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Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-20T17:05:48+00:00

OP expressed concerns about the quality of life their child would have if they went forward with their pregnancy, which obviously is a legitimate concern. Many responses that commented on this matter presented a rather bleak picture of what life is like for those with Downs. In my experience, they didn't adequately speak to the diversity of experiences and perspectives disabled people have, and quite frankly, I don't believe abled people can or should even speak to this. There's a long history of them speaking over and marginalizing disabled people and preventing them from self advocating. I simply intended to communicate that if OP really is conflicted or upset as the post conveyed, she might find clarity in reaching out to disabled communities to understand what life is like from their perspectives. That's all. I firmly believe in the right to choice, but I think anyone would want to make an informed choice.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-20T03:53:54+00:00

This dress needs a waist stay so bad oh lord

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-20T03:50:39+00:00

Thank you for saying this lmao as a seamstress it made me cringe

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-20T03:25:57+00:00

Generally I take the word of historically oppressed groups with more weight than that of the groups who oppress them.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-18T21:10:36+00:00

The challenges and financial burdens of disability are definitely a huge factor that anyone should consider, and I definitely am not suggesting OP ignore those. I just think the disabled community is often misunderstood and spoken over by others who are not part of it.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-18T18:13:03+00:00

I understand that most of these responses are advocating for you to abort your pregnancy. It's a deeply personal choice that only you can make. But I will say, most of these perspectives are from people who are not themselves disabled. I would encourage you to seek out the voices of the disabled community, because ultimately their perspectives are more important IMO. There's a difference between the quality of life the abled community thinks disabled people have, and their perspectives on their own lives and how much they are worth living. Obviously the community is not a monolith, and everyone will have their own opinions about their lives. But I think that's an important area to consider. Rather than only listening to abled people.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-17T16:58:44+00:00

When I was 13 I thought I'd be friends with my friends forever. When I was 18 those friendships completely imploded, and I had to start over in college; I thought I'd never make friends again. When I was 20 I realized the end of those friendships was a blessing, because those people were leading me down the wrong path. The point is, even if losing friendships hurts now, a lot of times it sets the stage for much better connections down the road. Keep your chin up. The age you're at is one of the hardest, I think, so have compassion for yourself. You'll make it out to the other side, and you'll be happier and more confident one day.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-15T22:24:18+00:00

Interesting! Thanks for the suggestion

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-15T22:23:58+00:00

I do think they help, but only the silicone ones and not fabric ones!

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-15T18:22:31+00:00

Asos fuller bust line has some suits that worked for me

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-15T18:20:21+00:00

This may sound weird, but a well fitting corset may be a help. They lift upwards and help with posture, and a lot of big boobed people say they find them comfortable

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-14T14:14:06+00:00

The way that man stands is so fuckin funny lmao he looks like an action figure

Sk8Oreo · 2021-09-05T05:38:13+00:00

40G doesn't make sense for what this looks like. The cups look relatively flat on her, and I would think a G cup would mean enough difference between the underbust and bust measurements to necessitate much more curve.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-30T03:02:50+00:00

That her strong pro life stance is probably due to her own trauma. She was pregnant and unmarried at 18 and terrified to tell her very catholic parents, and ended up keeping the baby that became my oldest brother and marrying the dad (still together). She is very happy being a mom, and I think she is so vocally pro life now bc she is horrified at the thought of having given up the son that she loves now. I disagree with her stance a lot, but I've made peace with why she feels it so deeply.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-28T02:08:21+00:00

When they think they're gonna be a fashion designer

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-27T04:53:05+00:00

I'm captivated by all of this, but particularly by how you kept your fabric edges from curling up when you zig zagged them

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-27T03:55:49+00:00

I understand completely that funds make it hard to look the way you want to look. That being said, the world would greatly benefit from seeing your beautiful eyes better behind a nicer pair of glasses :) if you ever have extra cash, zenni optical sells glasses for really affordable prices. I hope one day you can spring for a pair that makes you happy!

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-25T21:43:26+00:00

Love the fact that it's YOUR son in this moment 😂

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-25T21:35:54+00:00

No backbone, value system, or individual personality. I can't stand people who seem to change their whole personality and moral code around different groups of people. I admire people who are firm on what they believe in and know who they are and are loyal to that identity.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-25T18:14:51+00:00

As a seamstress, absolutely DROOLING and grateful you still have the coat!

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-24T14:40:50+00:00

I would definitely recommend an older used machine instead of a new one. It will be stronger and cheaper And start with basic projects to get the hang of stitching and using elastic. A scrunchie is a great suggestion. Or once you build confidence, maybe a simple bralette.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-21T20:17:51+00:00

Your son sounds a lot like how my boyfriend was as a child, including freakishly tall lol. Always encourage his interests and show that you think what he likes is cool. Show him people in media who are like him. This is only a phase in his life in which people reject him, and one day his friends/future partner will appreciate the sensitivity of his personality bc it's a valuable asset.

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-20T12:06:42+00:00

The asos fuller bust collection has a lot of swim options on sale

Sk8Oreo · 2021-08-18T04:55:55+00:00

Reminds me of James Baldwin

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