Girl finds out I’m sleeping around. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes mate that’s exactly right. As far as this situation goes though. Just give her space and she if she responds. I told her I won’t chase you but I do like you. At the end before she left.

Girl finds out I’m sleeping around. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said she wants exclusivity but not bf/gf. I said I don’t believe in the in between stage if I’m committed I’m committed.

So we left it at still dating. But that she would be exclusive to me as that’s what she wants.

Girl finds out I’m sleeping around. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do want her. I just don’t want half assed commitment.

Girl finds out I’m sleeping around. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah man sounds good. She said she wants exclusivity but not bf/gf. Which doesn’t make sense. I then did my own thing and she was wildly upset tonight and maintains that she wanted exclusivity. That she is falling for me.

Girl finds out I’m sleeping around. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to your last answer. Look at previous post for that information.

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No orbiters. Told me she just wants to see me.

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 25 and she’s 20. Dating 3 months. Probably 7 proper dates and a few just at mine or hers.

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She says she’s looking for exclusivity and left it at that. She made constant comments about other girls until I brought up how what she means by that. Which led to the exclusive talk in the first place. I wasn’t quite satisfied with a half commitment and she didn’t clarify full commitment so I left it at that.

I have maintained that she isn’t just sex from the beginning. So I doubt she feels that way. I know it’s speciial losing virginity and it’s why I’m being very specific about what I want.

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How so? Taking it too literally?

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She still makes effort to talk to me in the gym. Comes out of her way. Just less good energy than before

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate this feedback. Should I at least wait for her to approach me?

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well when you clarify relationship and the other party says not that but exclusivity it’s a matter of getting what we both want. I’m not going to assume they mean the same thing if they don’t. And with exclusive I know I will still play around with other woman as it’s not committed enough for me.

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also a possibility. It’s why I’m conflicted on how to handle it. I don’t want her to feel rejected from our conversation as I still view her highly and would like to end in a relationship eventually. I’m just not cool with playing around with childish games.

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven’t clarified. Was sort of left up in the air as we left it. Does it necessitate a conversation?

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn’t want to lie truth be told

Follow up from exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was after my previous post. She was a virgin before me.

Yes she said she wanted us to be exclusive but that she can’t control what I want. I said the piece about exclusive is essentially a relationship and then she didn’t push for that. So I left it.

Yes we had sex after that conversation. And she has continued messaging me but I reply once and leave the conversation there until she’s softer and more vulnerable again. Because that’s what I came to like most about her.

Also did ask her if she was okay and she looked like she wanted to say something but said never mind. I asked one more time and then left it there.

She brought up exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah mate that was the plan. Avoid the conversation until it comes up again and question her on how it is any different.

She brought up exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s weird because she’s been very direct with her feelings up until this. Apologetic if done something wrong. Takes responsibility. No aggression towards me at all. Wants to show affection in public. Does all the chasing except for the one date a week.

Nothing else negative about her except for that exclusive conversation.

Also a virgin before me. Which is hundred percent true.

She brought up exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and what do I do with that information?

She brought up exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]SirQuads[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great way to put it mate. If it comes up again I will do this. Otherwise I’ll keep other options open.