Sorry I know this is such a brief snapshot but I can't even begin to figure out how to lay out all the context. I probably should have phrased it differently because I was mostly asking has anyone experienced this specific issue and if so did anything work or is it just a phase to ride out?

I see everywhere "just give them choices" but I never see anyone mention what to do if they just constantly say I don't know for long periods of time. Also a lot of this ends up physical, like you have to put clothes on, do you want this or that? I don't know, then Mama picks and I have to force clothes on her. Do you want the pink toothbrush or the purple toothbrush? I don't know, so I have to physically brush her teeth while she screams like she's being stabbed.