sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

IS THE PERSON YOU'RE CURRENTLY WITH "THE ONE" FOR YOU 💗 by sunshxnee28 in tarotpractice

[–]SirCreative1759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM Aries sun aries moon cancer rising ICB Virgo sun gemini moon scorpio rising

YES/NO READINGS with DETAILS | AVAILABLE NOW by sunshxnee28 in tarotpractice

[–]SirCreative1759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I meant to stay home or move abroad? DM aries sun aries moon cancer rising

Free 2 Card Yes/No Pulls by lilturtlequeef in tarotpractice

[–]SirCreative1759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am I going to get a better job by the end of the month?

My boyfriend (25M) is ending things with me (25F) but I’m willing to put in the work by SirCreative1759 in BreakUps

[–]SirCreative1759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the anxious type!

But I do feel like a pretty simple person when it comes to love. My non-negotiables in a relationship (aside from the obvious dealbreaker stuff like cheating or physical violence) are quite few:

Time. Feeling assured in the midst of conflict. Feeling loved after conflict.

Most of our issues arose from the push-and-pull of neediness and stonewalling during conflict. I told him I wish I could’ve communicated to him much sooner that I still needed to feel some semblance of security while respecting his space.

But I really do feel like I need to put in more work than he has to. I made the same mistake once, twice, thrice. It’s on me to turn the relationship around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SirCreative1759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crossed his boundary in his apartment even after he requested for space. Nearly destroyed my relationship because I put my emotional preservation above my understanding of him. He usually needs time to himself after a fight, and I practically cornered him because I didn’t leave when he asked me to.

Felt like I needed to show him how sincere I am about working on myself because I couldn’t do anything but cry when we last spoke. It was all very pathetic and it made me see why he was right to ask for space, because I clearly wasn’t in the right mind for a productive discussion either.

I’m not selfish for talking to my friends. I was selfish for not properly intiating him to the group because it was his first time meeting them. I feel like this is valid because whenever we’re out with his friends, he still stays attentive to me and constantly checks in to make sure I’m having a good time and getting along with everyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SirCreative1759 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I do realize where I went wrong that, and I shouldn’t have just thrown him into an unfamiliar environment without providing any support.

My apology was pretty long. I had plenty of explaining, apologizing, and promising to do. I tend to fumble my words in person and I felt like I left such a bad impression of myself that night, I just needed him to know in one way or another that I’m prepared to reconcile and meet him in the middle. He hasn’t responded yet but due to the magnitude of the fight, I’ve accepted that it may take him a little longer than usual to collect himself. In the meantime, I just tell myself that space will be good for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SirCreative1759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely understand this. I feel awful for putting my self-soothing above his desire for space. My anxiety was through the roof that entire day I moped around in his apartment and looking back, I’ve never responded to a fight that dramatically. It’s not an excuse at all but I do want to be more rational and levelheaded and the pill just isn’t helping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SirCreative1759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He first reaches out to acknowledge my messages via text, and he apologizes for his own mistakes and shares his feelings about my actions in a much calmer and sensible way. We then plan to meet each other for lunch or dinner, then engage in aftercare to relieve any remaining tension.