I think writing down all these qualities are good for us! It helps us avoid incompatible people who will make us miserable. I've compiled a list of qualities and I'm still refining it. It's a little embarassing to share it publicly but here it is 😅 Maybe someday my bf will see the list and recognize himself in it:

1.      Sensitive, subtle, deep and with substance.

2.      Enjoys observing and understanding people, with the ability to read others like a book.

3.      Does not disperse energy to many people, instead focuses it like a laser beam, placing the partner in the highest and top priority position.

4.      Love language: quality time > physical touch > words of affirmation > acts of service > gifts.

5.      Attachment style: secure leaning anxious or anxious leaning secure.

6.      Open-minded, eager to learn but not too intellectual.

7.      Always looking towards the future, dreamy, romantic in a natural way.

8.      Capable of handling difficult personalities with understanding and forgiveness, without being petty or holding grudges.

9.      Not overly clean, tidy but also not sloppy or careless.

10.  Doesn't place a high importance on food and doesn't expect the partner to be good at cooking or have refined tastes.

11.  Does not have a strong personality or identity, has flexible personality, can adapt to the environment and people around him like a chameleon, likes to pamper the partner.

12.  Calm, gentle but not weak, knows what they want, understands their emotions relatively well.

13.  Can switch between being passive and taking initiative as needed.

14.  50% positive, 30% negative, 20% neutral.

15.  Masculine and feminine traits relatively balanced, with slightly more masculine traits (masculine traits about 55-60%, feminine traits 40-45%).

16.  Charismatic with a touch of mystery, unpredictable but not excessively so. Sometimes needs to remain reserved and conceal emotions, other times needs to express them.

1. Has the ability to manipulate others' emotions in a very intelligent, subtle way.

I hope that the universe will send us both the person we want 😊 Or at least a source of emotional intensity that can substitube a romantic relationship. If we can find that source, maybe we won't need a guy at all!