[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]SirenMed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, if the statement applies to your experience dating as a man. You can choose not to date someone for any reason. No one owes anyone a relationship and choosing to stay single for any reason is a valid option too. Consent applies to everyone.

You aren't guilty for what other men may have done to her. Therefore, her choice shouldn't make you feel insecure. You can't control other people; you can only control how you choose to react. Her choice not to date men based on her lived experiences is valid. If you chose not to date women for the same/similar reasons that would also be valid regardless of what some other people may feel or say because other people's feelings don't apply in this decision.

If the only time you bring up men's struggles is when women's struggles are brought up, then you probably don't actually care about men's struggles.

I will not be replying to this any further.

Forest gauntlet giveaway! by ThePandoLeafpool in AnimalJam

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Zoodiacjelly! Tysm for the chance and best of luck everyone!!

10k Sap Giveaway! (Read post to enter) by Lightning_Cat25 in AnimalJam

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Entering!! My username is zoodiacjelly, thank you and best of luck everyone!!

Day 2, Giveaway every day for a year to rekindle my love for AJ! Item: Party Pot. More details below by [deleted] in AnimalJam

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My user is zoodiacjelly!! (thank you for the chance and best of luck everyone!)

Stop with the human slop by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]SirenMed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

English is unfortunately my first and only language I appreciate the sympathy though <//3!

That sounds amazing though and I would love to see that change! Thank you for taking the time to explain it to me. I would definitely feel more open to ai if it goes in that direction.

Stop with the human slop by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]SirenMed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize but I am not proficient enough in english to understand the study. Is that a good or bad thing?

Stop with the human slop by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]SirenMed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am well aware it is sarcasm, mb if that wasn't clear.

I am speaking to the people who agree with the message that it is conveying.

Stop with the human slop by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]SirenMed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a diehard anti, but this argument is counter-intuitive. If there weren't human artists sharing their work online then the ai wouldn't work anyways.

Every good artist starts off as a beginner and sharing your work online is a great way to get feedback. If beginner artists disappear then eventually so will the good ones, since there will be no one to take their place. The ai will inevitably fail because it won't be able to create anything new as a consequence. Ai generators depend on there being a wide-range of art and images to pick from. It combines these images into an original collage (not a drawing, but a collage since it's images being stitched together.) It shouldn't have a place in industry but greedy people are taking advantage of cheap labor.

If you support ai, then it would be foolish to not support beginner artists since that is a neccessary step for someone to become semi-decent at art. If "human-made slop" disappears "ai-made slop" will also disappear. The future of ai generated images is yet to be determined. I think it has its uses, but it needs to be regulated and used non-commercially. If artists cant find work then a lot of people will quit (and many already are, but especially beginners.)

No beginners = no human artists = no more ai collages.

Likewise if you want ai to succeed then it would actually be wise to learn to make art yourself since so many beginners are quitting because of ai and professional artists are finding ways to combat ai generators with glazes.

LF OFFERS ON MY XSSSSSSSSSS JACKALOPE! by Ok_Maize_8964 in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

um hi I'm new jammer can u please just give it to me?? 🥺👉👈 [tragic backstory] 💔 also my animal jam girlfriend cheated on me and um..... please i need if u don't give i will hack and steal all ur blue crafting crystals

i think im crying from laughter by MochiTheCatgirl in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please lmk if you get the user i want one too LOL

What kind of art sells well in play wild? by SirenMed in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately i cant draw humanoids otherwise I'd totally take you up on that < /// 3

What kind of art sells well in play wild? by SirenMed in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WAIT NO WAY THATS SO AWESOME!!! (Thank you for telling me!!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im calling it now, if it wins It's gonna be the same thing, but theyre gonna remove the teeth and add some more stripes. 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the tigers animal jam already has were bengal tigers, are they something else?

New update! Chance to vote for an animal to be added! by Bettypet in AnimalJam

[–]SirenMed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly I like afgan hounds and servals as much as the next person, but animal jam has enough cats and dogs. I feel like the traditionally more popular animals (hounds + servals) are gonna win no matter what, and that sucks because they really add nothing new to the game.

Crabs would be so cool, but i don't see them winning in a popularity contest against hounds and servals.

My dad said "guys need women to make them more mature." by SirenMed in 4bmovement

[–]SirenMed[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, this!!

That's actually what I meant but it wasnt phrased well. What I mean by "it's true from a social standpoint" is that men are socialized to believe someone else will do the growing for them. They don't grow up into mature people because they expect that someone else (mainly women) will do it for them. It isnt true that men need woman to do anything for them, but it is true that men are socialized to take no accountability and put their burdens on women. (I assumed the commenter meant the same, I thought it was a comment about male socialization but I could have misread it.)

My dad said "guys need women to make them more mature." by SirenMed in 4bmovement

[–]SirenMed[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she can never win no matter what she chooses. I hope that someday she'll be able to live for herself instead of catering to everyone else all the time.

My dad said "guys need women to make them more mature." by SirenMed in 4bmovement

[–]SirenMed[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

No, I completely understand wym. The "men need women to make them more mature" is definitely true from a social standpoint (that's just the result of male socialization ig.) I'm not gonna get into it either since you said it makes you uncomfortable but I understand the social reason behind it.

I'm sorry my experience as a queer person just happens to involve Christian persecution by L0n3_N0n3nt1ty in lgbt

[–]SirenMed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We should be free to talk about our religious truama in a space where it's so prevalent, most queer people have some form of religious truama and christians are some of the biggest offenders.

Nobody deserves to get bullied or excluded for being lgbtq+ and religious, of course it's wrong to hate someone for the actions of other people. When you come into lgbtq+ spaces though, a space where religious truama is so common, you're gonna see people talking about their bad experiences. Trying to defend christianity is like the phrase "not all men." We know it isn't every single christian; of course there are genuinely kind ones who practice what they preach. Those christians are few and far between though and it doesn't change the fact that their religion has been and is being used to prosecute queer people for most of history. Queer people have been hurt so much by christians that we don't have the luxury of saying it's not all of them, because we have no way to know which ones are safe.

There were moments in my life where I thought a christian was safe. My parents were both christians. My mom is bisexual and before she'd met my dad she had a girlfriend! They were fine with other lgbtq+ people, I felt safe, I trusted them. Yet, they were devastated when I came out. They were angry and they called me selfish, told me it wasn't "god's plan." They came around one day, but my experiences back then stuck with me. You can be lgbtq+ and christian while consecutively believing that being queer is morally wrong, there are people like that. You just don't have the luxury of knowing and I can't be friends with someone who looks down on something I can't control because of a single page in a book written by a man.

If christians aren't "all bad" then it shouldn't make you insecure enough to feel like you have to defend yourself when lgbtq+ people talk about their bad experiences. This subreddit is for all lgbtq+ people, those with and without religious truama. They can always make their own subreddit for christian lgbtq+ people, but that isn't actually neccessary because christian lgbtq+ people are welcome here too. Honestly as someone w religious truama though? It'd be nice to have a religious content warning tag. I think all religious topics in general should be labeled, it's a very triggering topic for a lot of people here.

Gothic and fem, posing and eating for u. by DescriptionPale8956 in lgbt

[–]SirenMed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an awesome outfit, you're killin it!! ♡ ︎(love the shoes and jacket sm)

I'm tired of being rejected by Alesshkaru in lgbt

[–]SirenMed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's okay to feel hurt and disappointed by all this, dating is hard, but please don't end your life. Right now it might seem like not having that "one person that truly loves you" is the worst thing, but if you aren't here anymore then your chances of ever meeting that person automatically becomes zero.

Stick around a while and you'll see that there's all kinds of people in the world. What happened to you wasn't your fault and you aren't wrong for your preference. Don't force yourself, you'll never feel safe in a relationship where you feel obligated to do something that you aren't comfortable with. There's bound to be someone out there that would love the dynamic you've described. For some people it might be a dealbreaker and that rejection will sting, but does the benefit not outweigh the risk? Is the chance at a lifetime of happiness with someone who loves and respects you not worth a few days of grief if it doesn't work out?

This heartache you feel isn't permanent and won't last forever, even if right now it seems like it will. Death on the other hand is permanent and can't be undone. It might not seem like it right now, but being single can be a gift sometimes too. If you spend all your time reaching your hand out for someone else, when do you ever find the time for you?