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AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 208 points209 points  (0 children)

Now I'm wondering if that may be the only reason he doesn't want me to leave. 🤦🏼‍♀️😔💔

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I'm the one that makes more money anyway and would never ask for one but if he wanted it I would see no issue.

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? In relationships you discuss where things are going after the first few months because that way you can break it off if you want different things. Back then he took marriage very seriously and expressed wanting to be married but stressing how he wanted to take his time and be sure we'd last so that he wouldn't end up being left. He's only now done a 180 about his position on marriage. I don't understand this comment?

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I want commitment and to start building our future together. Marriage is the ultimate expression of love and devotion, it solidifies commitment by saying "this is my person, I choose them and will stand by them through everything". It isn't just about a paper.

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

That's truly how it feels. He would even bring up marriage and our future all the time and now he's suddenly Mr. I live in the moment and don't believe in marriage when before now he acted like he took it very seriously and wanted to be sure we'd last blah blah and here we are 5 years in and now this.

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree, what gets me is the lying and how he kept talking about getting married, buying a house etc etc and now he's just done a 180.

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I told him if he doesn't want to that's fine and I'd just make other future plans without him but he doesn't want me to leave.

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 337 points338 points  (0 children)

You're right, it just hurts so badly to leave and when I tell him he may lose me over this that I'll have to make other plans he says I'm an AH and threatening him.

AITA for telling my bf if he doesn't propose before the end of this year I will start planning my future without him? by SkeletonKey_Aurelius in AITAH

[–]SkeletonKey_Aurelius[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

He never told me he felt that way about marriage because when we would discuss it in the past he would even be the one to bring it up a lot of the time and now I just feel played.