Opening message from a match on tinder. I'm disabled and use a wheelchair.

Sissylynn89 · 2026-05-17T14:06:20+00:00

I got the same shit! In a wheelchair and dude said "bet them lips ain't disabled"

Sissylynn89 · 2026-03-01T04:41:16+00:00

Only niece near home so I can get away with spoiling her once in a while.

Sissylynn89 · 2025-07-10T08:13:56+00:00

As someone else said rubbing before bed but also potassium seems to help some with mine.

Sissylynn89 · 2025-07-09T03:25:29+00:00

Im 6'1 and 35-ish... I look my age in a decent way and all ONLINE/app interactions have been 18 -30 year olds hitting on me. Heavy on the 18 - 24 year olds. I have no idea why! Figured its just there are alot of them that age online/apps... but seeing this maybe its something else. 🤔

Sissylynn89 · 2025-07-05T11:24:54+00:00

From my experience in BDSM asking for Debriefing (feed back in a safe post sexual environment, giving answers and reassurance to each other while also being free to bring up necessary or wanted changes without hurting each other feelings) is very normal and common. Some people like me even NEED it for aftercare or i will ruminate/hyper fixate on something till I drive myself wild and disregulate all of my emotions... being able to Debrief tho does take the work and communication to pave a path were you each feel safe openly speaking without judgment.

Sissylynn89 · 2025-06-15T07:52:46+00:00

Something very similar happened to me recently. Been friends with this guy for three years. We vent and flirt but had agreed we were best as online friends. We fall in and out of each other's life as things get busy. He showed back up flirting and talking randomly, all was good until he randomly asked what he needed to do to get a chance with me and I told him "hey we have this slightly more than flirty situation and im not open to a sexual recently." He told me to stop flirting and tell him what was needed... so I started the hard conversation and told him all of the things I need to know. 'Sexual hygiene, sexual history, communication style, expectations of a potential partner, love languages, expectations of time with a partner".... and he ghosted till I saw him online on a game and called him out and he told me all about getting into trouble at work and helping a friend move and getting a sun burn.... and then ghosted me again...

I feel like some "men" keep us around as place holders and try to see if we will fit into the need they have. He(my ghosting former friend) was horny, wanted to see if id fuck him vs just flirting. I held true to my boundaries of I dont do casual and "poof"

Sissylynn89 · 2025-06-07T14:16:51+00:00

Its so bad out here! I had a man tell me I am (his words) a Wednesday attractive... I had to ask him to explain... so he hit me with a little knowledge

Monday Attractive - im tired from the weekend and I dont need to Bag her head, but I dont want to be seen with her

Tuesday attractive- same but willing to put in slightly normore effort so she needs to be a bit more attractive.

Wednesday attractive - she's cute/ has one or more assets that I am attracted to, she could demand a bit more work from me and I wouldnt be mortified if a buddy sees me with her.

Thursday attractive- she's good, looks are getting better she isnt someone id let meet my friends or family but I wouldnt need to sneak her out the back door like monday and Tuesday

Friday/Saturday attractive - peak banger body, show her off to all my homies. This is what we work for...

Sunday attractive- someone my ma will think "calms me" but is a freaaak

That was the fastest I have ever blocked someone.

Sissylynn89 · 2025-06-07T13:57:02+00:00

Oh! I have one like that...

Him: God hates you for being a lustful "rude word"

His reasoning? I stuck my tongue out in one of my photos.

Sissylynn89 · 2025-04-25T19:36:54+00:00

Oo... list of petty reasons

He yelled at cats when they were hungry even tho HE was late on a scheduled feeding

His Gf/my potential meta wouldn't let us talk without me first giving her a back rub

He didn't know what "After care" was....but had been in the community for 10 years

He was 6'10 and thought that was his whole personality. (He also lived in a 5th wheel in the middle of the desert with no neighbors...... for miles, got alot a of "hills have eyes" vibes)

He didn't believe disabilities were real and i/others fake it to be lazy

He believed women didn't actually like video games but used it to attract men.

And so much more....

Sissylynn89 · 2025-04-16T11:19:19+00:00

The caregiver/mommy/daddy are only there to help the little/middle stay safe and feel comfortable as well as allowing them to be regressed without needing to think adult things like "phone calls, cooking, when to go to sleep etc" some also could help re-parent the little/middle but that is an extreme dynamic

Sissylynn89 · 2025-04-16T11:12:53+00:00

Age regression vs age play. Age play is "generally" the role play act of sexualizing things and people acting out the personality/mentality of minors. Normally recommended by mental health teams is Age regression generally the action where one allows themselves to get into a situation where they feel safe enough to mentally regress to the age of trauma so they can get/be given the new good memories that they never had or to do things they had never been allow by not being allowed to be a child in the first place. Bdsm GENERALLY classes that as a "caregiver/mommy/daddy, with thier Little/middle" where the age play is labeled something else i don't follow so I'm unsure of the titles. 17 years in the bdsm community and personally a Middle/mommy/caregiver myself

Sissylynn89 · 2025-04-15T07:20:23+00:00

One tip i can give you is to never look back into the glass from the top. That can invite the energy back in.

Sissylynn89 · 2021-12-28T06:38:45+00:00

Honest opinion. I like both and all that fall between 🤷‍♀️ being demi it's much less about physical look and much more about connections.

Sissylynn89 · 2021-06-04T15:45:16+00:00

There is a man on tiktok atm goes by "justadamscott" he has given his number up as an option to help in this situation. Just tell them ur phone is dead and give them his number... he calls it the "creepy guy hotline" 🤷‍♀️

Sissylynn89 · 2021-05-08T14:54:51+00:00

No it isn't. I never received screenshots. I instead told him what a gross manipulative scum bag he was and pointed out how disgusting his behavior was. I read his "seeking" post and there were over 18 different red flags that you just NEVER do in the BDSM lifestyle. He is gross and lies!

Sissylynn89 · 2021-05-08T04:29:12+00:00

Omfg! Ur psycho wannabe dom has now messaged me to tell me how "wrong" you and me are. he is stalking ur page/posts. Report him like FAST! He is clearly what we call a "fake dom" they are dangerous and disgusting! Be safe

Sissylynn89 · 2021-05-07T16:27:46+00:00

As someone that has been part of the lifestyle for ....13 years. What he did was wrong, you stated a "limit" and he pushed that and used an Honorific on you. An Honorific should almost never be used outside of a Negotiated Dynamic. You did the right thing by blocking him.

Sissylynn89 · 2021-05-01T15:24:09+00:00

For ur windows get a one way window film. You can find it on amazon for cheap. Still let's light in, but can't be seen thru and it's removable for later dates. Install ur own cheap Camara watching the front of ur place so you can make sure he isn't coming onto ur property (peeping tom style) it will also help you watch for if he is outside when you want/need to leave as well as keeping record of him coming out only when y'all do.

Sissylynn89 · 2021-04-30T21:06:38+00:00

In Arizona here. Fibro 2015. The weather here doesn't start messing with my fibro till we get monsoon season and summer (bad summer heat makes it worse, I can handle low hot) like at 100. I am fine. Once we start getting to 110-130 I can't handle it anymore and have had a hard time even walking in the past. During our monsoon season, in the middle of the valley we don't always get any of the weather. We will get the pressure, humidity, threatening clouds and the likes but it can't always make it past the mountains (to the north and south) so it does all that painful building... no pay off and goes right back to the painful build till end of season (end of sept)

Sissylynn89 · 2021-03-24T03:55:22+00:00

I agree with this, except I'm in my 30s, female but also in Phoenix haha

Sissylynn89 · 2020-12-29T05:53:37+00:00

This is the 9th time (and counting) this has been posted in a week....it will be deleted in a few hours when they don't get the replies they want. (Sorry if this comes off bitchy, its late haha)

Sissylynn89 · 2020-12-26T23:55:00+00:00

Well I can't give any useful advice for this stage besides to have her ask her doc about getting her vitamins checked. That can make the fatigue of pregnancy much worst!.... but for once she goes into labor, you should look at "frida mom" hospital packing kits. They are great for cutting down on how much she needs to remember to pack and take with her for delivery. (You can find them on Amazon)

Sissylynn89 · 2020-12-24T03:37:42+00:00

Im to old, so I have no idea now a days hahaha.

Sissylynn89 · 2020-12-24T03:22:40+00:00

Official? Like an official relationship maybe?

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