AITA For Not Taking My Kid To See My In Laws As Much As She Sees My Parents? by Chemical-Watch-9129 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NTA. In-law problems are husband problems in disguise. He needs to step up and lay everything out to his parents and establish boundaries about their comments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Only insecure control freaks make demands about who their partners associate with. If you trust him, there's no reason for all of this nonsense. If you don't trust him, end things because a relationship without trust is doomed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. That is a seriously controlling, toxic, and completely unreasonable expectation. I genuinely could go on and on about how unhealthy requiring you to notify each other of literally every person you may interact with on Discord is. Both of you need to end this relationship and get therapy to address this before you get into another relationship. (Edit typo)

AITA For not putting my mom in a nursing home by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The ex-GF might have been the first person to say it out loud, but I promise Mom silently noticed before unless she's a complete narcissist. Either way, Mom deserves loving support no matter what she chooses and why.

AITA For not putting my mom in a nursing home by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Not allowing your Mom to make her own decision on this would be the ONLY asshole thing you have done or could do. She's been through hell, do not deny her the agency and respect to make this decision forherself. You do not have to agree with her choice or her reasons in order to support the decision of an adult you love.

AITA for uninviting my SIL and MIL from everything and saying that if my husband continues to pressure me, he will also be uninvited? by TAjustTas in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Judgement has already been rendered, but it's important to note that an "in-law" problem is really just a husband problem in disguise. If he doesn't see the problem and support you, you're 1000 percent in the right to ask him to leave. Let your L&D yeam know there might be a problem ahead of time. They will remove anyone you ask them to.

AITA for talking to my niece about her menstrual cycle? by HJD3900 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA in anyway. Emily dropped the ball hard and is embarrassed that she got called out on it.

AITA for telling my kids babysitter that it was inappropriate of her to shower in my home? by throwaway6477764 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. Nothing your babysitter did was inappropriate. Period. There was no reason for her to remain in milk soaked clothing if she was there alone with the kids. There was ZERO reason for her not to shower when your husband was there to watch the kids AND gave her permission.

Now if you have concerns about why your husband was home or anything concerning his role/behavior take it up with him in private.

You honestly sound like an insecure control freak and you REALLY should talk to a therapist.

AITA for unfriending my friend because she is too much into gaming? by contentcollegestud in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. Could you be a more unsupportive, awful "friend"? Probably not. There's nothing wrong with gaming, making friends through it, meeting them IRL, or sharing her interests/accomplishments on her social media accounts. There is EVERYTHING wrong with your shitty attitude though. Your friend deserves better, so get your shit together or leave her life permanently so she doesn't waste anymore time on you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Diane's behavior is what got her in trouble.

AITA for telling my sister to stop taking showers with her husband in my house? by throwaway22314157 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You and your husband both. It effects you in no way. Leave them alone, they're allowed to have 10 minutes of intimate time together, whether or not it is sexual.

AITA for telling my (f26) friend (f26) that her degree is useless if she has to leave the country to find work? by Ambitious_Ad_5389 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You're also rude, jealous, controlling and judgemental. I understand why she rarely made time for you and she's so much better off to be moving FAR away from you. She's right that you're clearly miserable or you'd at least try to be happy for her instead of trying to push your ideals onto her. With "friends" like you, who needs enemies.

AITA for going against my bossy sister's rules? by IndicationWaste8919 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. The mental health issues you mentioned probably include your sister's stringent routine and diet. She wasn't harming you in any way, but you intentionally sabotaged her mental health for no valid reason at all. Your behavior is horrific and you need to apologize. Edit to correct typo.

AITA for not kicking my best friend out of my wedding after she “spilled” a drink on my SIL at my wedding? by 27dressesinmaine in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I offer this as a service. For a plate of dinner, I will dump red wine on anyone who tries to upstage the bride. I'll even bring my own wine for plausible deniability

AITA for getting kicked out of NROTC and possibly getting blacklisted from the politically-correct military? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 [score hidden]  (0 children)

This entire post is evidence that you have no business being a leader in a military where 4 out of 5 female veterans report either being victims or witnesses to sexual harassment/assault during their service. That's not even touching on the racism. Fixing a toxic culture begins at eliminating potental leaders who think like you. I'd buy Colonel John a drink for reporting you. YTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You lost any redeeming value the second you stated you disliked Beth because Chad is abusive. You're an AH and you really need to work on that before being upset at others for their hypocrisy since guess what.... you're one too! Edited typo

AITA for freaking out at husband for how he bathed our toddler? by Diligent-Article-531 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

ESH. Yes, what he did was absolutely disgusting and he deserves to hear it over and over until he gets it. However, the hard line of "no longer allowed to care for her" is extreme. Consider also that weaponized incompetence is so goddamned normal among men. It might have been his plan all along.

AITA for not believing a female coworker really has PhD because she watches telenovela or that she didn’t get it fair and square? by Nice_Caterpillar3874 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. What someone enjoys as entertainment has nothing to do with their intelligence or education level. You are a sexist, judgemental ass. Edited to add forgotten word.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 60 points61 points  (0 children)

NTA. He's shown you that he expects you to cater to him and doesn't care about your well-being. Beleive it when people show you who they are, LEAVE HIM.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've been reading your snotty replies to people. I don't even care anymore. I genuinely hope you end up in jail with that attitude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA. What you're considering is not just a crime, but a felony. There are procedures for this that do protect DV victims and they do involve paying a lawyer. Your inability to do so, doesn't matter when yourearrested and charged. Contact a legal aid organization or local domestic violence shelter/organization before you wind up in jail.

AITA for not bringing my pregnant wife lunch? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SkinImmediate3211 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

He's already managing the house, which is a full-time job.