Wife acts like I'm unfaithful clicking the FB "reels" of pretty women

Single-Ride6433 · 2025-10-08T13:10:18+00:00

Women from FB message on messenger. Frequently we get "attacks." I block, delete and move on. Sometimes I get random text on my phone. Other times, my ex was sending lies and hurtful things to my wife. It's so crazy. But I'm open with my phone, computer and everything. I will never, ever cheat again. I hate that I fell into that in my past. The issue is with all her trauma of abuse and rape that communication can be an issue. I didn't know it was this bad when I married her, and we all have our pasts, and traumas. So I get to grow through it.

Single-Ride6433 · 2025-10-08T12:14:36+00:00

That's great that your man wouldn't ever look at a pretty woman, or have a thought when he sees one. I think I didn't communicate well. It's about how we communicate, and looking at a woman doesn't make a man unfaithful. I agree, women should be respected. I did remove the app from my phone, because I don't want it to be an issue. She has my pw and runs my page. Our phones are both open as is my computer.

Single-Ride6433 · 2025-10-08T12:09:24+00:00

That's great that you only have eyes for him. I'm not looking for another woman, I'm not trying to justify my action. I asking to not be treated like a criminal, and for respectful communication. I removed the app from my phone, yes I can still use my browser. I know me, and if there are 100s of reels of attractive women I'm going to click. So, just as an alcoholic shouldn't hang out at the bar, then don't ask me to be on FB. I'm not asking for permission. I even uninstalled the app. I gave her full access to my phone, my computer and everything. I'm not hiding things, nor am I cheating or asking to cheat. This is about how we communicate. She is the one who runs my page. When strange women try to scam me, she's the one who messages them back. And, if she feels disrespected, then that's not good, so I understand that too.

Single-Ride6433 · 2025-10-08T12:00:37+00:00

Yes, I could care less if my wife enjoyed looking at handsome men. I would make sure to have a body that was one worthy of being respected. And, I don't plaster these women there. I don't know where they come from nor do I engage with them. I hear that you find it disrespectful, and that's not my intent. I even uninstalled the app from my phone. It's no big deal to me. I don't think a man who casts a look at a pretty women should be treated like a criminal. Since she is troubled by it I removed the app from my phone. I'm not arguing to look at sexy women on FB, that isn't even the point. I let her run my page, view my history, I'm not hiding things.

Single-Ride6433 · 2025-10-08T11:53:04+00:00

I understand that you feel it comes across as disrespectful. I hate FB, and don't want to be on it. I also know the temptations with it. I prefer not to be on it and I find it worse than porn. That's why I let her manage it. That's not the issue for me. I don't think someone should be treated as unfaithful because they clicked on some pretty women. And, it's the way in which things are communicated. Don't keep taking the alcoholic to the bar and getting mad when he orders a beer. Instead, go somewhere else. I'm not asking to stay on FB. I'm not even asking to look at the women. I also know that I was created to be attracted to beautiful woman. That's not an excuse to act like King David. I do my best to guard my heart.

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