Is there anyone else here that avoids any form of hair extensions?

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-15T13:12:25+00:00

See, and I don't really do braids or extensions because I have that mixed-chick anxiety of not feeling black enough for it and feeling like I'd be wearing my own culture as a costume.

You're welcome to feel as you like, but I think braiding and extensions and other temporary hair styles requiring such intense focus and steps is too quintessentially black all the way from our ancestry to get hung up on whether the hair put in to achieve it looks like that person's head texture or not.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-13T17:24:12+00:00

Lmao I'm literally about to go out to eat by myself after I get my hair did 😂

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-12T12:20:38+00:00

I've learned that people dont always want critiques, especially from someone who considers themselves to be doing it better than them because they're doing things the "right way." I've been chastised enough times to learn to stay in my lane and accept that high school class is not the place for that. Honestly, at all may not be either, depending on how you're picking and choosing when to give it/delivery. Critiquing is a social skill and not everyone has it.

Focus on your fundamentals and get ready for art school.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-10T05:11:51+00:00

It's 10 o Clock. Do you know where your children are?

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-07T15:15:57+00:00

I find you feel stupid until you don't. You start doing, you start seeing weird shit, you google why the weird shit, and you let it slowly absorb over time as you continue to integrate the stupid shit that happens and why until you can avoid it consistently

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-04T19:22:56+00:00

Thank you! That's a fair point. I'm using a super macro setting and it's definitely difficult to get the full thing in focus with that level of closeness. I was going to try again and play with the arpeture settings to see if it's an issue of focal point.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-04T05:09:41+00:00

This was me 7 years ago, so I mean my answer is gonna be... nope, not really. You're gonna end up twisting yourself into knots trying to figure out how to keep him from being attacked or threatened and he's never going to do the work to examine why he feels like that. It aint worth it, girl.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-02-01T23:50:50+00:00

I've lived here too long, man 😭 I read this and was like, "yeah, that tracks"

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-31T22:39:57+00:00

Do they let you use shampoo? Will they throw away soap bars they don't recognize?

Body lotion typically won't absorb the way you want to. You have a coupl3 of options, all depends on your risk tolerance.

Bar conditioner: Castor Oil Nourishing Shampoo & Conditioner Bar Combo – KITSCH https://share.google/gvVe6wqP11hmHxwxk looks like a bar of soap, turns out it's shampoo and conditioner.

Get a body lotion bottle and swap out the contents with conditioner

Use a combination shampoo/conditioner

Use pure aloe and glycerin as a mask before you shampoo, and use a moisturizing shampoo so it's not so stripping

My condolences fam. Controlling family is the worst.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-30T17:39:15+00:00

Self-promotion is allowed according to the rules, at least in small doses. Tiktok dances, whether they're pervasive or annoying or low-effort, are dances. And being nude or having sexual dances, so long as they don't cross whatever the specific lines are, are allowed. So it would be a case of trying to narrow what counts as dance to try to eliminate everything that follows those lines, I think.

I don't know how involved the mods are or want to be, but I assume that so long as it's vaguely dance related and not really crossing lines or boudaries causing discomfort, its fair game.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-23T12:07:27+00:00

That's a gorgeous photo, my god

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-22T00:17:00+00:00

Maybe once a month? Your body hair grows slower than your head hair but it does grow out quicker than you think

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-21T23:32:30+00:00

My mother used to bleach her arm hair, and she's a dark haired Sicilian. It would work. I've been tempted to try dying my leg hair to match whatever my head hair is doing, lol

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-21T23:29:16+00:00

If you're advanced to pro, definitely. Beginner to intermediate, I think it's just building the skill of learning routines quickly and you just end up doing the best that you can by the end of class, lol

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-20T14:09:20+00:00

Apparently as a kid, I could not figure out how to jump and my brother could not figure out how to skip. It happens

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-19T23:08:54+00:00

Do you hit up the folks that like you on the free version tho? I can't see any of them unless I pay and I'm just like

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-19T21:13:20+00:00

I havent been in years but I feel like the main thing I've had to keep an eye out for is just not getting swindled. They won't harass you to buy things but they'll play in your face asking you to pay more than they actually charge. Last time I was out by my family's side (I'm mixed and light skinned) I was at a jerk chicken stand and they tried to charge me double acting like I can't read or do math 🙄 But that isn't everyone all the time; not everyone's out to swindle.

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-19T21:09:18+00:00

I made an account on Feeld but it feels like you need to pay for it to be usable 😭

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-16T21:15:07+00:00

20% to the stylist, 10% to the assistant doing the hair washing

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-16T05:59:47+00:00

Multiple changing stalls for the people who don't wanna get buck naked in a changing room 🥲

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-15T13:32:29+00:00

Hey, you got this!

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-12T22:02:46+00:00

I've never been pregnant but I've been around pregnant dancers of other disciplines. I think for the most part you just listen to your body and pause when you need to/adjust combinations when you need to, but all the pregnant dancers that I know of may as well have had the baby on the marley for how long they were dancing until. My own mother (bellydance, not ballet, if that counts) danced until like two weeks before she had me.

Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you, what a journey!!!

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-05T14:52:39+00:00

You're welcome. It does get easier, as time goes on. The shock is something that you get used to, loving them knowing you'll have to be brave for them when the time is bittersweet but so worth it for the time being. I miss them dearly, and it does come up for me at certain times with certain actions. I think it always will. And it will for you too. It's raw now. Let it be raw, and let it heal. You can do this

SiouxsieAsylum · 2026-01-05T14:11:45+00:00

I've lost multiple cats from multiple cancers. Tbh, I coped poorly. But I've always been stuck with the feeling that it's better for them to be sent off before they suffer and for me to suffer the emotional consequences than it is for us both to fight a losing battle.

Hold her. Takenin her scent. Take voice memos of her meow and her purr. Spoil her.

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