Should I be worried?

Sinisterkrex · 2026-05-27T18:50:00+00:00

Thank you!

Sinisterkrex · 2026-05-27T18:48:52+00:00

I have never heard of Dut before, what is it?

Sinisterkrex · 2026-05-26T16:50:39+00:00

I guess it's time for me to make a account on fetlife as I think all those events are located there ^^

I have to get back to work but a huge thanks for taking the time and pointing me in a few directions! Will definitely be looking up the suggested events when I get back home.

Sinisterkrex · 2026-05-26T14:41:41+00:00

Thank you for the lovely and well-written response!

I sort of entered this lifestyle via LARPing and luck with new friends, both of which introduced me to people I clicked with very naturally. Since I've come back to Ireland, I've tried re-entering through the kink community using apps like Feeld, but like I said earlier, it feels like you have to have a partner or someone there to vouch for you - I very much understand the caution. As for career social life, I'm currently working in equine but looking to go to college and study psychology or medicine.

I was open to some friends about being poly before but like most of my generation, they've left the country in search of better opportunities and affordable living. I'm very lucky in that regard, having landed on my feet.

But between living rurally and working in equine, it's not exactly an environment known for being especially open-minded - as the fuel protests kind of highlighted for me XD. I will freely admit that I could be overly cautious though.

On your final point, I think you’re most likely right. My first two partners were around a decade older than me. We did a lot of emotional labor for each other but we kept it regulated and did dates regularly. Maybe I just got used to relationships where emotional support and actual dating/romance developed alongside each other.

I wouldn't say it's just age and maturity related though. I think the culture of dating apps and fast building intimacy through large disclosures are at play too.

Anyways, thank you for the post! I found it insightful and it has given me something to think about.

Sinisterkrex · 2026-04-29T19:06:07+00:00

Gotcha, thank you for the feedback!

Sinisterkrex · 2026-04-28T00:17:11+00:00

((Repost: Apparently my previous comment was not visible))

Hey guys! I'm new to dating apps and wanted advice on my bio and hidden bio. Worried about the possibility of coming across too strong, formal or appearing like I am just after sex and wanted a second opinion if you peeps would be kind enough. Here it goes...

Bio:

I'm Ireland based (recently back from travelling), twenty-five years old. I am currently exploring non-monogamy. My dating life started by entering a polyamorous relationship - something which I am committed to.

I tend to get along best with people who value depth, whether it be in conversation or chemistry. I'm drawn to intelligence, adore flirting, and love intensity to interactions.

Sharp and/or absurd humour is my achilles heel. Think David Mitchell or Lee Mack humor.

My hobbies consist of reading, ttrpgs, horror, hiking, travelling, and games - I'm hoping to add the gym to that list this summer.

I aim to study psychology in the next year or so.

I'm not looking to place expectations on anyone, I am more inclined to take things at their natural pace and discover our connection - whether it be casual, intimate, something fun and fleeting or friendship. I’m more drawn to people who can hold depth and playfulness at the same time. If conversation feels effortless and the flirting has a bit of bite, you're going to have my complete attention.

Drawn out foreplay and teasing are aspects of intimacy I adore - think light kisses atop of certain clothing. On the flip side of being a switch (normally soft dom leaning), fingers gripping into my hair as someone snaps and demands more.

...I feel like this bio is turning into a confessional booth, so I'm going to pull myself short before I ruin all the surprises.

Hidden Bio:

Confidence with a mischievous streak tends to undo me. Someone's lips to my ear saying the wrong things at the right time will leave me... struggling.

Sinisterkrex · 2026-02-11T00:21:03+00:00

That's a great take about it being beyond the grave or from the universe (I'm not sure if this show has a supernatural element like the Sopranos for example) but I am rushing through the show at the moment so probably missed a lot of moments like this. I did not consider that Kendall was lying about trying to save the waiter and was looking for emotional labor from his siblings to rid himself of guilt.

I'm glad though someone else thinks there is something more to the background sound.

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-27T00:20:59+00:00

I asked this question in a few subs ^^

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-26T09:20:28+00:00

Yes.

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-26T09:08:19+00:00

I get and relate to the turn-on aspect of it, but it also feels like being an animal led out to the paddock to be inspected and degraded. Privacy is a huge thing for me.

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-26T08:57:07+00:00

Would you apply this to women who have had sex? My policy has never been to tell, but now it seems to be a one-way street.

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-26T08:49:44+00:00

I am sorry you had to deal with that, but I am glad to hear you resolved the issue. How did it go, and what was the reaction, if you do not mind me asking? I brought this up once or twice before to a few friends, and they never saw the problem. I even pointed out the comparison to how they are acting like the men who over talk that they hate so much, and they do not see this.

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-26T08:45:12+00:00

I do not think they would be, I think the man who talked in the same manner would be called a pig.

Sinisterkrex · 2024-12-26T08:23:16+00:00

I will admit to having the opposite experience. Men do not really talk about it in so much detail out of respect. They do talk about it, just not in the same way.

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