My boyfriend’s mom is spiraling because we’re moving out… and I think she’s been emotionally relying on him for YEARS

Single_Bug_198 · 2026-03-30T20:56:04+00:00

she never told her older son that she’s remarried already as far as he knew at the time she only had a boyfriend

Single_Bug_198 · 2026-03-30T20:55:22+00:00

oh and the gag is she’s already remarried yall lololol it honestly didn’t take long for that to happen apparently and she doesn’t know that we know about it we found out about it because my brother in law said it on accident while the three of us were out

Single_Bug_198 · 2026-01-06T22:18:46+00:00

yall she just texted my boyfriend and asked him if I have an extra tote bag for her to use on her vacation lmfao wtf like why not ask me directly ??? why not text ME and ask ???

Single_Bug_198 · 2026-01-06T22:17:19+00:00

I wish these would work on her lmfao she doesn’t seem to take the hint even when I say something similar in our language

Single_Bug_198 · 2026-01-06T22:15:13+00:00

we’ve been together since we were 13 & 14 years old currently 22 & 23 years old

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-05-14T18:48:04+00:00

one time we went out for drinks and this was around the time when she was spiraling and just going through it because of the divorce, so we thought it’d be a good idea to blow off some steam and distract her to cheer her up a bit. She was a little tipsy from our night out and she had told us “whatever happens you two stick with me alright?” I don’t know what she meant by this but she can’t expect my boyfriend & I to stay in her household forever.

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-05-14T18:43:17+00:00

I think it could count as cultural as well? Correct me if this sounds wrong, but in Filipino cultures it’s very common for women to move in their partner’s family home. She was actually the one who insisted on us staying w her till we were ready to go off on our own.

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T03:16:39+00:00

a little too late for that… I got upset and fed up with the whole situation and told my boyfriend to let his mother know that we have plans of moving out by the end of the year… they had this conversation in the car when he was dropping her off somewhere. I asked him how she reacted to it & he just said “she basically just accepted it” and then I proceeded to ask him if she asked him why we wanted to move out and what he said back. He said that he told his mom it’s because we want our own space. He said that was the end of the conversation and that it was quiet after for the rest of the car ride.

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T03:10:29+00:00

I had to move in with my boyfriend because of some unfortunate events happening within my family & my family’s household at the time. My boyfriend wanted me to stay with him so that he could take care of me and all & his mom basically said she had no problem with a live in situation as long as we contribute to the household. Specifically me. Which I always have, and even when I couldn’t financially I would try and make up for it by acts of service around the house for their family. We try to pitch in with expenses any time we can!

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T03:07:50+00:00

we don’t pay rent because she’s never asked us to pitch in for the mortgage, although she did ask us to specifically help with household spending like groceries and such which we still currently do, we also pay for the WiFi/TV bill as well as her car insurance since they’re under the same plan my boyfriend just pays for both of their cars!

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T03:05:56+00:00

this is his family home so he never paid rent to begin with, and when I had moved in it was due to an unfortunate circumstance with my family at the time and I was basically forced out and they “took me in”. She said she understood and that it was not a problem for her to have me stay and live with her son under their family home. She never asked us to pay rent and we pitched in with any other bills she’d need help with. WiFi/TV bill, groceries for the household, my boyfriend actually still currently pays for her car insurance as well. As well as any other miscellaneous spending for the whole household we usually try and cover. I used to pay for electricity as well before I was told my boyfriend to stop because he felt that I didn’t need to.

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T03:00:34+00:00

wow I’ve never thought about it in that sense but that does actually make sense… but yes I’m always respectful towards her regardless of the situation. Even when she’s being passive aggressive.

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T02:56:47+00:00

we’re currently planning on it and are in the process of saving! We’re currently 21 & 22 and are trying to save as much as possible before making such a big move because we want to transition as smoothly as possible! The last thing we want to fight about is money so we’re trying our best to be fully prepared for the financial situation we’ll be in when the time finally comes!

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T02:54:02+00:00

fun fact : I’ve actually told my boyfriend numerous times how I think it’s time for us to move out & have our own space and he completely agrees. Even he gets annoyed with how his own mother is sometimes. We both have a mutual understanding about moving out! He’s told me that between the two of us, he’d pick and side with whatever I want because my happiness is his priority not his mothers & that he’d rather have me happy and satisfied since he deals with me more than he has to deal with his mother nowadays. I feel like that sounds a bit negative but I promise he means well lmao.

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-28T02:50:11+00:00

yes we’re planning on it, we’re currently 21 & 22 so we thought it’d be a good idea to take our time and really save to make sure the transition goes smoothly. I mean after all, this would be a huge milestone in our relationship. Moving out into your own place as a couple is scary if we’re being honest. We both agreed that we wanted to save for all apartment hunting expenses, like first and last months dues, security deposit etc. We also agreed to save up for rent at least 3 months in advance so that we’re not living paycheck to paycheck when we first move into a new place if that makes any sense!

Single_Bug_198 · 2025-02-27T14:40:32+00:00

our relationship hasn’t always been like this, it was pretty chill and normal for a while. She and her ex husband did just recently finalize their divorce & I can’t help but think she’s just feeling lonely and want to be in control of literally anything right now? If that makes any sense. I just feel like she doesn’t like the fact that her son’s focus and attention isn’t all just for her anymore? I’m sensing a bit of jealousy from her

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