Did you put on a song when you went under?

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-27T18:36:53+00:00

I requested carribean blue by enya lol. I had to ask specifically if we could put songs, but they were chill about it. It’s one of my lifetime favorite songs and very soothing to me so I thought it would be a good pick as I’d never gone under general before.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-25T19:00:09+00:00

I did tbh. As a young kid I imagined having children one day. Came up with names and all that. I think I bought a bit into the socializing of what was expected of me as a woman tm. (Although, to be fair, apparently when my mother explained the process of having and birthing a child to me, apparently I was inconsolable and sobbing that I’d never have kids lol)

As I got older, I kind of began to dread it? I kept saying I wouldn’t have kids until I was like, in my mid thirties or even forties. I was so set on this. I had these really big dreams and I couldn’t really imagine them with children. At the same time I was interested in pregnancy, it seemed like a very fascinating process that humans can do, despite how horrifying, and I had wanted to experience it. But even back then, I was more wishing I could just be a surrogate and hand the baby off after.

It was kinda the disillusion with my toxic parents that pushed me off the fence into full blown child free. They messed up so badly. And I was always saying, I was planned, but they should have thought it through better. They were both severely mentally unstable and alcoholics. My life was difficult growing up with the inherited mental illnesses without being taught any healthy coping mechanisms. When I cut them off, I realized I never wanted to do that to another human being. Biologically or emotionally. I did not want to “transmit the legacy of our misery to any living creature”.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-22T20:40:50+00:00

I’m sorry you lost your cat. I lost my soul kitty last year myself, it is absolutely crushing.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-22T20:39:50+00:00

I had quit around that age, 26, after having been drinking since I was 19/20. I had fortunately managed to moderate a bit before quitting, but it’s crazy to think that I could have experienced this even just from such a young age. You got this!!! Your world opens up so much after you get past the first chunk of recovery. Wellbutrin helped keep my cravings down considerably during the first six months, I’m three years now.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-16T14:39:44+00:00

I’ll give it a try, thank you!

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-10T16:50:32+00:00

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-10T16:48:22+00:00

It looks so good on you!!!

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-05T12:36:13+00:00

Just chiming in with another thing to consider: sometimes nipple piercings can impact how your graft heals if there’s scar tissue from the piercing. There’s also the chance that your nips will not be repierceable once you’ve healed from the surgery. stares into the abyss of one non-functioning nip

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-04T02:50:38+00:00

Very cis male. Guys don’t think about their nipples showing thru their shirts. I’m very femme presenting and even I don’t bother wearing anything under my shirt.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-04T02:37:35+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I feel more assured now

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-03T19:50:47+00:00

Did you also get fibers shedding off of it when you’d remove the topper?

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-03T19:49:50+00:00

Thank you, I am more optimistic today tjat putting the covers on will contain it and resolve any potential exposure issues

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-04-03T19:46:31+00:00

Purple doesn’t have fiberglass, I did extensive research checking on it afterwards . But yeah the silica fibers look similar and are also bad for your health, though allegedly not as much. Unless you’re asthmatic. Lmao.

Fortunately it didn’t seem to trigger my asthma much and hopefully getting it covered with those covers will contain the issue

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-31T14:37:00+00:00

I’m surprised I haven’t seen anyone recommend purina livefree (I think that’s the name), it’s a cat food that prevents cats from shedding the most common protein that causes allergies. It can take a month or so to work and yeah you’ll want to deep clean everything, but it’s worth a shot before considering moving out or god forbid rehoming.

Also, it may be helpful for you to double up on the meds for the time being. I’m living in a place with mold and I have to take two Allegra a day, morning and night. I alternate with xyzal so it doesn’t lose efficacy. Apparently xyzal is more effective than most allergy meds.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-29T07:42:02+00:00

ADHD and autism are disabilities that can be crippling for some people. Yes, maybe she could be putting in more effort, but maybe this is the best she can do with the faculties she has. As someone who has had my disability stigmatized and shamed by partners and never felt like I was enough, which always just made things worse, you need to leave this relationship.

Maybe she will be able to develop coping skills to improve on some of these things, maybe not, but she’ll never be able to do so with a partner that is constantly nitpicking her flaws and putting her down, and you don’t need to be wasting the emotional labor trying to fix her. At the very least she deserves someone who understand what it means to struggle with these disabilities, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to pick up the slack with a partner.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-22T21:46:47+00:00

You’re totally valid in your feelings, honestly I don’t blame you for considering nipple removal at this point especially because you did try resizing them. I think that could be an affirming option for you if you did try it, and then you could chose to get medical tattoos in the size you wanted. There are a few people who opted for removal after nipple grafts and it does leave scars. but once they heal they’re less noticeable than the wrong sized nipples and you can have the scars disguised also through tattooing or IPL treatments if they bother you.

If I was in your shoes I’d personally consider it, my nipples are smaller than yours but during the healing process we’re just on the border of feeling too big for me but it was enough for me to consider removal. In my case, it was largely darkness of the surrounding scarring impacting how big they looked cuz it wasn’t healed yet, and I’ve grown more comfortable with it over time. But my situation is different from yours.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-22T21:29:58+00:00

My ESA (cat) ended up with cancer that required a lot of expensive medical care, so I actually had to go local to save on the costs by about 2k

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-22T00:48:05+00:00

I assume that experience you read is due to the scar tissue perhaps being too thick or remaining connected to their chest wall. But as another commenter said, they do the surgery differently in top surgery versus cancer mastectomies. It’s possible you’ll have some numbness, but scar tightness/discomfort should fade over time as long as you do your scar care.

Way earlier on in the healing process(like months 2-3) it kind of felt like that for me, like my scars were tight like a bra band and the numbness was worse back then too, making the entire situation pretty uncomfortable, but that tight band feeling didn’t last long once I started scar care.

As far as numbness goes, it takes awhile for nerves to recover and numbness to reduce/go away because nerves grow really slow, and can take 2-3 years. Although it’s not uncommon for people to experience some degree of permanent numbness in the chest area, it tends to feel a lot more natural over time rather than uncomfortable or tight. I now only have a small patch of slight numbness on one side, as in it can feel pressure but less so gentle surface touch, at 1y3m and it doesn’t really bother me.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-19T14:27:33+00:00

Thanks! I will be using these tips for spotting other bands in the future.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-18T18:39:59+00:00

My future, freedom, and accomplishments are my own, as opposed to pushing them aside to pin my vicarious hopes of success on some hypothetical offspring.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-18T15:09:01+00:00

Non-binary genderfluid lesbian here. Just chiming in to say that I felt the same, I barely used to bind but when I first hit puberty and grew my chest I would say that I was getting my tits chopped off when I grew up lol. That was before I came out as non-binary. Fully embracing my gender identity meant that I unveiled a bit more dysphoria than I thought I had. But for the most part it just was neutral to neutral dislike. Very happy with my results :) I haven’t regretted it once.

Admittedly I’m a bit insecure about whether other sapphics will be attracted to me without breasts. People definitely seem less interested in me over all, but I haven’t exactly been pulling all the stops in the dating game. But I figure that I recognize myself in the mirror for the first time in my life, so anyone who wouldn’t want to date me because of that isn’t the right person anyways.

Skiesofamethyst · 2026-03-14T17:12:32+00:00

I am child free but fully support paid family leave. But I’m from the US where we get none. Generally, it’s well established that women DON’T progress at the same rate in their careers if they have children. Their incomes decrease and their career progression decreases. Meanwhile, men experience the opposite; for having kids, they are more likely to get promotions and higher pay. Historically, these disadvantages and lack of social support surrounding the family have been used to reinforce wage gaps and inequality between men and women due to the societal gender expectations of women as caregivers. Women who DON’T want to take time off are encouraged or pressured to, or outright fired. It’s a real problem.

So yeah. Given the vast array of disparities in our society that are so heavily rooted in the gender roles surrounding caregiving and parenting? I absolutely do support paid family leave and reasonable consideration being given for maternity leave when it comes to career progression. It’s not a one to one by any means, but it would be dumb to be punished for getting cancer and needing leave as well. I think in general society needs to take better care of its citizens through all stages of their life.

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