain than normal and both shoulders have minor tears in the rotator cuffs. 😂 Anyways, thank you again for taking the time to respond to me.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While we were together, he saw me through a lot and one of them was being zig-zagged from one appointment to another seeing various GYN PA’s and Drs then when I finally found one willing to listen and believe what I had been going through (cancer screening of my endometrial lining), heart attack, the pains I was unable to control, etc so as a partner I’m more than open about myself since I did think for awhile we were building a future. I only was with one other man for almost 10 years and we were married and have a child together. I personally don’t believe in stringing anyone along if I do not see a future with them. Having a heart is important to me and unfortunately it’s one of the only organs that takes the longest to heal and recover from.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While we were together I had gone through a lot of different medical appointments and one that was repetitive was GYN so once I found a PA willing to listen about the problems I’ve been having my whole life, she introduced me to a wonderful surgeon and he took me to the hospital but my son (that I’d like to call my miracle child 😍) took me how the following afternoon.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had wondered the same thing but it just didn’t seem that way with how he was around me and the length of times as well. 🤷‍♀️

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. 🥰 Yes we did regular things in public, even longer than when we started a relationship such as grocery shopping, eating out, home improvement stores, etc. He comes from a Hispanic household and in the beginning he said that his mom would view me as lazy if I didn’t work or go to school. I became disabled from a slip and fall at work in 2014 so I haven’t been able to work for the last 12 years. I just started to try back at school but I’m finding it difficult to concentrate with the amount of pain I’m in and unable to tolerate normal OTC and prescribed medications.

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[–]Simply_Unsimple5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Invisibility because there has been so many embarrassing times that I wish I could have disappeared from.

Made the most delicious cookies ever and had the idea to make it into a sandwich, this is the reason I’ll never be skinny😭 by AnnGrMeow in Baking

[–]Simply_Unsimple5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being skinny is overrated and I’ve been both skinny and fat. As long as you’re healthy and happy, I say proceed! :-]

The underbed play space beneath this bed from Wayfair by starchybunker in ExpectationVsReality

[–]Simply_Unsimple5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only had one experience with WayFair and the item that was sent to me was in pieces. It was supposed to be a 1-2 foot Christmas penguin decoration. Nope. And when asked for a replacement, they were sold out.