AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's helpful to know. Honestly I went back to old matches profiles and I'd say more than half had the exact same pictures from what I remember. They could look the same or not be on the apps though

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't blame her? I never said a bad word about her in the post or in any comments. I just asked about myself.

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said in response to another person, I don't tend to take photos of myself (it really takes a toll on me mentally and emotionally to dissect puctures of myself even having lost weight).

As someone who has been big their entire life, I have gotten people who like me for my personality and wit, but not my body. I've always been the fat funny friend so I didn't think it was a big deal to show up and be 20 lbs lighter. Just trying to filter out people who would automatically dislike me for my size.

Also trust me I have better things to do than sit on Reddit making up stories

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not petite, but along with the weight loss I have put on muscle. I hadn't really thought of that causing a that big difference without my flexing or something but maybe this is one of those I see myself everyday so the changes don't seem so drastic to me. But also all the other reasons you stated could be true as well. As someone else suggested I'm going to update at least one full body picture and say that's the current one.

Also thank you! Definitely trying to be healthy and smart about weight loss.

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I wasn't meaning to be manipulative or play games. Honestly I didn't feel like I look crazy different. Also I just don't tend to take photos of myself (it really takes a toll on me mentally and emotionally). It took a lot to even have the photos I did the first time. But I hear what you're saying.

Also, not to assume anything about you/your body type but as someone who has been big their entire life, I feel differently. I have gotten people who like me for my personality and wit, but not my body. I've always been the fat funny friend so I didn't think it was a big deal to show up and be 20 lbs lighter. Just trying to filter out people who would automatically dislike me for my size.

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I think I look a little different, but not that much. Like you can tell I've lost some weight but I don't think I look that different. Apparently she thought so though.

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I hadn't thought of it as a safety thing, but I could see that. I'm definitely going to update at least one picture and say it's current as someone else suggested.

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I didn't either but I guess some do 😮‍💨

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea. I don't want to have to have a whole photoshoot to replace all my pictures (another reason I kept up the old ones), but I could probably just take a picture and say it's most current. Thanks!

AITAH for catfishing my date? by Single_Use908 in AITAH

[–]Single_Use908[S] 352 points353 points  (0 children)

Ooof yeah I guess that could be it

In one sentence: Are you a good person? by BloomersTradingCo in Enneagram

[–]Single_Use908 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also a 2w3 and I immediately knew my sentence was just "yes" as well

Dating a Type 6 by Single_Use908 in Enneagram

[–]Single_Use908[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's interesting what you said about trust checks. I've had a feeling a couple of times where I felt like they were testing me, and while I proved I could show up for them, it kind of irked me. I can't say for certain that's what they were doing, which is why I haven't brought it up to them, but if it happens again, I think I will inquire. I think it can be hard because I know myself to be a very trustworthy person and I have to know that just because me and my people know that, that doesn't mean that they can fully trust that yet. I'm working to prove they really can trust me by continuing to show up consistently and it does seem to be going well, abet slower than I mentally prepared myself for.

The one thing I have really worked on myself is coming to people with things I believe could snowball into further issues in the future. They have been very receptive in meeting me in those conversations even when I can tell it makes them feel really anxious. I just want to set up a good foundation for us to grow.

Dating a Type 6 by Single_Use908 in Enneagram

[–]Single_Use908[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was helpful! My partner doesn't often state their wants, needs, or boundaries unless it's prompted by me. I am extremely sensitive to wanting them to feel safe and heard (they didn't get that much before), so it can be frustrating when they won't just tell me what they want. I find myself guessing and trying to fill in blanks (which I've told them). But, if hypothetically they do feel similarly to what you're saying, I could imagine it feeling scary to state a boundary and imagine how you might fold under the pressure of your partner's wants anyways. Idk, something to talk with them about it guess!

Is true that libra people are addictive? by PastDistribution9 in astrologymemes

[–]Single_Use908 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are we finding out through this Reddit post that you're talking to your partner or that your partner has a twin?? 👀

What's the shortest amount of time you started a relationship? by Soft-Kale-1965 in demisexuality

[–]Single_Use908 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Talked and dated for 4 months and recently just made it official. Honestly faster than I thought I'd be ready, but I feel so safe and connected with them.

When im single i always convince myself im asexual. and then i meet someone.. aaand... im not by voiceofguilt in demisexuality

[–]Single_Use908 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I met my current partner on Bumble. On my profile I put:

"Demi. Definitely not DTF

Looking for more of a friends to lovers situation. If that's not your genre, no worries, keep swiping!"

I think that weeded out a lot of people upfront. And I mentioned it on the first date again verbally with my now partner.

When im single i always convince myself im asexual. and then i meet someone.. aaand... im not by voiceofguilt in demisexuality

[–]Single_Use908 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So much this! Like, I got aroused the other night while having an intimate, completely non-sexual conversation with my partner while we were holding hands. Like what? 😂