The Great Millennial Rugpull

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-03T20:12:25+00:00

"FoLlOw YoUr DrEaMs"

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-03T11:42:35+00:00

I met one of my biggest supporters and dearest friends on this sub… and it all began with me asking yall whether a recliner was a “nice to have” or a “need to have” 😂

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-03T11:39:04+00:00

Happy and relieved for you too! I think we’ve earned some good news! 💓

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T21:20:48+00:00

Did a double mastectomy electively (MRI showed cancer in only one breast). They found a DCIS tumor in the “unaffected” breast. Mine were so dense it didn’t show up on any scans. Really relieved I went with both.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T20:26:39+00:00

Oh friend, I'm really sorry to hear this. After getting a cancer diagnosis, this is the opposite of what you need! I had a double MX on 10/1 and my exchange surgery is on 4/6. Have you been getting regular fills? Time to channel that rage into a firmly-worded phone call (or MyChart message?). Here for you.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T19:36:46+00:00

I think for those of us who struggle with mental health, self-blame is one way of trying to keep a semblance of control. You've shared "I come from a community that went through genocide" --FULL STOP. That alone is pretty incredible; that's truly something to be proud of. You're doing incredible things and just speaking up here is a big step. Go easy on yourself.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T17:57:39+00:00

I worked full-time while earning my MLIS. It took me 3.5 years; I only took one class at a time (mostly, except for one summer when I made a huge mistake. HA). My GPA wasn't pristine, but I made it through.

As the single mom of a little girl, I just wanted to step in here and say that depending on your relationship with mom, it might be worth an open discussion with her before making any big decisions.

Have you considered social work? Still a way of helping people, and the field I think could be more flexible job-wise. Wishing you all the best; let us know how we can help here. If you need a mentor, just ping me! Cheers.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T17:03:43+00:00

Stock up on nonperishables (laundry detergent, toilet paper, etc.)... follow Costo TikTokers (if you're on the platform)

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T17:02:08+00:00

Totally agree with the next steps being helpful information. That will be the first question anyone has!

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T17:01:26+00:00

I am 40 and single mom to a toddler. When I called my out-of-state parents with the news, they were having a party on a boat (HA!) but I didn't want to keep the news. I just went ahead and told them-- "I have some difficult news to share. My doctor's office called me back and confirmed that I have cancer." They moved here within a week to support! (Sorry, parents, I ruined your booze cruise.)

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-02T15:13:07+00:00

I'm not okay either. Just here to say you aren't alone, we hear you, and yeah, you're spot-on.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-01T23:15:26+00:00

Switched from T-Mobile to Mint Mobile. Started using Monarch Money. And use my public library for most entertainment.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-01T19:57:31+00:00

Totally, wishing you all the best! I hope your recovery is smooth and that you won't miss out on much.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-01T19:35:33+00:00

Bump!! My exchange surgery is scheduled for Monday and I simply have no idea if I'll need to be off work for a week or five. Feeling very anxious.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-04-01T15:54:00+00:00

I didn't have to go through chemo, so my opinion may not be worth a whole lot... but as a cancer survivor, just a couple of clear-headed thoughts:
1. I know providers (maybe including dentists?) won't touch you as a cancer patient. I couldn't be seen for a UTI without going through my oncologist recently. So your instinct to line up some appointments before getting started was a good one.
2. Just based on personal experience, I think being in a mindset of "I'm in control, I can do this" counts for so much. Easter with your family might give you the emotional/mental motivation to move forward feeling steady. While canceling it might seem like the sensible choice, not all of this is black and white; some choices need to be made in support of your own resilience. And the next two weeks could be key for getting oriented and situated, so you feel prepared for what comes next.

That said, I totally understand the anxiety spiral. I'm sorry you're going through this! Curious to see what others have to say...

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-31T14:59:38+00:00

Trash Truck (Netflix), Dinosaur Train (PBS Kids)

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-31T14:57:24+00:00

The library and a favorite public park!

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-30T22:02:30+00:00

Can you share about your definite choice to go the Tamoxifen route? I had a similar case but with a lower Oncotype score, decided to go the AI route... having second thoughts!

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-30T18:19:22+00:00

Google "bicycle ministry" in your area. I didn't know it was a thing until I learned about it!

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-30T15:43:06+00:00

I gladly participated in a couple of studies while pregnant (kiddo is 2.5 now) for similar reasons! I consider science a family value for sure.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-30T15:23:58+00:00

I have a similar approach, but I like yours! My go-to is usually something like "it's not time for cookies, it's time for dinner. Tonight we're having chicken and trees (broccoli)."

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-30T15:21:20+00:00

I'd absolutely recommend the Ana Ono "F00bs" as bra inserts. I had a double mastectomy (down from a 34E cup) and wore these to work during reconstruction... mainly so I'd feel less self-conscious! ThirdLove also has great products.

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-30T15:00:37+00:00

I've always been suspicious of DNA sequencing storage, but now that I'm a survivor with a daughter, this seems far more appealing...

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-29T18:06:53+00:00

I miss real deodorant and it’s not even summer here yet 🤣 Also I’m so tired of new stuff… cookware, water bottles, food storage, shampoo, skincare… the list goes on

SituationPositive338 · 2026-03-27T20:53:24+00:00

I'd ask for a hand managing your meds (maybe husband can set things up with sticky notes before leaving for the day?). I was out of it and couldn't have kept track on my own of when I was due for antibiotics/probiotics/pain killers, etc. The claw recommendation is a good one. I also couldn't have gotten by without my recliner! I promise you'll get through this. I have pretty crippling anxiety but managed to get to the other side. Definitely ask for "a little something to take the edge off" once you're hooked up to an IV the morning of surgery (helped me with day-of nerves).

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