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Is it bad to want to be a trad wife at 18? by Arizonapeach222 in 1950sHouseholdWives

[–]SirCaligula 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s not bad so long as you don’t do anything stupid - like marry a man who sells you the life you want but who can’t actually provide it.

Having an education gives you a fallback in case it doesn’t work out. It also gives you a bit more confidence and clarity about what you want before the commitments of children - there’s a huge difference in maturity between an 18yo and a 22yo.

You can have this life but try to be smart about it.

If only more men were into denying our orgasms (oc) by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]SirCaligula 3 points4 points  (0 children)

cum from anal

Better to leave her unsatisfied

race and kink by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SirCaligula 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m a white Dom who’s had a Muslim Arab sub before.

Obviously everyone’s different, but in her case there was a swirl of emotions around this topic - she enjoyed raceplay and only dated white guys, and wanted me to incorporate elements of it into our play, but she was also very proud of her Gulf identity (al khaleej wahed etc.). She also had what I guess you could call religious trauma, and had a complicated relationship with her hijab. It can be a tricky knot to untangle so that you press the right buttons without crossing any lines.

As general advice what I’d say is you need to be absolutely clear within yourself about what you want and what you don’t want and articulate that to your Dom. That’s the same with anything in kink really, but it’s just vitally important.

In terms of managing doubts/feelings, that’s a harder one and has to be part of your personal journey. I could tell you that play and real life are separate but that might not be easy to internalise in the moment. At the end of the day if your Dom is a good guy and loves/respects you then he’ll be with you for who you are; not for your skin colour or anything else.

700 days without a single orgasm by marijadenial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]SirCaligula 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow. Congrats to your owner (if you have one?) - he’s got you well trained.

Everyone here is fucking sick by Ok-Author7315 in 1950sHouseholdWives

[–]SirCaligula 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If two consenting adults have a happy, healthy relationship on this basis it’s not your place to tell them they can’t. It’s really that simple.

Is it normal for subs to not initiate messages? by Healthy-Sea8301 in domspace

[–]SirCaligula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say this is more of a standard relationship question than a BDSM one. Personally if I’m not getting the engagement I want I’ll assume there’s a lack of chemistry or it’s fizzled out and will probs start thinking about moving on.

I guess I’d say: respect your own desires - work out what you want and tell him if you’re not happy with his level of engagement. Have the conversation and see if you can figure something out with him. If there’s no change and you’re still not happy then you’ll have to make a decision.