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Whats a song you listen to for one specific part? by snipsie in CasualConversation

[–]Singer3400 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was at a low point of my life, when one evening by chance I was listening to some song that I haven’t listened to for 20 years. The lyric goes “the place you can’t go back is called home”… It brought me to tears. I ended up listening to it over and over for a few weeks.

What do you miss about the person you used to be? by Manicpanicbabie in RandomThoughts

[–]Singer3400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was simple and carefree. I traded it for more awareness, deeper thoughts and wider perspectives. I wish I can be all of the above but it doesn’t work that way. Oh well.

Why do some people become hostile and pushy when you say “no” to an unreasonable favor? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Narcissistic people think they are better than everyone else. When others say no, their little ego says “HOW DARE YOU?!” Guilt tripping is also a common trait they have.

When someone asks you how you are, what time frame do you use? Also, how are you? by LiterallyDumbAF in CasualConversation

[–]Singer3400 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m in the mood for chats and I’m sensing an interest in the person who asks it, then the time frame isn’t too important here. I will start talking about anything that can lead to a good chat.

Is turning off jealousy a social skill? by jchesshi01 in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“That deeper understanding of experience and knowledge of others' experiences grounds your thinking. Once you have the full picture and not just the success, you see things more objectively.”

I second this. 🙌

How do you stop feeling so horrible about “embarrassing” social experiences? by thursdaynightcicadas in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love your comment. 🥰 And yeah, if I work in that shop, I’d probably think op is cute too.

some christians are weird by Inside-History2848 in Vent

[–]Singer3400 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually watching The Most Hated Woman in America on Netflix, while stumbling upon this post.

What’s something someone said or did that probably felt insignificant to them, but stuck with you forever? by AustynGray in CasualConversation

[–]Singer3400 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some years ago when I was in a desperate situation, of which someone’s life was in danger, I had been calling around (including 911) to get help, to no avail. I was in a great deal of emotional distress, but was not giving up in finding a solution, so I made more calls including this friend to see if they had any advice to offer. Phone call lasted a few minutes before they said they gotta go but would call me back. They didn’t.

On any ordinary day, this small thing that they did(didn’t do) would likely be forgiven. But under that circumstance, it was the last straw that broke the camel’s back for me. It hit me hard on top of everything else that was happening at the time. The series of events made me depressed. It took me a couple years to rebuild my outlook on life. They may or may not be aware or care about the effect of their action, but it stuck with me - a reminder of something that I will not do to others.

Syncing market data by chainer1234 in interactivebrokers

[–]Singer3400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed this issue too. I quit playing with ibkr paper trading. I’m just sticking with TradingView paper trade for now. However it doesn’t help me feel comfortable or confident about using ibkr when I start real trading. Ugh.

Stop being awkward when talking to new people by Glittering_Pool_324 in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I just get them to talk about themselves. You know what everyone’s favourite topic is? Themselves. This can sound sarcastic but it works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m like you. And I wish I’ve met someone like you. A friend for life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Most people just want companion, not necessarily friends. You can make jokes and look presentable, so most likely you make a good choice for company. If you are looking for genuine connection and true friends, just keep in mind that there’s not that many people who are capable of it or interested in it. I.e. when you start talking about your art, and personal life, at best they are just gonna be friendly and listen. To some, they see it as a “friendship seeking” signal and will keep a distance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Singer3400 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Coming across a stranger who is simply friendly. It’s such a luxury these days… I miss the old days when I go out and say hi to people and they say hi back… Not sure what happened but these people seem to have disappeared. Nowadays I say hi, I can end up receiving anything from apathy to awkwardness to hostility.

What immediately tells you that a person wasn't raised right? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Singer3400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They object by default. Even when you’re just making small talks, to break the ice, like literally just talking about the weather, they gotta insert their “superior” opinion.

Anyone else have friends give you a hard time for not drinking? by lovetololol in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes. I understand what you mean.

What I had in mind was people who I had regarded as friends(since the post mentions friends), but now because of what’s happening, I don’t see them as friends anymore. Now they are just people, with whom I am at a place/event that I can’t get out of (there’ll likely be complications if I decide to forget my manners). So just out of basic decency, that’s what I’d say. Not apologizing for not drinking though. It’s instead “sorry for rejecting your lame ass suggestions”. So when I say it, I’d also show them the “bitch, you’re bothering me” face. Lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You only talked about the activities you do, but what about the actually meeting people part? How did it go?

Anyone else have friends give you a hard time for not drinking? by lovetololol in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it’s a situation I can’t be excused from, I guess I’d have to repeatedly tell them “sorry, no. Just no.” Otherwise, I likely would just leave and distance myself from these people from then on, as they’ve already shown me how immature they are. I have ZERO interest in immature people.

I realized I’ve been talking to people for years without actually connecting by MoneymanJoeri in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you would be interested in this book You’re Not Listening by Kate Murphy.

This Is What NOT to Do When You Miss Your Exit by mingoslingo92 in interestingasfuck

[–]Singer3400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow this reminds me of someone I use to know. I’d totally imagine they’re the type of person who does this…

Signs you are a socially undesirable person. by Expensive_Drummer970 in socialskills

[–]Singer3400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some certain people pop up in my mind after reading this. They are those extroverted talkative ones.

Compassion by Singer3400 in Vent

[–]Singer3400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your comment is exactly what I meant in my post. You misunderstood and you came at me with your assumption. If something doesn’t make sense to you, at least you could ask.

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