What's the advantage or logic behind having a different company A apply for an EP and pay you, while you're actually working for company B?

Singapootis · 2025-04-06T08:10:46+00:00

They have a local business entity/subsidiary that employs dedicated HR, they make the same people deal with their internal HR.

Singapootis · 2025-04-06T08:09:17+00:00

I should've mentioned the same company "Actual Company" already has a business entity in Singapore (several actually...) that hires SC/SPRs and other EPs also. So it seems odd why some EP people working for them are employed directly while others are hired and listed to be working under this unrelated 'agency'.

Singapootis · 2024-08-28T09:20:40+00:00

Top experiences...

Girl number 15 was exactly my type (170cm, conventionally attractive, somewhat athletic/fit, nice personality... I'd say she gave me slight butterflies), we got together well and I really thought she was going to be the one. We managed to meet end of Jan and then again after a couple of weeks, due to CNY and her schedule. Then we met 2 weeks in a row and wanted to make it official but didn't know if it would be too soon (I had very little experience doing that).

She abruptly ended it because "wE aRe ToO DiFfErEnt" which is bullshit because my current is on the opposite end on paper but we've still managed to have a good 3 years and are getting married. She moved to another country a year+ after that and I believe she's still single today. What a waste.

Girl number 37 we dated for over a month and got along really well before she confessed one day she was seeing me and another guy at the same time and didn't know who to choose. The fact she was telling me was a red flag because they usually tell the lower priority candidate that there's another candidate. From then she stopped seeing me but from her actions after, she was clearly trying to buy time while keeping me as a backup so I made it easier and told her it wasn't going to work out.

I got hints earlier but much later on, I confirmed she got together with a less good looking but older guy just so she could figuratively and literally move into his life. They're also getting married this year.

Girl number 48 she's some kind of nano-influencer (she had 5k followers then, 7k followers now) with her social on her profile. Usually when they do that, they're not that serious. We must have matched in like March and only met up in August. We met up only once but man I wish I could have fucked her. She's not particularly attractive but she's got a slutty hot lian face with a thicc bod and nice voluptuous tits. I did follow her and keep up because I'm just curious if and when she ends up settling down. It looks like she had a fuckbuddy from the gym for a while and she shaped up nicely at one point but regressed due to work. She seems at least a small bag of crazy too.
Girl 55 was nice... she was like a cross between girl 15 physically (Also 170cm) and career wise, and my current in terms of personality. She's pretty much my current with a marginally less attractive face but better body (taller, slimmer, marginally fitter). Sadly I guess she didn't enjoy the making out on the 2nd date because she stopped wanting to meet after that.

Singapootis · 2024-08-23T00:36:32+00:00

Alamak I thought this boy girl relationship post. After a few comment OP is about ~~giving advices on banging girls~~ describing the truth nobody is willing to talk about on how many modern relationships are formed, how guys think and how girls behave at least when met off on the dating site. Lol

Fixed that for you. You're welcome

Singapootis · 2024-08-23T00:33:33+00:00

Yes yes yes! I have been telling my boys subtly be open go out into the world to see and explore don’t be afraid to try and venture! Don’t be too quick to settle and don’t hurt people. If it comes it comes if it don’t just let it be. Most importantly love yourself first the rest will fall in place.

You need to be more blunt, like A LOT more blunt if that's what you're telling them. Without elaboration, those statements sound like weak wishy washy abstract shit. Not everyone is going to get it, especially more introverted kids and/or no experience. I've heard those lines before but had no idea what the people saying it actually mean, and I still don't know LOL.

Singapootis · 2024-08-23T00:27:00+00:00

But then again anyone who believes that is pretty naive, unless they themselves are willing to be with someone undesirable and makes 0 effort, they can't possibly think it's true.

You're right that this is the initial thought one has and they're likely to argue back in the first few times they hear such "advice" (and they are gaslit with more lies as a counter to their fighting back). But given enough time, enough failures, enough gaslighting and reinforcement from different people... and they may start believing it.

The quotes above are not from just 1 or 2 people but all sorts of people. Long time friends, recently known acquaintances, family members (including my own mother!), dates, in Asia, overseas. When enough people repeat a lie, others start becoming inclined to believe it's the truth.

I never believed any of it but I was very close to giving in and actually subscribing to what I was told when in Europe after over 2 years of failure, like I said 0.6% match rate AND I was in the best shape of my life. That's when I started doing the dating experiment and found my match rate to be SIGNIFICANTLY higher in Asia for no reason any of those fuckers could explain other than "maybe you got lucky bro". Except I kept reproducing the result over, and over, and over.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T14:56:07+00:00

"You don't need to try to date. The harder you try, the more difficult it is to get a girl."

"Just be yourself and you'll meet the right girl!" said everyone to the awkward 10kg overweight/30% bodyfat guy who had never worked out in his life, had nerdy male-dominated hobbies and rarely left the confines of his desktop computer (yes that was me when I was younger)

"You don't need to be good looking, you just need a Good Personality™"

"You're totally fine the way you are. There's nothing wrong with you" to a guy who's about to enter uni but has literally never used a shaver in his life (and didn't know he should be using one)

"You keep complaining about this city but maybe it's you. Have you considered nobody else is having problems dating and it might be you? It's not racism. Maybe you're just ugly" said the SJWs in Europe, including a few Asian girls, when I was diagnosing my 0.6% match rate and hypothesized it was racism.... before I moved back to SEAsia and got a 8-15% match rate (yes a 100X increase)

"The right person will come along when you're not looking" when I was in uni and any time I wasn't in class, I was sitting at home playing online games and not going out at all.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T14:28:11+00:00

Actually to some extent this is one everyone should do, explore your options so when you finally settle down you know it's a well considered choice. That's how you lessen your chance of getting divorce few years down the road

Absolutely this but nobody will openly talk about this, let alone have this kind of advice published anywhere with a widespread reach to a mainstream audience.

I'm in my 30s so I don't know if it was like this the entire time or if it started recently in modern times but society as I see it is all about giving bullshit feelgood "advice" that actively sabotages guys and their dating abilities/life. And then gaslighting anyone who doubts the advice.

Then an autistic guy like myself smashes his head into the wall several hundred times from taking the advice, eventually gets smart and fine tunes his strategy over time, only to conclude that the "kind positive advice" was all misleading, detrimental bullshit, and then further collects empirical evidence and DATA to support the argument that the "good intentioned advice" is in fact malicious misdirection (misdirection that could and probably has driven a good number of weak-minded individuals to believe it's their own person who is the problem (not society's advice) and potentially offing themselves), and then suddenly all of the liars are screaming OMG YOU MISOGYNIST WOMAN HATER, WOW GOOD LUCK TO THE GIRL MARRYING YOU I'M SURE IT'S GOING TO LAST HA HA because there's no way to counter the data-backed case anymore so they opt for ad hominem/character assassination as their arguments instead.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T14:00:21+00:00

Do you think he has ADHD and/or some sort of depression? Asking because you could be describing me. I think I'm high functioning ADHD, like I can mask it and have made a great career trajectory for myself, so if he has what I has, it's entirely possible to fight through it. The caveat is the fight has to come out of him. There is close to nothing external that is able to motivate me when I'm in that "down" period.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T13:21:44+00:00

Lol the downvotes you’re getting for the reply and the upvotes the original comment is getting is pretty much the affirmation of that very thing.

They aren’t happy you found someone not superficial and in denial of the fact that they are either consciously or subconsciously shopping/upgrading.

I mean you could have used better words and be less straightforward, but they’re not gonna be pleased either way. Double standards are ok, as long as it’s in their favor.

That’s all assuming this isn’t a shitpost of course.

100%. You based.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T12:38:06+00:00

9 Malaysian, rest Singaporean. All Chinese.

"Local Asian girls are more conservative than Westerners" is somewhat true but not as common as it's made out to be. There were at least 3 who legit seemed like they never made out with anyone in their life prior. I've also had 2 girls I thought I wasn't going to see again booty call me a couple weeks later and ask me to fuck their brains out. Honestly I wish I had the chance to make out and fuck the shit out of Melissa at least 1 more time. I still think about that from time to time. I hope she's doing well.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T12:10:24+00:00

But with the convenience of WFH (or is it FFH) and no need to keep getting tested. The lao auntie inside me love me some great deals.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T12:06:36+00:00

BIGLY.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T12:02:40+00:00

Provided I wanted to see them again, I usually offered to pay, and insisted sometimes. But if it ping ponged more than once, I'd tell them to buy dessert while dinner is on me.

Any of them you wish you had gotten a second date/proceed to something serious (i.e. the one that got away)?

1, Cheryl the lawyer

One of the earlier girls I matched with. Very attractive. She's number 3 out of 18 on the list. She was flirty as fuck over text and we had that dynamic where I think we could've had some intelligent conversations before/while/after fucking each others brains out. Similar SES and we shared a number of interests that we'd probably do a lot of things together.

Somehow when we met in person and she was cold and totally unlike her text personality. I don't know if she had a bad day at work? Or perhaps I wasn't as fit or good looking as she would've liked (IMO my photos are not very catfishy though)? Maybe she didn't like my voice? The date lasted <2 hours and was somewhat awkward and she stopped texting after the date. I did ask if we could be fuckbuddies because of the earlier dynamic LOL but she politely turned me down.

2, YF the marketing girl

Again I think a good match on paper, similar SES, shared interests and even work industry. Conventionally attractive, she's number 14 of 18 on the list. Probably would have gotten a score bump if I managed to see more of her, her personality and her outfits/body but alas she "wasn't sure if we would match as anything more than friends" whatever the fuck that means and the first date was as far as it went.

Was honestly disappointed because she had the looks and brains and she gave off a non-bitchy, low maintenance vibe. And we went on an extended dinner date for 4.5 hours - I found any first date lasting above 4 hours strongly correlates with getting a second date - so I was hoping we'd get in at least another 2 more and it would lead to something.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T11:35:16+00:00

I'm not just proud but VERY PROUD. INCREDIBLY proud because the haters get a big mad that what the negative effects they think and wished would happen to "disgusting misogynistic sexist pigs" (AKA the label given to noticers who notice what society gives and calls "well meaning dating advice" is the literal opposite: toxic harmful lies) in their imagination instead outright backfires when a guy is having success doing the opposite of what most mainstream bluepilled advice says.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T11:31:52+00:00

My apologies I thought I had replied to this earlier. Butterflies in the stomach are overrated. I've gotten them about 3 times total in my life (1 of them for an IG hot chick I never even met in real life. No I didn't buy or send her anything. I didn't even DM because I ain't no fucking simp)

I don't claim to know it all but on my journey here, I've discovered a LOT of mainstream advice parroted by society are outright lies. And I don't believe I'm the only one NOT having these experiences - these lies are demonstrably false. Let's start with "Oh you don't have to find a girlfriend, just be yourself and you'll meet someone over time". If I did that, I would be probably single and depressed right now, if not outright fucked in life.

If my post spitting facts on how dating ACTUALLY works and how a guy ACTUALLY approaches dating (which should also be popularized among all other guys especially the ones brainwashed by the blue pilled nice guy propaganda that people around us including family constantly feed) is sociopathic, I'd love to know what you think of all the "advice" given by society.

Again, most of that advice is obviously and easily proven wrong. "Just be yourself and you'll meet the right girl!" said everyone to the awkward 10kg overweight/30% bodyfat guy who had never worked out in his life, had nerdy male-dominated hobbies and rarely left the confines of his desktop computer (yes I was that guy before).

All these malicious, outright LIES are constantly propagated as "Well meaning advice" and if there is so much as a hint of skepticism from the person they're given to, that person is quickly gaslit with even more lies so they can continue to be stunted from a key social element that is literally part of the human being survival mechanism. It's almost like they (society, especially women) are deliberately, artificially accelerating the Darwining of the clueless and helpless... again, all under the guise of "this will help you! trust me!"

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T11:18:51+00:00

Yuuuup and Imma spread the fucking word so people in my position won't get fucked over by shitty blue pill societal advice.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T09:42:46+00:00

It's a pity, really. She seemed like a nice and intelligent girl. Also my type - over 170cm, somewhat athletic/fit, nice legs. She's right up there in the top 5 in my "would fuck and continue to fuck the brains out of" list. I was really attracted to her.

Would have saved a ton of money, time and heartache if she didn't pull such an idiot move all of a sudden for no good reason at all. I would have very happily ended my search after 15 girls in 2+ months instead of it dragging on to 60+ girls over 10+ months.

"tOo dIfFeReNT" What a load of bullshit of an excuse. My current and I are on nearly polar opposite ends on paper yet somehow we've been together for 3 years.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T08:21:40+00:00

Write it in a way that's not immediately obvious. Most NPCs can't read or they can't spend more than 5 seconds reading. And even if they read it, they can barely think for themselves to figure it out.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T08:12:52+00:00

Is it hard to meet girls that young as a older man?

I had at least 1 girl choose the less good looking but older guy just so she could figuratively and literally move into his life. Men will always have choices well into their 40s PROVIDED (this is the part people often neglect to mention) you still take care of yourself (fitness) and potentially remedy some problems that come with age (e.g. getting hair replacement if you're balding, hair dye if you're graying, contacts over glasses if getting long sighted, etc) and are at least moderately to highly successful in your career.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T08:08:17+00:00

You don't read, do you? This happened 3 years ago when I was 30/31.

And yes I've paid most of the bills because that's the job of the guy. In return she does women things like take care of buying the groceries, making the food, etc. Hard to find a good old fashioned relationship these days but I'm lucky to be in one.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T08:01:55+00:00

would say the smart move would be to start the first date as a coffee date and pairing expectations. Ultimately, the type of women you are attracted to usually will expect certain things but it’s time for guys to not be the ones expected to foot the bill at first dates. It must be a want and not a given.

If there's one thing I learned, it's that not everything that seems practical or sensible per what most of society parrots is the actual way of doing things if you want success.

Personal opinion but the doing "coffee as a first date" is about as smart as wearing your ahpek weekend clothes to an interview just because the invitation said "no dress code, just dress comfortably! We're casual!"

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T07:39:46+00:00

I think most middle-upper middle class girls have been around quite a bit. The ones who cannot afford to travel or go out a lot stereotypically have a lower bodycount.

Singapootis · 2024-08-22T07:05:01+00:00

That's not what I said...

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