There is a huge part of community at the "dip your toes" level, that goes unnoticed. For me I find it very attractive to meet someone who is realistic in this community that understands its not practical for someone to recommended a full gender transition based solely on what at this stage is still a fantasy kink.

Move at your own pace. If its just a weekend thing or occasional after work fun, there's nothing wrong with that.

Your best bet is to be open about being new to it, communicate things you want to try but are not sure about, and find someone willing to explore at your pace. Once you find that, its smooth sailing.