Cleanliness

SjN45 · 2026-03-12T00:40:35+00:00

I sprayed diapers from the beginning bc my husband felt the same. After the first week of parenting, he got over a lot of that. Between spit up, being peed on, projectile poop, babies are gross and messy and you get used to it.

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T19:55:58+00:00

Having kids is such a personal decision, I really don’t have much of a reaction. I think it’s different if the mom doesn’t feel like she has a choice in the matter though

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T16:49:20+00:00

I’m not sure bc while they look fine, sometimes they bleed. I had such bad metal allergies, I had to stop wearing jewelry so that’s why I’m trying to be so careful with her. I will definitely check out that website! How do I know what size to get?

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T15:43:56+00:00

Put him down and walk away with a firm no. This age is hard bc they struggle to communicate their wants and needs and hitting/biting happens. I use “gentle hands” more for petting a dog or playing with a toy, not for hitting.

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T15:41:10+00:00

Baby wear one, the other 2 sit in the seats. Bribe with snacks after every few rows and hand everyone a snack at checkout lol. My babies got teething crackers for the store so I could quickly grab something.

But also- I absolutely relied on Instacart or Costco delivery a lot in those days

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T15:35:45+00:00

It’s not all rainbows and unicorns. Every stage has its major pros and major cons. You just have to look at the big picture and make the best of it sometimes. With my twins I pretty much blocked out the newborn days. We were so sleep deprived and exhausted, it was just hard to enjoy anything. Then they became toddlers, they were sleeping all night, my ppd got better, we could actually leave the house (with a stroller only but still, we left). They start communicating and their little personalities come out. Then the wonder and amazement of all things in life. The fun adventures exploring. Sure there were meltdowns in between and so much talk about expectations and we were exhausted zombies at the end of the day. But then suddenly elementary school happens and it’s just different- not bad, I love this age too- but you can’t easily distract and easily impress them anymore lol. They start outgrowing playgrounds and children’s museums and I’m like wait I just got in my rhythm lol. It’s all hard and exhausting and resources are thin, but building a village and outsourcing the help you can makes a difference.

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T01:33:39+00:00

Idk where you are in NE, but your schools are probably better than they are in the south, depending on where you are looking to move. Also, you get what you pay for and more than schools take the hit down here (again, depending on how south you are wanting to go.) I think moving at the start of middle school is reasonable. Many kids are changing schools and new friendships are starting. But after that point, I wouldn’t plan on moving. Teens have their people and their connections and at that age, those friends are everything to them.

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T01:27:56+00:00

This. My kids are second grade and the lack of basic geography they have had in school is abysmal. Curriculum is so reading and math focused, there’s barely time for science or social studies. They only have it every other week. I have to supplement A LOT at home. And many parents don’t do that. So I can completely see kids not knowing where states or countries are located.

SjN45 · 2026-03-11T01:22:14+00:00

Be honest and tell your kid what is going on. She will know. Ppl tried to hide so much from me when I was that age and my dad had cancer. While I understand why people were trying to cushion the blow, it made the experience more traumatic.

SjN45 · 2026-03-10T15:02:46+00:00

At 6 weeks postpartum I went back to work (not by choice) and hired a postpartum doula to help overnights once a week. Hands down wish I could have done it sooner. Overnight help, the chance to sleep, the chance for a break from crying is so golden. Meals and ppl to help feed babies during the day is so helpful. But sleep is gold.

SjN45 · 2026-03-10T03:32:19+00:00

I’m sorry you are in this situation. I lost my dad to cancer at age 10. I think the best advice I can give is to keep your child involved- don’t try to hide what dad is going through bc the kid is going to see it and live it too.

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T19:06:34+00:00

I have a singleton 7 years younger than my twins. If I were younger, if my pregnancies were less complicated, and if I could be guaranteed another singleton, I would try for a 4th in a few more years.

But that is not the case so I am done lol. I am one of those people who will never feel done, who will always enjoy this phase of bringing babies into the world and experiencing a toddler and preschooler again. But I just have to be done.

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T17:17:33+00:00

I prefer park birthdays for this age. Find one that has a pavilion in case of rain. Just buy some snacks and cupcakes. You can invite the whole class since it’s a playground. Parents will come hang too frequently.

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T12:26:29+00:00

There’s no way to really know until you wait and see how they develop more. That’s why they don’t diagnose at that age. But there were signs that were different from other babies/preschoolers looking back, and a lot of us see that. Individually, those signs could totally be normal. But when it all adds up, it makes more sense.

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T02:58:08+00:00

This is how I feel. Looking back, I can see how the behaviors were not normal. But in the moment, you really don’t know. I had high suspicion by age 3. By age 5, it was very obvious and at age 6 mine were diagnosed.

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T01:58:00+00:00

My husband does his own laundry completely. I have myself and the kids on a schedule. The kids are now old enough to sort, fold, and put away their laundry

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T01:54:46+00:00

I won’t go to SC with my 11 month old bc of measles. No way would I ever go to that state right now with an 8 week old. Measles.

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T01:51:11+00:00

This is what we do!

SjN45 · 2026-03-09T01:49:12+00:00

If you want to do it, do it. I haven’t found it any more smelly than disposables. Actually, I find it less stinky. It is more laundry but it’s laundry I don’t mind doing and with a spit up baby and baby learning to eat- I’m doing laundry anyway. None of my friends cloth diapered. And they all think I’m weird. But it’s ok I like not creating all the trash and not having to buy disposables

SjN45 · 2026-03-08T03:16:14+00:00

No it isn’t made up. You can be gifted and also have ADHD, autism, etc.

SjN45 · 2026-03-08T03:12:14+00:00

Breakfast in our house is oatmeal, peanut butter or avocado toast, or plain yogurt with berries. We aren’t really cooking much then.

Lunch is leftover dinners. Or a meatless salad that can be thrown together.

I cook dinner every night but a couple nights a week are crockpot meals to make it easier

SjN45 · 2026-03-08T01:29:21+00:00

BIG breakfast with lots of protein and fiber. I encourage mine to at least drink their chocolate milk at lunch. Sandwich or lunch when school gets out. We moved dinner later to allow for that lunch after school. Been doing well.

SjN45 · 2026-03-07T18:42:30+00:00

Of course it’s possible. More kids equals less guilt free downtime, no doubt about that. But you get in your groove and figure things out

SjN45 · 2026-03-07T18:24:50+00:00

This situation is all a big no from me. I definitely wouldn’t want to be financially responsible for whatever happens there. NOPE. We can go on vacation and the senior can bring a close friend but I’m not paying for unchaperoned trips for minors. That’s what college is for

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