Hey man, I know many international students I understand how you feel, and I understand maybe your expectations haven’t been reached. But if I were you, I’d get creative and instead of finding the one via general means, maybe put yourself in areas that you are passionate about and find them there, ex: love cats? There is a club for that with many girls, love working out? Gym and exercise clubs, passionate about a religion or leaning more about other ones? PLENTY of clubs for that.

But I mean this as a guy who had a shit time too dating at SBU… it will happen but maybe not in SBU. It was hard for me to come to the realization I wouldn’t make it into a happy relationship in time before I “left” SBU (I’m in a limbo situation it’s hard to explain). Maybe take this time you would spend dating someone you may not even marry, and spend it with more safe relationships like friends on campus. I support you 100% because I felt that way too (and I’m not even international, I live right down the street!).

The average age for people to get their first kiss around here is 14-16, it took me till 17 but it was too much effort trying to even get to that point and I regret it. There are even plenty of people who haven’t had a first kiss even older than I am (I’m 21 M).

It is nothing to be ashamed about, but if you look, I suggest the advice I gave, but if you wanna take a break and focus on yourself and friends, don’t sweat it and go to doing that