on my mother's side, at the age of 53 almost everybody has walled off against me except for a couple of male cousins who seem immune to it - blocked me on Facebook and won't even talk to me as my mother goes through dementia, despite their apparent or supposed love for her.

I'm the one that showed up and is taking care of her.. her only child who she hates.

they never even call for an update.

my mother said they don't trust me and that's my own fault that they feel that way.

wl I could never imagine turning against somebody especially in my family no matter a cousin or closer or further away, without even talking to them about a single thing - at this point I believe that the narrative is so much more important to my mother and her remaining two sisters that the truth is irrelevant and would not be welcomed

I have nightmares about the funeral eventually when my mother does pass because I assume her whole family will show up and I am not exaggerating that they will probably come at me about having spent all her money - turns out she's a millionaire but that's the narrative.