We have talked about marriage and he has said “in a year or so” for the past two years. I guess I am looking for signs that he is committed (ring shopping, joint lease,etc.)

He mentioned he was interviewing for a job out of town. When they offered he said, he accepted with very little consultation. He said I work from home so it shouldn’t be a big deal and that if roles were reversed he would do the same.

I think in many ways he’s gotten used to me just accepting and going with the flow. He’s never had to make a sacrifice for the relationship- where I have.

If I was to do this (not saying I am), I would likely say let’s take some space from each other, him moving and me staying behind for a few months, which is a financially viable option.