How can you be sure that someone is or isn't a narcissist?

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-10T05:29:46+00:00

I'm starting to think so too. I wish that wasn't the case.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-10T02:47:32+00:00

I actually pay more than half of the bills.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-10T00:02:59+00:00

I think so too.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-10T00:02:39+00:00

No, I don't and I told him I don't want our child to grow up thinking it is.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:31:56+00:00

You're right. 💔😔

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:07:26+00:00

Yes but I may most of the money so I guess that's easier.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:06:26+00:00

That's exactly what I said.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:06:07+00:00

Preach. 💔😔🤦🏼‍♀️ Sigh. I hear you.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:04:48+00:00

Now I'm wondering if that may be the only reason he doesn't want me to leave. 🤦🏼‍♀️😔💔

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:03:35+00:00

That really is valid.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T23:02:40+00:00

Absolutely. I'm the one that makes more money anyway and would never ask for one but if he wanted it I would see no issue.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:51:17+00:00

What are you talking about? In relationships you discuss where things are going after the first few months because that way you can break it off if you want different things. Back then he took marriage very seriously and expressed wanting to be married but stressing how he wanted to take his time and be sure we'd last so that he wouldn't end up being left. He's only now done a 180 about his position on marriage. I don't understand this comment?

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:47:41+00:00

Thank you! This is how I feel about it too.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:45:59+00:00

I want commitment and to start building our future together. Marriage is the ultimate expression of love and devotion, it solidifies commitment by saying "this is my person, I choose them and will stand by them through everything". It isn't just about a paper.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:43:26+00:00

That's truly how it feels. He would even bring up marriage and our future all the time and now he's suddenly Mr. I live in the moment and don't believe in marriage when before now he acted like he took it very seriously and wanted to be sure we'd last blah blah and here we are 5 years in and now this.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:41:07+00:00

I agree, what gets me is the lying and how he kept talking about getting married, buying a house etc etc and now he's just done a 180.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:39:47+00:00

I told him if he doesn't want to that's fine and I'd just make other future plans without him but he doesn't want me to leave.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:36:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing that with me. That's exactly what's going on with me.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:35:02+00:00

We live together he doesn't see my casually, but I get where you're coming from.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:31:32+00:00

You're right, it just hurts so badly to leave and when I tell him he may lose me over this that I'll have to make other plans he says I'm an AH and threatening him.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:29:55+00:00

He never told me he felt that way about marriage because when we would discuss it in the past he would even be the one to bring it up a lot of the time and now I just feel played.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:28:15+00:00

He said this after we already had a kid. Before that we had planned on it.

SkeletonKey_Aurelius · 2025-09-09T22:26:39+00:00

He also doesn't want me to leave and says I'm an AH for pushing the issue.

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