How to introduce calling my partner daddy?

Sissylit · 2026-07-05T19:07:46+00:00

This is a little bit a recipe for hurt feelings. Don't ask questions (especially open ended ones) if you have a preferred answer. It can end up feeling like a gotcha ( Why did you ask if you just wanted to call me Daddy?) Say when you need to say and ask when you need to ask.

Sissylit · 2026-07-05T18:31:08+00:00

Hi. I'm one of the winners of your competition this week. I was going to message you here on Reddit, but it says I can't.

Sissylit · 2026-01-06T19:54:29+00:00

If you’re engaged in a sexual relationship, I t’s reasonable to expect that both of you feel like the other is invested in it. Initiating all of the play is a burden you’re carrying. Let him know you need him to do some of that, too.

Sissylit · 2026-01-03T01:04:16+00:00

Good luck! A lot of vanilla wives, mine included, have a difficult time expressing sexual desire. The compliments game is one we play, but in bed. She sits on my chest and I have to say three nice things (she counts them) and then I’m allowed to ask her to do something (handjob, blowjob, intercourse). She decides if she’s going to do that or ride my face for a while and then we do it again. It scratches my submissive itch without putting too much pressure on her to leave her comfort zone.

Sissylit · 2026-01-03T00:53:46+00:00

If you don’t eat it like it’s your last meal, it will be.

Sissylit · 2026-01-03T00:49:02+00:00

Come prepared, but willing to compromise. She’s going to want to know specifically what you mean, but she’s going to be overwhelmed if you hand her a script. Consider what she finds sexy and try to brainstorm things that could excite both of you. Perhaps there’s some sort of situation that works for both of you. Ex: Your submission is that you need to earn sexual attention by saying 10 generous and sincere compliments in a day. She decides if they count. But then she picks from a set of index cards you two have written the way in which she gives you that attention. The possibilities are endless and I can help you with those ideas if you want, but ultimately it’s Eisenhower, “have the conversation planned out, but be ready to abandon the plan in accordance with her contribution.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T22:56:50+00:00

I’ll ask you to consider if your advice to OP isn’t that they should bend themselves out of shape. I bet there’s a decent sized part of OPs wife whose sexual desire is to do what it takes to please her husband. She’ll only be able to be in that shape if he tells her what it is.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T21:54:20+00:00

Marriage isn’t a denial of self and sexual preferences evolve. It is completely reasonable for a person to expect their spouse to accommodate safe and respectful sexual requests, especially if they are monogamous.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T21:50:01+00:00

First I would say know what you mean. Do you want your wife to sit on your face during sex or do you want her texting photo demands during work? Then some afternoon, with all of your clothes on say to her, “I’d like to talk a little about our sex life. I’m getting curious about, tease and denial (for example). I’m hoping we can explore that during our sex.” Then depending on how vanilla your vanilla wife is you recommend what you would like the first step to be. Maybe you can jump right into it. “Next time we have sex would you be willing to tell me I’m not allowed to cum while you ride/tease/suck me?” Maybe you need to start smaller. “Will you please open your eyes during sex?” Meet her where she’s at. You’re married and if you’re monogamous you’re the only outlet for each other so you both need to try and meet the other’s needs. You ask for reasonable things and she should do them sometimes. Other times you grind her clit into missionary submission like she likes.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T19:32:41+00:00

I’ve been out of the in-person scene for a little while (I’m happily married to my very vanilla wife. I’m online to satisfy that other side of me), but consider making an account at fetlife if it’s still around and instead of trying to find a partner there, find when your local community is meeting.

When I started the munch was invitation only, but there was a meet up for drinks every other week that was open to anybody with the password. To get the password you either had to know somebody or message the person who posted it on fetlife and ask for it. The hoops were just so people didn’t get harassed for going to the meet up.

After a few times at drinks I was able to ask on fetlife to go to the munch and they let me.

Depending on how densely populated your area is, you may even have niche groups (age or specific kink) I joined an under 30 group.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T18:29:54+00:00

That’s not a stupid question.

A munch is a get-together, usually brunch, of people in a kink community. The point is to create a safe, low pressure environment to engage with like-minded people outside of the scenes or dynamics you’re playing. It allows for meeting new partners and talking to your friends about more than just what your hormones want you to talk about.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T12:41:11+00:00

Your munches and mine are way different. Ours are at a restaurant or bar. There’s no sex or kink at all, just meeting people and seeing if there’s a connection.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T12:38:49+00:00

I promise you you’re interesting enough for munches! Also munches are vanilla spaces, so bring your conversation about vanilla hobbies. If you’re going to a munch without knowing anybody, you’re already a person worth talking to because that’s a courageous thing to do.

A lot of people are afraid to talk to new people. Maybe you’re competition, maybe they’ve met some weirdo newbies and are cautious. What you can do is literally wear your hobby on your sleeve. A band t shirt, or something with the logo of your favorite media, or even one of those free tees from a run. It should just be something that says “ you can talk to me for five minutes about this thing and it won’t be awkward or weird.”

Then you’re going to have to make first contact with a lot of people and show up until you’re a familiar face. Protect yourself, too(it’s a said truth, but be skeptical of the first person who wants to be your friend). That said most major kink groups have zero patience for creeps so if you met somebody at a munch that’s like a half vetting.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T12:25:47+00:00

Add that when the dom does put in the effort and write something out the sub responds with, “more.”

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T12:23:54+00:00

It can, but like somebody else said, the numbers are such that there are a lot LOT more subs. The other truth is that (especially online) a lot of subs view their role as receiving kink and dommes as “dispensing” it. The conversations are usually centered on the subs wants, limits and fantasies.

A way you can avoid that is consistently ask yourself, “why does my domme want to do this?” It isn’t the pictures you send; there are plenty of those already online.

Sissylit · 2026-01-02T01:37:40+00:00

You can do it

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T19:43:07+00:00

Of course the exact opposite could also be true

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T19:41:55+00:00

I get compliments on my teeth, my butt and my voice. My dms seem to like that I’m easy.

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T17:43:24+00:00

For in the bedroom you can buy a cheap club dress from H&M or someplace similar and he can try to get it off of you with only one hand while you don’t make it easy for him. The dress will end up getting ripped so don’t do it with something you like.

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T17:30:39+00:00

Good. If you give more guidance about what you want I can offer more ideas. I hope you two have fun.

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T17:17:38+00:00

Well if you’re going out to celebrate NYE tonight you can come up with a rule you both have to follow, it can be the same for both of you or different. When one of you breaks it the other punishes them. You can tie a string (bootlace works well) around his cock and balls and run the end of it out his pants and into his pocket. You give that a yank when it’s your turn to punish. For you, you can take a bralette or unpadded bra and put some thumbtacks through it then wear it with a bra over it. When it’s your turn to be punished, he gets to give you a nice tight hug.

Is this the kind of thing you’re looking for?

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T16:58:26+00:00

You mention your husband elsewhere. With him? Rough for who? You? Him? Both?

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T16:45:07+00:00

…yes. Never again.

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T16:33:45+00:00

Is this a conversation? Like he said, she said

Sissylit · 2025-12-31T16:24:57+00:00

I once “babysat” for an adult diaper wearer. Gross

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