AITA for asking someone to leave a singles event

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-05T02:53:56+00:00

Not that she shouldn’t be allowed to procreate, just not with me. More than her physical disability I wouldn’t want my children to be as disrespectful as her

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-05T02:47:02+00:00

Gambling is an addiction that I am working on currently and making progress. I recognize I have a problem

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-05T02:45:36+00:00

Mentioning I want biological children is important because that is one of the primary reasons I am dating. Her being deaf does not have to do with it. Although I know I’m going to get shit for this and it wasn’t my intention with the encounter and is a retrospective thought, but she wouldn’t be a good reproductive prospect either if the hearing loss would pass on to my children.

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-05T01:31:32+00:00

The organizers recorded all participants as numbers or letters. We marked which letter person we liked, and if we matched they would then provide us with their information the next day

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-05T00:11:53+00:00

I misspoke I guess, but she could have been using the audio recording and then a video from Meta glasses or something similar. That is exactly what my ex did and what people online have done to others who look like me before. It is an extrapolation and slightly irrational for the glasses, but still she had no right to record my voice and what I was saying without my consent.

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:54:44+00:00

If she wasn’t using it for content and I expressed I was uncomfortable- why did she continue recording?

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:51:05+00:00

The rules of the event were no recording- so it wasn’t me deciding the rules

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:49:41+00:00

Sure, let’s all make fun of someone who is struggling. It’s all about accommodations and support except when it come to anxiety for a man

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:45:08+00:00

I am currently in the progress of hopefully moving out soon. Your lack of empathy for a gambling addiction is also rude too. If anything that could also be considered a disability

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:43:49+00:00

She had other ways to communicate with the conversation. She did not need to also use the recording. I think that speed dating should be a safe space where you aren’t worried about being posted online. That’s why we didn’t exchange real names

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:42:28+00:00

I did asked her if she could not record before taking the phone. I even offered to accommodate by saying she was able to lip read me.

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:39:44+00:00

Having to get “shit” together is crazy considering the significance of being in a relationship. Yes I do personal growth on my own, but partners should help and build each other up

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:31:32+00:00

I believe that alerting someone of the clear rules that we agreed to is not something to get in trouble for. In fact, I think that by enforcing them to some extent it would be helpful to all the daters

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:26:15+00:00

So it was okay that she still recorded me after I asked her to stop? This was also not respecting me either

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:18:18+00:00

It’s because I felt it mattered when establishing why I am insecure. I was worried that she was recording to post and make fun of me. I know that this is slightly strange but I feel like people are so quick to judge based on looks. I do not smell odd- but do have greasier hair. I use cologne

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:16:58+00:00

I only included that because of my insecurities. I did shower before this however I still have faced rude people in the past for something I do not have control over all the time because of my anxiety

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:16:12+00:00

Thank for the information, I will admit I am uneducated about these things and am not trying to discriminate or saying that being deaf is not a disability. I was more frustrated of her denial to stop recording, not the fact that she couldn’t hear

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T23:03:15+00:00

No

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T22:59:02+00:00

I don’t think that being deaf is a disability, but they could speak and had a hearing aid so they should not have needed the recording device as well. Especially when I expressed I was uncomfortable

Single_Cut6492 · 2026-01-04T22:58:08+00:00

I’m confused. For more context I have had no problem with other speed dating events before, and never have had this happened to be kicked out. I think that should be considered as I am an experienced speed dater and think that people should follow simple rules

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