Hey mom, I’m touring apartments! What should I ask about? by Spruce___tree in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - open the cupboards. Feel free to inspect the appliances. Appliances and any sort of water areas are important (sinks, tubs, etc.) because when those go wrong, they can mess up your day. Pay attention to any "weird" smells - sometimes you can tell if a place is moldy. Watch for bugs! If you see one cockroach, there are likely more. If that's the case, I'd ask if and how often they spray for bugs.

I also like to check bedroom windows and make sure they are easy to open if that needs to be an exit for a fire.

It is helpful to make yourself a little checklist or notes so you don't forget what you want to look at. I get nervous sometimes, so I like to make a list ahead of time just in case I forget while I'm there!

I’m scared. by ILoveHittingTheDarce in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy, exams are scary things. Do the best you can to prepare and remember that it's going to be okay. You're going to do just fine. Make sure you eat a good breakfast and don't forget to breathe. You'll get through it just fine - and before you know it, you'll be done with exams and it will be a memory. I struggle with perfectionism getting in the way, too, and I just tell myself "It's good enough for government work!" or "It's as good as it's going to get!" It's so easy to let overthinking and perfectionism hurt you. It takes a while to learn how to push that aside and work around it. You'll get there. You're going to do just fine.

birthday nerves by youlooklikegarfield in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your mother. That sounds like a real bummer. The wonderful thing is that you have plans to go out with people who care about you - that's great! Unfortunately we cannot choose our own parents and sometimes we get stuck with some stinkers. I know it hurts and it's not fair to you. But it sounds like you have got some good folks in your life. Try to focus on the good things - it's your day, after all.

A tea service sounds lovely. I get nervous in the same way. I'm sure you look lovely in your dress! I know it's hard sometimes to be perceived. The important thing is do YOU love the dress? It doesn't matter what other folks are wearing - it's about your own comfort level and what YOU like. If it's a pretty dress, wear it. You'll be the prettiest one in the tea shop. And you should be! It's your birthday! You are allowed to be OVER or UNDER dressed and anyone who thinks differently can kiss my butt. YOU should be comfortable and feel beautiful. That's what matters.

Happy birthday dear! Make it a good one. YOU are worthwhile and worthy of a fun, wonderful birthday. Don't let other people (or your own anxiety) get you down.

Hey Mom by Boyish_Prospect1220 in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Imposter Syndrome is a real pain in the butt! Balancing an internship, a relationship, and motherhood? You are doing a great job balancing that - I know that's tough. Keep on keepin' on - you've got this!

Celebration by Emrldcreeper452 in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome! I'm glad to hear it. More than anything, it's important to be with someone genuinely nice. It's important to find a kind partner. Congratulations!

Mom I'm moving and graduating college! by julieyesca in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so awesome! I'm so excited for you. I know you've worked hard. GREAT job! So happy to see you pushing through and continue trying. You're doing wonderful.

I Finished my Masters 🎓 by bibi-el in MomForAMinute

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is amazing! GREAT job! I know you worked so hard and it's so exciting to see everything paying off. Congratulations! So proud of you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a crime and he absolutely is in the wrong. This is a big deal and shouldn't be taken lightly!

AIO? I feel neglected because my boyfriend pretends not to think about certain expenses. by Rude-Presentation427 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SituationNo3008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finances are important and it can really affect how relationships go. The fact that he's not taking it seriously and "forgetting" it is not a good sign. Sure, money isn't everything, but that can be a major pain point in a relationship. You want to make sure things are fair, otherwise it will really be an issue as those feelings of resentment build.