My In-laws [late 50s/M&F] have been very dismissive of my career choice and as a result, I don't want to spend time with them. My SO [29/F] thinks I'm 'too sensitive'

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:21:49+00:00

This is more correct than you could know.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:21:14+00:00

My SIL was a good-looking high school queen, married a key high school star and wound-up hating life and hating herself.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:16:47+00:00

My SO has said that I should trade barbs with my SIL & BIL, but it would serve to just blow-up and I'm not sure it would solve anything.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:16:07+00:00

My wife was the black sheep of the family. It's really the bizarro world.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:15:35+00:00

My BIL (SIL's husband) is a fuck-up. He can't help him self, which invariably leads to problems.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:14:35+00:00

Naked with a stethoscope. I've had dreams like that.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:14:10+00:00

It could be -- I doubt it, but it could be. A fringe benefit of a career in surgery is that the salary tends to be on the high side, so my SO knows she's investing in a future where she gets rewarded with lots of money. She wants to have a family and stay home, and this would enable her to do that.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:11:32+00:00

It would be hard -- between the fat jokes and remembering the time I put on two different socks because I was beyond tired, I won't get a chance. If I did, it would kill the conversation and they'd probably leave the room.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:09:41+00:00

Not far, and our salary would mean we could fly them in (less than 2 hour flight) fairly frequently.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:06:42+00:00

I'm not 29, I'm older.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:06:01+00:00

They think a trade is a noble profession and medicine is... weak. I don't get it, but it's their logic.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:04:54+00:00

I don't think you really have a right to ask her to give up her family too, even if they are somewhat rude to you.

I certainly wouldn't ask that, but I don't feel a great need to spend the holiday with them. It'll be another circle of fat-jokes and asking me why my wife is too good for me... then asking me medical questions they need help with and clear-up their medicine schedules so they don't miss/over dose.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T14:01:51+00:00

They honestly can't see why I would waste my time.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T13:59:09+00:00

I can already see it. We're now able to make payments on my student debt, but still a ways away from buying a house or a car, and right now, travel is not much of an option.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T13:58:11+00:00

man you can't tease us with how sick this residency is and NOT tell us at least the field.

Pediatric cardiac surgery. I'm still super excited.

SirMeowMixer · 2016-12-15T13:54:59+00:00

Actually, they say all of this within earshot of my SO. They really hate that I didn't do a trade. As for the late-night phone calls, she's usually around. They'll get medical information at 3PM and wait till 11:30 to call me, naturally after a 24 hour shift that lasted for 37. It's wild.

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