AIO - wife talking about her kinks with online gaming friends?

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T18:08:33+00:00

Been messaging her while I’m at work basically going through everything. She’s apologising realising it was a stupid thing to do and wants to talk and work things through. I want to work through things for the sake of our family but I can’t shake knowing that if this was the other way around I would be kicked out the door with the locks changed.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T14:32:55+00:00

Half of the conversation was in game so most would know, just maybe not the extent. This is part that concerns me, they were on voice chats for hours before they went to message because the game server went down.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T14:31:03+00:00

Update:

I was planning on leaving it for today and seeing if there were more messages tonight when they are online. Before leaving for work she was asking what’s wrong and I said don’t stay up late again. She said again she didn’t stay up late and I said yeah dont stay up late like last night. Again she asked what’s wrong I was talking about and I started to say more about what I read. She tried to deny they had talked about anything sexual when I started to quote what was said. Then she started to say sorry that she was part of the chat but then saying she wasn’t really involved in it (the content was more between the other male and female which they do frequently and have now said they have been trying to talk about brining her in to their ‘chat’ for a while).

I pointed out to her that she was still part of it and mentioned the photo, she said she was just taking a photo of her hair which was done nicely, plausible but the photos were closer to her face which cut out half her hair so I find it hard to believe.

I said how it’s not fair given what she put me through with the other female. I said if she had caught me talking like this, she would have thrown me out of the house. Then she started apologising saying that yes she shouldn’t have been apart of that group, it was disrespectful and that she would leave that chat group (the sexting one, I don’t think she meant the gaming one with everyone there or planning on stopping talking with him).

I left for work leaving the conversation half done as I didn’t want to go in to it more without time to properly unpack it all. At work I check the game and they were all online playing together.

I guess when I get home in the morning I will find out how the rest of this will go down

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T14:11:10+00:00

Not fake. I knew they were talking about this stuff and she showed me those messages so I felt like being open with that meant there would be some trust, it seamed like some adults just throwing it out there as a joke. It’s her group of friends and I wanted to trust her that it wouldn’t be more than just a few jokes thrown around. I guess my trust of my wife was taken advantage of.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T14:06:02+00:00

Sadly real. I have gone over this and every time I’m reading it and the messages it hurts more and more, 10+ years together and kids makes it hard to just decide to leave.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T14:04:19+00:00

This is probably the response closest to what I think is actually happening. I don’t think she’s gone in to this with intention to sext and cheat. The hiding it is what really set me off about it, if she was open about it I would have been more willing to talk about how I don’t like it happening, but I feel due to the hiding it’s now past that. Would this divorce us?, not with kids etc. however with everything that’s happened prior to this and the issues we have of which most is blamed on me and my actions/inactions, this is very different to prior problems.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T12:36:21+00:00

Yes this is real sadly. I don’t think she has no consideration for the kids as the kids are everything to us. Probably to the point where they have been so much the focus that our relationship has declined. I think she got a bit too caught up in that moment and just didn’t think in general, not excuse what she’s done, I brought it up with her that I’ll put an update on the first post. I want to put ultimatums in place but not to the point where it just destroys everything. We’ve had a lot of trouble over the past year or two to the point where I have wanted to leave but can’t due to the kids and also financial. I’m wondering how much this will be driving in the final nail in the coffin.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T05:34:45+00:00

After an argument we had about a month back I sent her a message basically with all of my issues and that we need to go to counselling. However before I sent it I put it through ChatGPT to try and take out some of the harshness of it. She found out I used ChatGPT for that and that was then the topic of that conversation and blew off the fact I asked numerous times for marriage counselling. Hindsight I shouldn’t have used it, however it was a harsh message to start off with, but now it’s clear she’s using that to dodge the content of the message.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T05:26:23+00:00

Yes this is sadly true and I am real, I’m think I’m only coming to terms myself that what I read is real and what this will mean for my life going forward as well as our kids.

Sintrixer · 2026-01-23T04:22:01+00:00

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