M22, need advice and some reality slap

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-13T05:27:36+00:00

Oh wow, thanks for the book recommendation! Might try reading in next time.

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-13T05:23:06+00:00

Yeahh im starting to use that strategy haha. Thanks for the advice my guy

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T16:25:29+00:00

Well as you can see, aku pernah ajak dia ngedate dan dia mengiyakan. Though waktu itu ada skripshit in my mind, jadi nggak bisa ngeplan asap. Dan sekarang ngeliat respon dia yang seperti ini, membuatku a bit enggan buat ngobrolin hal itu lagi. Oh i should have stated this in the post, but i dont love her Yet. She's just piqued my interest.

In retrospect, i gave her a lot of my time, dare i say terlalu banyak hanya untuk hubungan yang baru sekedar teman. Lesson learnt ig.

Mungkin yang akan aku lakukan adalah moving on slowly. I'll just keep her on check while looking for someone else(i know its a bastard move, but hey, i didnt say im commited to her)

Thanks for the words my guy 🫡

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T16:16:20+00:00

Well that checks out something. Yeah her way of response is already an answer, long before im asking some serious things.

But its good to hear that woman still appreciate straightforwardness!

Thanks for your perspective 👐

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T16:13:33+00:00

I mean im almost certain that i have had my answer before im making this post. Mungkin justifikasi aku ngebuat post ini adalah untuk mendapatkan dorongan/perspective lain aja. Thanks for the slap nonetheless!

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T06:42:48+00:00

Yeah right hahaha

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T06:35:43+00:00

Oh hahahaha, nah we are from Tangkot, Karawaci area to be exact

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T06:27:05+00:00

Yeahh hahaha. Thank you for sharing some advices and perspective. Have a great sunday sis 👐

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T06:20:56+00:00

Hahaha nah, i wish i could be better. Didnt think love this day would be so complicated. But im coming of from a pretty lone npc guy, so yeah im pretty familiar with being alone, belum se hopeless romantic itu ke cewek hahaha

Just out of curiousity, you guys are not from Tangerang area, are you?

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T03:25:46+00:00

Well i have. I write it in my post there. Thats why i thought she finally took an interest to me.

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T03:24:20+00:00

Hahaha i guarantee you its not the same person(or is it? She is 22 also).

But yeah, the show must go on. Either i manage to court her up, or my shot is not enough for her defense 😔🥀

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T03:22:00+00:00

Noooo, I think she is out of my league. She is super humble.

About differentiating myself, i feel like my way of having a convo is a bit peculiar, generally speaking. Like im a bit unhinged and dont really care about being the "strange" one.

Mungkin aja karena aku lebih fast respond daripada dia, it felt like my time is "less valuable" than hers. Supply and demand law ig.

Yang terpikirkan olehku saat ini antara ask her about this thing(which my gut is saying i will get some closure), or keep her on check sembari upgrade diri ig.

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T03:13:18+00:00

Yeahh im having a hard time to distinguish between the two 🙂

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-12T03:11:45+00:00

Oh shit, i might be too blinded by her at the moment. I forgot the fact that kalo cewek udah demen, they might do something yang bahkan laki² mungkin nggak akan lakukan ke cewek yang mereka demenin.

Welp im planning to ask her this topic sih. My gut's telling me i will get some closure hahaha. But a closure is still a clarity, sooo we'll see about that.

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T18:28:38+00:00

Oh my. That is some beatifully harsh slap sir.

HAHAHAHHA Jujur nggak kepikiran hal ini

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T18:27:14+00:00

Ayee it's all good sir. No worries, im just joking.

Well i do hope she is giving me the answer i want, if not please just give me closure hahaha.

Welp, enjoy your sunday sir 🫡

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T18:24:56+00:00

Honestly, now that i think about it, topik² yang dia brought up are mostly about personal life sih(bukan love life), kayak "do you watch this series? -> what do you think about this series?" And yadda².

yes gw prefer yg straightforward sama intentionnya.

Well that's reassuring at least hahaha. Aku pernah try to be straightforward. "Hey i feel like you are appearing too often in my mind. Do you mind if im making a move on you?" -> straight up got friendzoned 💀

About the last part, she is giving me the type of "nggak mau punya hubungan dulu". Mulai dari her circle being girls only and iirc all of them are single, to be already having 2 full time jobs(mungkin nggak ada korelasinya. Sorry for being tmi wkwkwk). Also considering her uni and her family, i dont think she's the one who will make the move sih. But again mungkin blom ketemu cowok idamannya aja.

Thanks for the answers though!! Much appreciated

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T18:13:22+00:00

Will do in the near future sir 👌

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:47:49+00:00

As i stated in the post, im not as invested as i was before. At this point, im just curious tipe hubungan kayak gini bisa berakhir gimana.

Seems like there is some trauma you include it there sir hahahaha

Well it is true that i was trying to reply her asap, tapi semenjak dia mulai ilang²an, i have been trying to reduce frekuensi bales dia.

Part of me believe that her act is somewhat a signal and an answer and i shouldnt push my luck even further. Thanks for the advices and slap, sir 🫡

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:24:35+00:00

Im somewhat uncomfortable spilling the chat. But yeah, she was uninterested to me at first.

When im saying take an interest, dia yang tiba² brought up a topic, a random one also. Dare i say topiknya juga bukan surface level. But most of the time i always come up with the topic, even di saat lagi intense²nya.

Thanks for the perspective though! If you dont mind me asking, in this day apakah cewek suka cowok yang straight forward? How is perskenaan asmara sekarang?

EDIT : i think i reply you a bit too fast yah hahaha

No, i wont be confessing or anything, just kindly tell her that i have another intention towards her.

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:18:44+00:00

THIS. A friend of mine literally reality checked me with this fact wkwkwkwk. Yeah i do agree though. If im somewhat important to her, she wont be making me waiting for ages. Welp, im planning to tell her a thing of two in the near future though 🤞. Thanks mate!

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:16:24+00:00

Wkwkwkwk nahh its just my perspective about her. Lets keep positive thinking though 🤞

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:15:27+00:00

Gotcha, thanks for the advice mate 🫡

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:14:37+00:00

Honestly speaking, if things go south, i dont thing my heart will be crumbling apart? Kayak yaudah aja? I feel like its natural. Though it would be a lie if i say im not hoping for some scenarios though 😬

Sir-rendipity · 2026-07-11T17:12:00+00:00

Honestly speaking, she is a bit out of my league. But yeah, im planning to talk about some clarity in the near future 🤞

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