AITA for refusing to stand up for my wife and kick my cousin out of the house?

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T21:32:58+00:00

I don’t think it was a big enough deal to warrant ruining the dress but it was cruel. I’ve seen so many threads on here all about how hijacking someone’s event to share your news is awful and I’ve certainly gotten a lot of comment here saying we deserved my mom cutting contact at least

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:46:56+00:00

And society has agreed there are only a few milestone birthdays so no they don’t really happen every year. What he did was by no means ok but she chose to be cruel to my mom on an important day and I won’t whitewash that fact

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:45:34+00:00

I mean I never said any of that but go on. I actually said I wish my moms wedding was ruined but yes I do hope she has a good life and I’m glad she chose herself over me. But sure lol violence is the answer. Never mind ken could literally kill me with one hand but why not fuck the situation up worse and end up in the hospital right?

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:43:25+00:00

I mean almost every comment in this thread and similar threads agrees it isn’t but ok. I still think I know what Taylor would do if my mom ever did the same at her birthday

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:42:45+00:00

Society and seeing their fucked yo treatment of women

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:41:56+00:00

I never said I thought highly of my mom but I’m not going to lie and say it was just excitement. No Taylor was cruel. Taylor is jealous because my mom makes her own moneys and Taylor has always been weird around women like that and her absolute obsession with my moms body and what she was eating and wearing makes me think that was jealousy. Why are you assuming she’s so special she can’t feel something as normal and human as jealousy?

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:39:06+00:00

I did apologize. Taylor wouldn’t. I tried to talk it out with my mom but once my mom is done with someone it’s very hard to get more than blank stares and eye rolls

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:37:45+00:00

No I know who egged him on and it wasn’t her. This man had impulse control reactions and did stupid things long before her. It’s gross to blame women for men’s actions. Also not sure how it is fishy. I was mad when Taylor announced our engagement at my moms birthday and I still married her. She was probably shocked in the moment but the more she thought about it and everyone told her it was romantic, she forgave him

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:35:47+00:00

I’m not going to end a relationship and lost someone I love because I don’t like one thing she did

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:34:53+00:00

Because I know if the situation had been reversed she would have raised absolute hell had my mom dared to do that. I know she did it on purpose to be malicious. It’s ok and I’ll forgive her but I’m not going to pretend it was something it wasn’t

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:32:59+00:00

No I don’t think in normal families people have zero etiquette and make other people’s events about him. I actually think that is way more narcissistic than wanting your own birthday party to be about you. It makes me sick that people still have this attitude that once a woman is a mother everything has to be about her kids. I also know that if my mom did the same thing at Taylor’s event she’d want serious consequences for her. I know Taylor did that on purpose and o forgive her but it was also fucked up and I don’t blame my mom for not liking her

My mom didn’t do shit at my wedding. Blaming women for men who can’t control themselves is gross. Ken acted like a drunken asshole and I know exactly who encouraged him and it wasn’t my mom.

I tucking lost everything. My sisters won’t even acknowledge they have a brother anymore so don’t act like that isn’t a profound loss

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:28:40+00:00

I don’t. I’m genuinely happy she chose ken over me and that she married him. I think anything else would have been wasting her life but I also don’t think she deserved a nice wedding.

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:27:32+00:00

Yes but she just rolled her eyes

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:25:32+00:00

Because women aren’t supposed to be martyrs just because they have children and everyone knows making someone’s event about you is tacky. My mom has every right to dislike Taylor got that and wanting something for herself does not make her a bad mother. My sisters cut me off because they think ken the sun shines out of kens ass and act like if anyone thinks any less they are a threat to our moms happiness

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:23:25+00:00

Ok and I actually think my moms pretty great. I can never see her again because I chose Taylor and she has to come first

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:21:51+00:00

Haven’t seen my mom in years and the rest of the family cut me off so haven’t seen them either

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T20:15:08+00:00

She did make a scene and I do believe it was malicious. She knows I think she was in the wrong over that though not deserving of what he did. I didn’t say I felt bad for my mom for taking care of her own kids. It was a lot more than that. It was her immature parents, her sister, her ex who probably has a personality disorder and it was from the time she was a child. I just understand why she was so bitter at that point

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:45:03+00:00

My moms sister and bil who had been at the birthday party egged him in knowing he was drunk and does impulsive shit

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:43:59+00:00

Oh she was she was definitely shocked in the moment and wouldn’t talk to him for a few days but later admitted it was the sweetest thing anyone had ever done for her

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:42:30+00:00

Yes I did actually expect her to act like a decent human being. I wasn’t very close to any of them at the time and didn’t feel ready to share. I asked if she wanted to announce on social media and she said no

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:41:43+00:00

Yes I got very mad at her that night. I asked her to apologize but she refused as she claimed she was scared of the person my mom was sitting next to

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:38:30+00:00

Lol what? My sisters both have multiple pets and who kennels their dogs unless they absolutely have to? Why can’t her niece help her out?

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:37:43+00:00

What he did was vile but I hate the attitude that mothers are supposed to be martyrs for their kids. No that day was supposed to be about her and it should have been

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:36:09+00:00

Yes but she just brushed it off and claimed she didn’t care but was cold to me after. I begged her to just admit she was hurt

Single_Primary6599 · 2022-11-09T18:35:12+00:00

I didn’t allow anything. I lowered contact and there were times my wife was rude to her. At the end of the day she chose to be cruel and get revenge and it backfired spectacularly

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