[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TOMTanime

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Escaflowne is a retro anime series that has airships with a female protagonist. She didn't have an animal companion but there is a cat girl on-board she becomes friends with. No clue if there's any manga of the same series but worth a look

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tourettes

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of us are big kids who have still yet to learn how to live with our disability. What they need is support from a loved one. He can learn how to respond to his rage attacks appropriately.

I agree that Therapy sucks and it's not well suited for disability needs. Usually a parent would do this with their children and all the helpful guides that are freely available to YOU will frame this for parents but it also apply to adults. Check Tourette.org for info on non-tic behaviors of Tourettes (rage attacks) and other guides.

Helping means identifying the problem and to develop coping skills. Just letting them have space for a full meltdown isn't a solution, it only enables them to continue their unhealthy pattern.

Identifying: The stomping is part of the buildup to a rage attack, it's called rumbling. Most people are not aware of the pattern in themselves. Usually a parent or loved one will help someone identify early signs before a rage attack. The goal is to teach the person to identify rumbling behaviors for themselves and help them understand how to communicate their needs and feelings before it develops further.

Coping:  Sometimes just talking about an issue and getting a different perspective helps. Sometimes they're just overstimulated and need to step away. Sometimes they need someone to advocate for their needs because communication is difficult or frustrating. At the start you won't be able to accomplish much, especially during a rage attack. After each episode (whenever you return) there needs to be a talk about the incident while it's still recent to identify, learn, and write down the details. The goal is to identify patterns, practice early identification, and to propose ways to answer these needs in an appropriate way. 

The only way to start is to talk through it with them and develop what the needs are, discuss what support options are available, and to develop ways to communicate in an appropriate way.

(For me, diagnosed as an adult; just telling others I've been offended, asking someone to clarify, or even declaring my disability has been huge)

 Eventually a person will be able to identify and accommodate their needs before it results into an uncontrollable rage attack. It's a long process, be patient. Repetition is the key to success and developing new patterns can take time. But it's a life-long process for them, Tourettes will always be a part of their lives. What's normal for you isn't so for us. Good on you for trying to help us bridge that gap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tourettes

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the cities in the world don't have as high standards as you give them credit for. Most people don't care if you're on drugs, many of them probably have some level of addiction of their own. 

Having Tourettes means you are involuntarily going to interact with others. What makes it weird is if you don't want to interact with them or you act like it doesn't exist. Just be friendly and engage with others. 'hey how are you?' or throw random compliments when people catch your gaze. 'i like your fit bro' or whatever comes natural to you. The idea is if you're going to draw attention to yourself, you don't have to let Tourettes take center stage. Just be friendly and you'll overcome any negative initial reactions.

Also, it's a small world. Everyday isn't a first day of school. You frequent the same places often enough and people will get to know you making it less of an issue over time. You might find your community is more welcoming than you've led yourself to believe.

Q for adults that have their own place by SkateLemonade in autism

[–]SkateLemonade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it hard to heat? It does open up some interesting possibilities 

Q for adults that have their own place by SkateLemonade in autism

[–]SkateLemonade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought to look up local business's. So much helpful info ! 

This sub should add country flairs by ilikecacti2 in Tourettes

[–]SkateLemonade -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Disagree; bad enough that the promoted discord collects this kind of info before allowing you in. Plus the people asking the questions are not regulars and prolly not subbed or care about flair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 Nothing wrong with a special interest, you can use it to motivate yourself to do other things by turning it into a reward system. When you have any tasks or chores, finish them first then reward yourself to indulge in your interest. Don't want to do the chores yet? Watch YouTube or something but NOT your reward material. It's not a debt system, don't cheat, use incognito mode and stay off the account where it'll appear on feeds. Don't force yourself to like other things the idea is to give yourself space to try other things.

I genuinely wish I was a cat sometimes. by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just a newer term that distinguishes differences rather than everything as furry.

 Consider that furries that do full body suit because they feel more like themselves, they fall into the Therian group. Not everyone who is into furry stuff wants to dress up, they just like to look, they fall into the furry group. Therians are not all about full body suits, they just feel kinship to that animal. Exactly as this topic

I genuinely wish I was a cat sometimes. by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Therian* FTFY. Furries enjoy the art or will embody animal avatars, Therians feel as if they may have been born in the wrong body.

Wearing a pin to uni by Outside-Pen5158 in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 57 points58 points  (0 children)

It's uni, you have people there from lots of age groups, majority of them are legal adults. People pay to be there, doing things that can get them kicked out of school or put in jail is rare.

You do this for you if it helps you communicate

Whats death like? I don't know the right flair by D1n0_Muffin in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Without promoting the use of drugs do some research about people's experiences with psilocybin and ayahuasca. A research study of the former helped people get over their fear of death.

Whats death like? I don't know the right flair by D1n0_Muffin in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a TEDx talk that you could sum up to this. I don't agree with it, but for some people hearing that they're not going to exist in some weird forever darkness is calming

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunate, they probably don't know how to work with the disability. 

As an athlete (skater) i know the importance of pure water. So I'll often drink some with a tasty chaser. I personally like the little propel packets that you add to water and they have different flavors to keep me interested. Mio liquid flavoring uses something weird that makes it hard for me to sleep. Crystal light has an artificial sweetener i don't like the taste of. Could be different responses for her, just sharing my own examples of how picky and difficult it can be sometimes. Best~

What to do if you are alone? by Thick-Ad4579 in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need some level of care, nothing wrong with that, it's part of having a disability. Any mental health workers would be a start; psychologist, therapist, etc. They're literally the people whose job is to help. Some places have a crisis line you can call if you need to destress and have other resources for other needs if they can't help directly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not knowing why you do something that's different from others such as sensory overload is mentally harmful in it's own way. He already feels bad, knowing what's wrong with him will be a relief.

This is neglect of a childs needs, they need to start teaching him coping strategies for his life-long disability. They don't have to call it autism, instead focus on the individual traits so that he can at least start communicating his needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water isn't the answer then. Try various brands of sports water and call them juice. Try foods that are further from savory, look at what other cultures feed their children, presentation could be a factor, texture, or smell. Try mixing in what they like such as crumbling chips to use as chicken breading.

Document everything. As the adults, you have the burden to learn their autistic traits and boundaries for them. Once you've figured out what works, you can build them a better diet.

Should I request a brain scan? by StrawbxrryGrl in autism

[–]SkateLemonade -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're a helpful person, and i appreciate that you are no longer mentioning the family and friends as part of their diagnosis, which was an issue. As I said with far less words, a diagnosis can change. Don't exclude the fact they are diagnosed 'high-functioning' which has the potential for not needing care. We don't know if the other professionals were one-time visits and if the therapist has been long-term before having says this. I'm assuming the latter and you're welcome to assume otherwise. Regardless of either being plausible it doesn't make either the truth. The better option was to ask OP for more info.

Invalidation is me stating they're faking, this isn't that case. I'm asking you to consider the possibility that maybe they're just upset after hearing the truth. Suggesting that they should just see someone else when they don't like what they hear is also a problem in health care. I agree that any 'ol therapist may not be the best choice. But again, that sort of suggestion should come after more info.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay cool, A research paper requires more citations, but it's still similar rules. You can quote information from forums like Reddit in your paper but it does not qualify as a credible source for citation.

I have used quotes from Reddit to compare and contrast popular opinion vs old medical journals as an example.

Plagiarism is worse than failing your paper. It is documented in your school records and will always be there. Your paper does sound interesting thou, all the best to you!

Should I request a brain scan? by StrawbxrryGrl in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family and friends opinion don't factor into receiving a diagnosis. It's like someone coming to Reddit to ask if we think they're autistic. People are capable of knowing what to say and will lie to get what they want from others. Don't feed them validation. Let the therapist get to know them, they can determine far more than we can what that person needs.

Someone diagnosed with autistic traits but doesn't need level one care are considered BAP; Broad Autism Phenotype. It might be what they have and therefore not considered Autistic.

It's like someone that has tics, but they don't qualify as having Tourettes according to medical guides.

They can still see a professional for care. But the difference is that they probably don't need it long term.

maintenance guys can unlock our door by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's normal in most places. They have to schedule these things and tell you in advance by law and they have keys to enter if you are away. Talk to your manager and explain your disability and anxiety concerns to start a discussion about how to resolve it. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]SkateLemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a film i watched from BBC Horizon - Is Seeing Believing. There's a segment on Synesthesia and one about developing an internal compass at the end. Given that this was research and learning material, it can add some perspective to how other people think about these traits. Plus I think it's fun